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30-35,
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writes:This guy and I have had feelings for eachother for four months now, and we're very very attracted to eachother. Were both 18.. and I was wondering if its all moving too fast and how I should handle the situation. I was at his house last night and we were cuddling and kissing on the couch. At first it was all just cute things but I find it very hard to control myself around him. Just being in his arms and kissing his lips makes me uncontrollably want sex, I can't help it. But I am a virgin, and plan on staying that way until I'm married. Anyways, as the night progressed, our kisses and stuff turned into full blown making out and getting extremely turned on, the both of us. He is still very respectful, he hasn't even copped a feel or anything and doesn't make any disgustingly ouvert sexual advances. All in all, it was mostly a night of lots of affection and kissing and being turned on and lovey-dovey. But I am beggining to worry that it's going to become all we are.I lost a bit of self control and I dont wanna be annoying by sending him a mixed message that I want sex or anything, so how can I strike a balance where we can both be lovey and sexy with eachother, while also still maintaining our friendship and romantic connection?? He's an 18 year old boy sooo..I dont know what to do as a girl.Help?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Well so far so good. It sounds like he respects you at the minute so that shows good signs in him, but as 'redathena' says he may not share the same values as you. So yes be upfront with him from the word go and tell him you do not want to have sex until you are married. If he has a problem with that well then at least you find out now rather than later on down the line.
It is only normal to feel like you really want to have sex when you are making out with someone because your hormones are going crazy and you are really turned on. If you feel comfortable with foreplay maybe you could try that out to satisfy your sexual needs and progress the romance. At least you both would be left satisfied and you would still be keeping your virginity. It is something you might want to look at unless it is against your beliefs as well.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 If you plan on saving yourself until your wedding night, tell him up front.
Do not allow yourself to be in situations where you might lose control and compromise your value. Watch how much alone time you spend.
Remember that he IS an 18 yo boy and may not feel the same as you do. If you set yourself for temptation to find you, it will accept the invitation.
If he supports your choice to wait until marriage, then set up some rules to support eachother on that!
Date in groups, no overnights, etc.
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