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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,Am I wrong for holding off on marrying my fiance? I am currenly 5 months pregnant with our 1st baby, and a week or two ago, my grandmother came up to visit us and insisted we go ahead and get married. But, my fiance has some growing up to do. A few months ago, he would get pissy drunk and want to fuss with me, and just call me all sorts of names. And I have just been holding off on the wedding. Currently, he has changed his drinking habits. He no longer calls me names, but Im just waiting to make sure all his bad habits are in the past. What should i do?
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (7 July 2011):
i would not marry this man especially if you are being pushed into it i would wait until you are ready no one else good luck
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (7 July 2011):
 No you are not wrong for holding off the marriage.
Just because you made a baby with someone does not mean you are required to marry them. More than likely you would be VERY unhappy, make eachother miserable, which would be a horrible upbringing for your child.
This man is the Father of your child, you can not change that. BUT you can still choose IF he becomes your Husband.
You are a legal adult, and Grandma is just going to have to butt out of the decision.
I would suggest you both work on the challege of parenthood, which will be challenging enough right now!
Best Wishes.
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