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*rndz4life
writes:hithis can be a bit long but i seriously need helpi had a breakup with my bf 7mnths ago...it was very painful for my bf who couldnt move on.. he started to blackmail me, threatening me ,send msgs, abuse me n my parents, give blankcalls at my landline at 3 at night..things eventually became better lasting for 2 mnths or so..these incidents were going on off since long time.. draining me out completely.i have very less frndz..1-2 to be precise. i never discused this with them coz i m very reserved type who needed by own space,keep some things personal.my one friend got to know of my relation though she had an idea which got confirmed. our friendship got affected we nevr spoke to each other fr 3 mnths..but then we sorted out and patched up..n became best of friends..i became open to hernow one day i got a msg from an unknwn no. stating i cant frgt u luved u..same threathening msg, blackmailing..my fear again came true.. i discusseed with my friend n she said nthng..after 2 days i git msg from my frnd stating it was she was msging in name of my ex n that it was just a joke played to knw truth again..n telling me to chill n just laughing about it.i was so shocked i never expected my best frnd to play a joke on my pain n trauma..n she is still relaxed abt it as if nthng major happened..she is nw msging me apologizing though there is no seriousness she is just like its just a joke frget it..but i cant forget it it wasnt a joke for me..what should i do???????be friends with her again??? which i seri cant.. i need an advise plzz help me its becoming hard for me..
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reader, frndz4life +, writes (7 July 2011):
frndz4life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks my friends for ur kind advise!!!! that really helped me!!!!
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (6 July 2011):
this is not a true friend true friends would be there for you to help you through it not play pranks on you that scare and upset you i would tell her that she has blown this friendship with you after what she has done and ignore all her msgs and calls she will soon get it that you don't wanna speak to her
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 Your "friend" took a painful, difficult experience for you and made it entertainment for HER.
Who needs a friend like that? Friends CARE about your feelings.
Perhaps if she saw you were deeply hurt by this, you could learn to forgive her over time, but since she thinks it is funny, it shows she in incapable of understanding you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): I understand it was very wrong what she did to you,but I realy do think she learned her lesson. I don't think this will happen again. She is your friend I think you should forgive her life is to short to stay mad at anybody.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): Your friend's prank was in very, very poor taste. Very callous and immature of her. I can't say I blame you for ending the friendship, especially when she still doesn't seem to grasp the significance of what she's done.If you don't want to be her friend then the answer is simple. Don't be. Just don't get into a war about it. Maybe losing a good friend might teach the girl a lesson.
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