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writes:Hi! do people ever forget their first love? is anyone still in love with their ex? is anyone still friends with their ex? please share your stories on this post! Id love to hear it an it would help to know im not the only one whose lost their first love! Reply to this Question
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reader, heartbroken20  +, writes (29 August 2009):
I agree in part with shiraz. Your first love was your first love for a reason; on the flipside, they are also your ex for a reason.It's been about 6 months since my first love broke up with me. We were together for two years. He cheated on me. I never suspected him of cheating or accused him of cheating; I trusted him wholeheartedly. He told me he had cheated during our relationship about a week after he had broken up with me.I don't think I can speak for everybody, but, in my case, while there are times that I miss my first love, I can't help but be reminded of the pain he has caused me, whenever I think on him. I have too much self-respect now to ever go back to him, even if he re-appeared and begged me (which would never happen anyway). So, I guess you could say that I'm over him and don't really love him anymore. If I loved him, I would care about his life and his happiness. I would WANT to be his friend and to look after him. Right now, I'm very happy that I haven't spoken to him in about 5 months and have no idea what he's up to. I hope I can avoid him forever.Will I ever forget him and what we had together? No, I won't. But that means the bad times and the pain, as well as the good. I have faith that I will build a better life with somebody else.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (29 August 2009):
In respose to your first question i think that you cant forget your first love, whatever the situation or however it panned out their called your first love for a reason and i think that that reason stays with you for the rest of your life and throughout your future partners, i know it sounds cheesy but i really do.
As for being in love with your ex its always an issue,i think it takes people a long time to get over one they really loved and theres no set time for getting of the ex or or certain way of going about it people handle the situation in different ways.
I do feel that an ex is an ex for a reason, a reason that sometimes stops you having a future and however much you love them the fact that you split remains with you both.
A lot of people stay friends with their exs, i cant say i know many and i certainly dont but thats just one example, it all depends on how and why it ended. As long as you both know where you stand and move on in your own lives theres nothing wrong with staying friends.
Sorry for the basic response hardly a juicy story!
Best of luck
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (29 August 2009):
No I dont think you ever fully get over your first love.
I was head over heels in love for three and a half years. I lost her and still think about her to this day. I still can remember what it felt like to hold her and kiss her.
You just have to place all of your emotions in a lock box so to speak . And just .. pretend it doesnt hurt anymore.
-iydm
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