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What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 31 July 2010: It used to mean a vibrator in the anus and a penis in the vagina so both could experience the vibrations. It "morphed' into having sex with two men in the 70's normally orally and anally(that was the "rage" in that era of porn movies) Lately it's ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm?
Q. How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm? My bf really gets turned on by this (and no, he has never asked me to learn or anything, I want to try to learn on my own). We are both in our middle 20s and have been dateing for over 2 years, and are ...
A. 28 July 2010: Thank you gals for letting me finally believe it is true. I thought it was a trick of the camera on porn sites. It really is the biggest turn on a man can have .i'm just satisfied to know it's a real thing. thanks again. R... (read in full...)
After his cheating, I forgave him. But why can't I get over these thoughts of mistrust?
Q. I feel like ever since I caught my boyfriend flirting with some girl on facebook who happen to be in his class who he was planning on meet up with, I feel like I can't really trust him...but I love him alot...and I forgave him...We moved on from ...
A. 28 July 2010: Yeah, Trust is one of those things that's hard to re-establish Work on it for as long as you can. Time heals this stuff.... (read in full...)
How can I approach her?
Q. Recently a girl I have been friendly with told me that she really liked me. I was surprised but delighted as I have liked her for a good while, but I am a bit shy. A few days later when we met again I told her that I really liked her as well. Ever ...
A. 28 July 2010: Oh the "dance of first crush' how i miss that feeling. You need to cherish every second of this anx tell her you think she's cute and ask her to a movie or to go get a soft drink after school. Most of all keep a mental diary, Memories are all ... (read in full...)
My husband is lying about his porn emails!
Q. I have found items on my husbands email that are porn. I asked him about this and he sweetly told me I was wrong that he ordered some inhancment drug and started getting these after that. But I found an email for an account before. I am so upset. I ...
A. 28 July 2010: seeing how you're alresdy sneaking looks into his emails..i assume you already have a trust issue and are planning a split up. it is just a matter of time.... (read in full...)
Normal to have hair around the nipple area? I'm very self-conscious about it.
Q. I have a lot of hair growing around my nipple areas. I am very self-conscious about it. My boyfriend has noticed them before but he says it doesnt bother him. I try to pluck as much off without letting him see them. It's so annoying though to keep ...
A. 28 July 2010: my first girlfriend had one on her right nipple, we named it freddy and had a good laugh with it...ain't no big deal!... (read in full...)
Why don't my orgasms feel that incredible?
Q. Basically im 14 and i masturbate fairly regualarly, never more than once a day; probably about once or twice a week. It's just that whenever i masturbate the semen comes out etc etc and i guess i have a kind of orgasm that feels alright, but it's ...
A. 27 July 2010: do what brownwolf wrote and you'll understand what tantric sex training is all about and your sex life will improv.... (read in full...)
What is a multiple orgasm?
Q. this is 4 all u woman, can some1 please tell me wot a multiple orgasim is? coz iv never had 1.infact 1 orgasim is enough 4 me.keep on playin with the area and its way 2 sensetive and starts 2 hurt....
A. 27 July 2010: I am gender deprived and jealous as all get out... (read in full...)
LIVE porn???
Q. I finally got used to the idea of my boyfriend of two years regularly looking at porn without me. However, I have seen in his internet history that he now looks at porn-live, where he can chat with and have live 'porn' with the girls of his cho...
A. 27 July 2010: Nope!, not the same, interactive porn is inches away from going out to "get some" Better beware and stop this in its infancy if you can.... (read in full...)
Her dildos are bigger than I am
Q. My girlfriend and i have been living together for about 3 months now.I recently found 2 dildos she had hidden in our closet.She hasn't told me about them.They are both larger than me in size.What should i do?I dont know how i should feel about it....
A. 27 July 2010: If you were to be able to purchase the "dream-girl" of your choice, would it have her same dimensions and if not should she be offended?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants sex and I don't know what to do?
Q. My boyfriend is 16 coming 17 and he asked me to have sex. But it really wasnt sex cause he licked me and fingered me and we did it in a ass. But he asked me to do it in the vagina and i dont know how to say not yet. i dont want it there yet because ...
A. 27 July 2010: tell him "heavy petting" is all he's gonna get until you are ready for further action... you are in control of your body don't feel subserveant to anyone.... (read in full...)
For the guys... what differentiates between a one-night-stand girl and a keeper?
Q. This ones for the guys... what makes a girl decent for a one night stand? what makes a woman ideal for a relationship? What kind of girls would you consider only good for one night? i'm talking looks and personality. And why do you think that if...
A. 26 July 2010: the "perfect' girl in my mind is the one that has an easy smile and a soft heart. can she cook? who cares if she can make you laugh food is not important... (read in full...)
Why are men so obsessed with breasts but hardly notice them during sex?
Q. Why are men so obsessed with breasts when during sex, they don't even spend that much time on them. lol Just curious!...
A. 24 July 2010: Your question is alien to me... I have never ignored them during foreplay of during or after... Your guy must be VERY inexperienced or just uneducated as to the art of lovemaking. Sorry but you may have a bum one on your hands try using some ... (read in full...)
Don't want to jack-off! Need advice!
Q. What can I do when I get realllly hard? I don't want to jackoff! I need advice!...
A. 24 July 2010: My advice is do what every other person on the planet does when aroussed-masturbate.... (read in full...)
