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writes:My boyfriend keeps telling me I don't open up to him. I know I have a problem with this..I have to get councled for this and a few other problems I've encountered. He dosen't understand how hard it is for me, considering the fact that I don't even like to cry in front of others let alone spill my guts out about my emotions and feelings. I want to make this work by being more open to him, he trusts me and all don't get me wrong he just feels I hold alot inside. His heart is in the right place, he just dosen't understand that just by telling someone to open up, dosen't mean its that simple. I don't exactly know how to "open" up to someone, how do you go about doing this? I feel like I'm only making things worse..please if anyone knows what I'm going through, some advice would surely be appreciated..God bless (: Reply to this Question
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (30 August 2009):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you very much:) I'm gonn work on confiding in him more, not that I don't. Its just so difficult :( Hopefully I can be able to express myself more emotionally to him
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (29 August 2009):
You sound really brave, a lot of people who holdback are sensitive on the subject and many live in denial, at least youve admitted it is how it is.
Always remeber your bf loves you for who you are, he fell in love with you and he takes all that comes with that, hes only asking you to open up so that you can bcome closer and so that he can help in some way. I think its lovely that hes taking it so seriously, he obviously has a lot of respect toward you and your feelings.
I dont think theres a set way of opening up to someone, it either comes naturally or it doesnt, some people who hold things inside for so long find relief in finally sharing their thoughts and worries with a loved one.
You trust him so start communicating with him tell him how your feeling and why, say how much you love him how much you want to tell him things and how much it means to you that he cares its just you struggle in emotions and you sheild them from everyone and everything.
He, as your bf, wants to be the one you share things with, he wants to love and support you to get that bond, try and meet him half way with your honesty.
Once he knows youve confided in him in how hard you find talking about it hell have massess of respect in that you told him in the fist place, that in itself will mean so much.
Your not making things worse, your being yourself and thats all anyone can ask for, stick with beng honest and work on being open with him. Keep up the councelling im sure youll see a difference in the end as long as you follow it through, it can be a tough process but your very lucky in that you have the love of such a genuine guy to help get you through.
Best of luck
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