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writes: My girlfriend of over a year recently broke up with me. She is 17, i'm 19. She said she wants to be single and date around and doesn't want to be tied down to one person right now, which I understand seeing how we are both young. I love her to death and I know she loves me too but the past three weeks have been the hardest of my life. She says that if we are meant to be together then things will work out but i'm scared that isn't going to happen.Any advice? she want's me to not talk to her and i'm trying hard not too because i know if I bug her and beg to have her back it will probably push her further away but it's so hard not talking to her. She's recently been dating another guy and It kills me to know when she's with him and it hurts so much more.What can I do to maybe get her to come back? Any advice to make sure I don't call her and ruin any chance I have with her? anybody have a similar situation?Thanks.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (1 September 2009):
Youve given it one last shot and yet again its been thrown back in your face, maybe she likes the game? maybe she genuinly loves this other guy, until she makes a descion and sticks to it stop playin to her tune, listening to her false promises that fade so quickly the next day.
Shes very confused about what and who she wants, dont get drawn into that its not your argument. Listen to the right side of you and start moving on, its most likely shell contact you again but remeber the hurt your feeling now when she does. She knows shes got a hold over you, break it and move on for yourself.
Theres people out there worthy of your love, willing to give willng to recieve, find one thats right for you.
Everyone deserves happiness, best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe stopped talking and she eventually called and wanted to meet up. she went on a date and it made her miss me a lot. We met for breakfast yesterday and went back to my house after. We hung out for awhile and things were so great. We decided to get back together and I was the happiest I have ever been...until now.
Today she tells me that she thinks it was a mistake seeing me and she realized today that she likes the guy she went out with more than she thought. My heart completely dropped when she said that to me. I felt so sick and couldn't believe what I was hearing.
So now here I am, confused and wondering what to do. half of me wants her back more than anything and the other half wants to never talk to her again and stop trying. what do I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the advice. It feels great to finally be able to talk to someone about this. I am going on one day without talking to her and hopefully I can keep it up. hopefully she will realize what she's missing and she will come back. Until then, keep the advice coming everyone! I'll be sure to stay updated. Thanks everyone.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (28 August 2009):
If i were you id let her have her fun, let her go life this 'new' lifestyle and see how far it gets her. You showed her genuine love and commitment for her to walk away from it leaving you with false promises for a future and telling you not to talk to her, if that doesnt leave someone confused i dont know what will!
Your young, you want fun too but your mature enough to keep the balance, of corse itll hurt when shes with somebody else but i cant help but feel she wasnt ready for a relationship, not an ideal serious one anyway.
You cant be with a person who wants different things, shes happy to keep miving forward and i dont judge her for that at least she told you the truth but theres no poin in you trying to get her back, it seems to me shes already let go. Its not about wruining your chances, shes moved on and living her ife the way she wants, she cant have the best of both worlds.
Id start and do the right thing for yourself, lets be honest throughout it all shes put her own feelings before yours why not try and move forward for you rather than back tracking and living on the what ifs.
I know im coming across as harsh i just can see you hurting before you do anything, avoid it and move on for all the right reasons. Maybe when all the funs finished and shes sitting thinking about what used to be shell see how good and genuine you were, maybe this will be a reality check for her. Weve all got this idea of who we want to be and in order to get there we let the good ones go, you only realise it too late.
Move on for you,
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): i am going through excatly the same situation, me and my ex split about 6 weeks ago, now like you, it was her choice to end it, i made the mistake of pushing her away even further by contacting her, crying to her, showing all kinds of emotion to her, my advice to you, don't contact her, because like you have already realised that is pushing her further away, let her come to you, you are both young and as hard as it is to hear, trust me i am 38 i know, if it is ment to be then it will be, you don't realise what you had until its gone, but do whatever it takes not to contact her, delete her number, and let her come to you, , don't beat yourself up about it, i stopped contacting my ex, recently she has txt me, e.mailed me and phoned me, when she do's contact you, because trust me she will, don't go rushing in like you need her, play it cool and let her see that she made the mistake. if it is ment to be then it will be, but wait for her to come to you!!!
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