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anonymous
writes:I am 16 years old and always find older men (maybe old enough to be my grandpa) very attractive. Is there somthing wrong with me, or is this just my personal taste for men?
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reader, gRaa  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 i guess it's just how you feel, there cant be something wrong with you because you like someone! have u ever had a relationship or feelings for older men?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): When you say that you find older men attractive, do you mean because of their maturity and outlook on life, or do you mean in a sexual way?
My understanding is that in most American states, a sexual liaison is illegal until your reach 18, so if your prediliction is a sexual one, best not pursue it for a couple of years.
That will give you some breathing space to reflect on what is going on in your head, and if the desires remain as strong as ever - go for it.
There's nothing wrong with you and in a free country you may follow your preferences providing you are hurting nobody else.
As you have no doubt already discovered, older men have a greater consideration towards women and will treat you well, putting your needs first and treating you like a lady.
Age and experience count in bed, too, but please - I urge you to wait until you explore that aspect of mature men!
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (1 August 2009):
Women who reach out to older man for love support and comfort are usally attracted to them for a replacement, everyone has a male figure in their life but sometimes things go wrong and you find yourself looking for one elsewhere. At your age it shouldnt just be your taste in men, men reaching your grandads age is slightyly worrying.
Ask yourself why you feel more attracted to them then of younger men your own age? Whats the reason?
Really think it through and find your solution, your attractions wont just stop but i feel that with answers and age it will fade. Its difficult but if you know somebody who you trust and can rely on try talking it through with them, if not carry on posting you problems here as theres always somebody in a similar situation if not worse that can help you through. Talking about it might give you the answers you need, theres not anything wrong with you your just slightly lost for a certain reason and its lead you to this point, its not a forever thing so please dont worry as soon as you gain more responses and a better understanding you will find your way forward and leave this stage of your life behind,
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): In and of itself? No. You obv shouldn't doing anything with them, but liking is them is no big deal as long as your looking to boys/girls your own age for relationships and whatnot.
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