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writes:im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that it would be a huge turn on for him for us to have sex with the lights on. Because it would be really romantic to be able to stare into each others eyes, and he would be able to see everything. however im very very insecure with my body, and thats why i like having sex in the dark, because i dont have to worry about what i look like. Although he told me he's already seen my 'problem areas' he says i have nothing to worry about and that he loves my body. but im very well aware that im overweight. especially compared to his previous girlfriends. id love to be intimate with him with the lights on purely for the romance of it all... but im to caught up and worried about my body. is there any tips or anything to help me 'hide' the flaws of my body in the light? id really love to do this for him, even though im insecure
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reader, kenty139  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 Just do it. He says he loves you. He loves your body. You are a beautiful woman! There is nothing wrong with your body. Everyone is different. Don't be scared to let him kiss you. Let him see you.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 First some insight: Men are VERY visual and LIKE seeing naked bodies. You asked what would turn him on right? He answered I want to SEE you.
Your bf chose YOU. You gave SHARED your virginity with him.
You feel insecure and you are comparing yourself to his previous gf. Stop and embrace your OWN kind of beautiful. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes.
Do what makes you feel beautiful. Use an amazing body lotion, wear pretty lingerie for him to remove and unwrap you like a gift. Play music that relaxes you.
Wear a blindfold! He can see everything! You might be less self concious, and it heightens your other senses!
You do not need to be under 6000 watt, security force lights..set the mood with candles or a light glow. Let him know you find it more romantic and comforting.
You are still new to sexual exploration and feeling vulnerable is nerve wracking. Work your way up to it.
ONE candle, soft light, relaxing environment.
He's not going to be looking for flaws, hes looking to be closer and know you more intimately.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (5 July 2011):
You'll come around, trust me. I used to feel the same way, was very insecure with the lights on at first, i was even shy to get dressed in front of my man, though he kept telling me how beautiful my body is, but as time went by, i got used to him so sex with the lights on and dressing in front of him isnt an issue anymore.
Just give it more time, you'll get used to it. Believe him when he says he loves your body coz this will boost your confidence.
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