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36-40,
anonymous
writes:There is this guy at work, in which he and I have been staring back forth at each other for a long time. We have spoken and few times and I feel that we are physically attracted to one another, but we would never get to that point. I wanted to keep it as a mutual relationship. I found out he is engaged and has kids. I don't wanna be apart of it. Since we have stared at each other for so long and he has a commitment with his kids and engaged partner, I stopped staring and started moving on with my life. Yet, after I stop looking his way, he is always staring at me, it's gotten really out of line. I believe he even discusses me behind my back to his engaged partner, because I saw her staring at me all strange even the kids, when they came to see him at work. I feel hurt that im moving on, but I know its best. Yet, he won't stop staring at me. What should I do? How can I feel better about myself and forget about him and move on?
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (28 August 2009):
Youve done the decent thing for you start and you should be proud of that, i know many would of carried on the games regardless. My first response to you would be to say something to him, next time you see him looking over give him a funny look as in a strange why are you looking at me and then look away, if it continues and carries on bothering and affecting your work id take action, simply get up walk over and say is there a problem? only ive noticed youve been looking over a lot recently is there something wrong? The more open you are the more honest hell be. However then i read on to find his partner had shot a look too, its strange that hed share something like this with her which indicates it might not be what you think, i do feel if you approach him on the matter youll get to the truth, youll know where you stand and you can get back to whats important.
The more this continues the more itll affect you, you did the right thing by moving on and trying to find a way forward, somethings not right id take action sooner rather than later.
Best of luck
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