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writes:Theres this guy that I really like. I mean butterflies, the whole 9 yards. I dont think I've ever felt this way about anyone to be honest.Heres my problem. First of all, he lives in another state. Secondly he is in a band [but not a typical rock band...no groupies and stuff]. We've only seen eachother in person twice now and its been at shows. And we've talked on the phone a little, he's very busy. And have emailed too. The second time we hung out, I got such good vibes. We talked about all kinds of things, he asked me all kinds of questions and he kissed me, twice! We have more then a few things in common. There was defintley something there...But I'm getting mixed signals from him now. I guess my question is how can I let him know I really like him without scaring him off? I dont want to play any games, I just want to let him know how I feel and get it out there but without scaring him. And if he dont feel the same, at least I'll know and can stop tourturing myself over it. What should I say to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much Original shiraz! Your answer was detailed and what I was looking for, I totally appreicate you responding.An update: Well the day after our second time together, I called him but got his voicemail. Well he called about 3 days after that and I didnt even know! I missed his call and then he left a msg on the net the day after he called and he also called again! So we finally talked, it was only for a short time but he said he'd call back. So I waited but he didnt call when he said he would so when I got home today, I seen his missed call! We talked and he wants to see me again so he asked when I was coming out to where he lived! Hopefully this is all a good sign:) Thanks again for your encouraging words! When we see each other, it will probably be about a month or so, Im definitely going to just tell him how I feel.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (25 August 2009):
The best thing you could do is be honest with him, i see why your afriad of being so open but if you never say then youll never know and livin in the what ifs is a lot worse than living in the o he didnt feel the same, you need to know where you stand and how hes feeling.
I see you both have work commitments etc but if you like him enough and the feelings mututual i dont see why it wouldnt work, as long as you both put as much as you can into it, sometimes when you want something enough you give it all you have even if your not sure its going to go the way you want, sounds complicated but i hope you grasp the basics of what im trying to say.
I think your gettin mixed signals because you dont know him well enough and obviously the distance will take its toll, why no ease your way into it? spend more time with him, get to know him and then let him know how you feel. That way youve givin it time and youll get more of an idea as to him as ap person the way he lives his life etc.
Every relationship faces difficulties even before it properly begins! Youve just got to ride the storm and find the sunny ending! If you want it enough then im sure youll get there.
You wont loose out by telling him the truth but you will if you hold back so much, get to know him and in time start being honest and open about what you want. Leave it too long and itll be gone, dont miss the moment.
Best of luck
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