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writes:Hi, My name is dapo and i've been in a relationship for just more than a month. I met this girl at a time when i wasn't even thinking of dating anyone but for some reasons, she stole my heart away and we started dating 1 week after we met. There wasn't enough time for us to connect,but we both had plans on making our relationship work. So the plan was to take things slow. we've not even kissed yet, maybe i'm just too nervous i dont know,... but one thing i kow is that our relationship isn't what u see in a typical relationship... its absolutely dry, no romance atall... so last night, she broke up with me because it isn't working... I really want to make this work... i really do like this girl, and i want to get her back... what do you think i should do??? shpuld i get her back? how do i go about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh God you guys are amazing.. i realy appreciate your advices... k, this is what happened yeaterday. we went out for coffee and we talked for a long time. i made it known to her how much i like and care for her. obivousely,she does like me too. but the only thing is that she thinks i'm too good and she donen't wanna hurt me. she said she is not sure if she can give back to me how much i like her. i tried to let her understand that its not a thing that happens in one day. its a thing that grows over time. you know, and we went back and forth on this issue, and i told her to think about it. Honestly, she's such a sweet girl and i really wannt her back, but you know, if it dosen't work out now, i'm sure it'll work out sometimes in the future (thats if we'r meant to be together).she still wants to be friends and hang out. we pretty much have a close group of friends... The only reason why i didnt want a girl is because of school, i'm just too concerned about getting distracted. but you know what, school starts tomorrow, i'ma go back and focus on becoming a surgeon. Although this semester is going to be busy for me, i'll still find time to see her when i can.. Thanks for talking... i appreciate it....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Just tell her how you feel, and start saying really sweet things to her, and maybe she'll take you back. Or if you keep on trying to get back with her, she'll start to think to herself that maybe he really does like me, and she'll take you back. Good luck hope everything works out ok
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (6 September 2009):
Its got to work both ways, you start on 'wasnt even thinking of dating anyone ... she stole my heart away' the girl obviously really liked you but because you werent looking for it you didnt give all that much back.
Its a case of dont know what youve got until its gone, so many people make that mistake, letting go of what really matters and realising it all too late.
Give her all you have, dont waste anymore time of living in what to do go ahead and do it, show her the real you, show her the love she originally wanted.
Youve questioned it so much, you obviously want her back so just go with what you believe in. Talk to her, be honest and open about what it is you really want, how you felt when she ended it.
The more honest you are the more shell believe in you, learn from thi not to let something good go for all the wrong reasons.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): If you want her back and you both liked eachother then show her the romance she craves. Take her out to dinner or for a picnic anything she would love to do. Grab her hand tell her you still like her and say you want to make things work and all. Don't be nervous about kissing her or hugging her or showing her your emotions as girls love that. If you still want her then arrange to meet up with her. Make her feel special and take things from there. Start of slowly with a hug. Go in for a kiss on the lips when you feel comfortable go for a snog (that is if your nervous) I say this to alot of people chase what will make you happy and you clearly want her so go for it.
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