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anonymous
writes:hey there, i think i am a man full of confusions when it comes to man-woman relationships. i am a 24 years old virgin never had a girl in my life, i think it is not bcause i have negative feelings for girls, rather i am a strong believer that girls light-up a MAN's life. I always want to treate women with respect despite what dating advisors recommend to be jerk with women. i know i may sound to be 'nice guy' but i prefer to be so because i believe as a human being women deserve respect. the problem is i think i am a bit shy with girls and i don't express my feelings.i have a good job and i can say i have a fairly acceptable appearance except my being skiny. Anyway, i always face a problem when it comes to women. There is this girl whom i met in office, we have been very very close, we used to talk about life, she is closer with me than any one else in the office, i show her greater care, her friends told me that she thinks that i am the best person she has had in her life, she even told me that i am a gift for her, here i also admit that she is a best woman she is innocent which i like most about her. the problem i am facing is that i couldn't identify her real feeeling toward me whether it is as friend or beyond? i need help on clues to identify woman's feeling towards a friend and when it goes beyond. I am so confused
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Firstly you sound like every womans dream, a man who cares and shows respect that takes a lot and not many men show that today so you should be proud of who you are.
Secondly its ok to be confused, i dont think anyones ever found relationships easy and straight forward at some point complications occur its only natural.
I personally think youve had most of the clues, her friends say she likes you they even described you as the best person in her life, if that isnt a clear sign i dont know what is! shes said your like a gift to her, thats special and you should work from that she obviously has genuine feelings and i feel you suit each other in how you think and feel. However dont make the mistake of being sure until you really are, try the simple things like talking to her after work, move away from the work enironment its more relaxed and open that way. Be honest, she likes you and wont judge you so tel her how you find it hard especially when you like someone, say how you struggle in seeing if they feel the same. Lead up to the point and then drop it in, tell her you like her.
Everyones scared of rejection, it makes you a lot stronger though, inside yourself you see more than before.
Youll get negatives and positives but if you want this to work and move forward start with honesty.
Be yourself and im sure shell apreicate you for that.
Best of luck
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