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*ati_lozano
writes:So my boyfriend and I( 15 and 17) have been on and off for about 6 months. I never thought me and him could be together when i first saw him because he's all like handsome with blue eyes, and a super athletic body; he plays football and runs track. After 2 months of being together he kissed another girl, a friend send me pics of them messing with each other. he said he was an idiot, beg and cry to please give him another chance. I did. After all that we started having sex and we had a pregnancy scare. I told him about it and he said he'll stay by me and take care of the baby, but thank god i was not prego. Time passed by and we broke up, and he was messing around with other girls (flirting). So one of his friends which he is not a player, he's really sweet and respectful and knows how to treat a girl right.. came and asked me out. I said yes cos I thought he was completly over between me and my ex. so one day we're walking downtown and my ex saw us together, he got down the car pushed the other guy and grab my hand and said "i thought you said you love me" (pissed but crying at the same time)... me and his friend broke up. my ex and I started talking again and went back together... later on I found out he got wasted at a party and was making out with this other girl and asking her for a blowjob. I was so pissed and broke up with him then he was saying that he was sorry and the girl was the one coming up to him. and now we're back together and he asked me to marry him cos he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and im the only one he wants and loves.I don't know what to do. Please help me asap;do you think he really could've changed?
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reader, muso888  +, writes (6 July 2011):
no. He is a loser. Get away from him fast. And you've let him get away with it by getting back with him - i will bet you my life savings he cheats again within 3 months. Sorry sweetie - but you have to hear it. Dump him now!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 July 2011):
 You have got to be kidding me...holy moley. Some people have to have a 2x4 upside the head to clear their brains...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): No he has not changed. He knows that you will come back to him every time he screws up. He's telling you what you want to hear and you are feeding right into it. When I was 15 I had a friend that was engaged and not only did everyone laugh at her, but guess what 6 years later they don't even know each other. He treated her just like this guy is treating you. Cheating than saying he's sorry and he loves you...blah blah, blah. I don't care how awesome this guy is at football and his amazing athletic body, if he treats you like that then he's an ugly loser. Dump him for good.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (6 July 2011):
he is just stringing you along i would break up with him as for the marriage thing you are way to young to be thinking about that and especially when you have only known each other 6 months
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 You're serious?
This crap has all happened over 6 months.
OF COURSE HE HASN'T CHANGED!
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reader, missy_musk +, writes (6 July 2011):
 he is taking you for a mug my darling and to be honest your letting him. each time you forgive him for something its like giving him permission to do it again because he knows you will forgive him. and as for getting married. that wont ever happen and deep down i think you know this. Its emotional blackmail and it must be making you unhappy! your worth so much more then this and you will find a much better, more genuine guy that is willing to love you and not use you as a doormat! break free of this ugly relationship and allow yourself to be free and most importantly, happy!!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (6 July 2011):
 The both of you are way too young to be considering an engagement or marriage.
Both of you are immature and irrisponsible. You both can barely deal with a dating relationship that has some big problems.
Marriage does not make those issues go away, it magnifies what is wrong with the relationship!
You both are kids and have not fully BECOME the people you are meant to be.
I believe he is tossing out the "I want to marry you" card as a form of emotional manipulation to appeal to your romantically and keep you handy.
You both still have growing to do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I think he's being manipulative. I think he's saying what he wants you to hear and I think you are way too young to even think about getting married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011): It seems to me he hasn't changed, he's just scared of losing you. And he has learned that you'll forgive anything he does. I think you should walk aways but of course that's up to you. You don't need this kind of stuff, you are young and there's guys out there who could treat you right and make you happy.
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