Can pre-cum make her pregnant?
Q. my girlfriend says she thinks she is pregnant and she is have all symtoms in after two days it that possible? i didnt cum in her but precumed in her can someone get preg from that? Moderators note - Have re written the question as the spelling...
A. 24 July 2010: yes, pre cum is full of the little swimmers too. 2 days is too short of a time to even feel prego tho.... (read in full...)
Do guys like to date plain-looking female virgins or am I doomed?
Q. Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are ...
A. 24 July 2010: Doomed is an interesting word selection. many women strive for what we used to call "old maid' status. Look if you want find a man and get married that's easy. laugh at the world around you and have an easy smile aroud men. A frown or scowl is a ... (read in full...)
What's preferrable: big boobs or small boobs?
Q. So, what do guys prefer?? big boobs or small boobs?? Personally ive got big boobs so knw how guys react to them. But really wats better?? xxx...
A. 24 July 2010: Boobs are nice in all sizes. What it comes down to is heart size and if that makes the boobs bigger then good deal. but an easy smile and a warm heart are much more a turn on than any body part. If a woman can laugh with ease at most things ... (read in full...)
How can I stop watching hogtied porn?
Q. Hi guys i feel so ashamed of myself, is beacuse i always watch porn and i mean not any. i like to watch bondage and hogtied which it makes me feel like doing it and i like to see the girls going through the pain. how can i stop watching hogtied...
A. 24 July 2010: OK, dude. I normally "sympathize " with the avid porn fan but this fetish (hogtied) is just plain wrong with a capita W. You're right to recognize you need to avoid it because you might just act on those fantasys. This is the kind of porn that ... (read in full...)
His penis is not hard enough! It's like squeezing toothpaste back into the tube...
Q. Hi, I am an eighteen year old girl in the early stages of a relationship, all is well in all areas, including foreplay... However, when it comes to penetrative sex, my boyfriend can't enter me! It seems as though his penis is not hard enough! ...
A. 24 July 2010: a cock ring might work but if it dosen't, there's always the good old hand jobfor him and a lot of face time for you. penrtration sex is highly overrated and cancause pregnancy. You seem too young to start a family.... (read in full...)
I can only have an orgasm when I'm masturbating or during oral sex...
Q. I am a 17 years old female and I have had sex in the past and recently but I have a problem with having an orgasm. The only way I know I am cumming/have a orgasm is when I am receiving oral sex or when masturbating. My partner have told me many ...
A. 24 July 2010: Not uncommon at all. that's why most good lovers will go down on their lady to effect the orgasm. there is a device I've seen advertised that acr=ts as a tiny vibrator that can be afixed right over the clit during sex that may work...I don't know ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to stay with someone who does not have sex with you?
Q. I am 35 and consider myself attractive. I am witty, charming and smart. So I don't understand why my husband will not have sex with me. I am not a boring lay if you will. After a few separations I had lovers which i enjoyed and vice versa. For ...
A. 24 July 2010: I don't know if this helps but my wife of 46 years won't have sex anymore either. She "got relion" or something about 10 years ago. There are thousands of couples like us(Check out "The experience Project if you don't believe me) At last count I ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to perform oral sex on my anymore!
Q. Hey well me and my boyfriend are starting to do sexual stuff now and im new at. (the most iv done is making out but he had sex before) The problem is we agread we would start out with oral sex, but he doesnt want to eat me out any more. I asked why ...
A. 24 July 2010: I can NOT believe any male would ever refuse to "go down" on a woman unless she was very inept at hygene. assuming you're not, then you have the upper hand so to speak, no cunnilingus= no falacio. He's not mature enough to realize this act is ... (read in full...)
Husband Swinging Without Me
Q. About 5 years ago after 20 years of marriage, my husband started to talk about swinging. I thought he was kidding at first and he got angry when I siad absolutly not. We had a good sex life and had been faithful to each other. To please him I agreed ...
A. 24 July 2010: My wife and I did the 70's trip too. It will never go away in her mind...she has guilt beyond belief and it has nearly ruiened our marriage. I on the other hand put the incident in a cubby hole in my memory bank and don't think of it. It can eat ... (read in full...)
I don't like guys, but enjoyed this encounter, why??
Q. Me and my best friend sometimes watch porn together, but every time we do my friend always starts to get curious about what it feels like to have a blow job and things like that. I don't think his intentions were to actually get one from me, but he ...
A. 24 July 2010: Not to think too hard about it young lady, sexual encounters range from purely accudental to absolutely planned to the hilt. I'd just move on with your life and hold this as a cool memory. Memories are all that's left you( as Simon and Garfunkle ... (read in full...)
My live in boyfriend of 3 years watches porn online most everyday from what I can tell.
Q. Please Help Me ~ My live in boyfriend of 3 years watches porn online most everyday from what I can tell. We had a conversation about this 2 years ago and I told him it bothered me and he said he'd stop, but just went into hiding with it instead....
A. 23 July 2010: If he knows it" bothers you" then he should stop...But, you may ask why in the world it bothers you? images on a screen are harmless as long as he's not into stuff that is pain related like S&M then it's really quite silly to be jealous or feel ... (read in full...)
Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms?
Q. Do guys feel it when a girl orgasms? Do they feel the contractions, or anything else? Since I'm not a guy, I've wanted to know the answer to this for a long time. ...
A. 23 July 2010: i am a guy and i can say with pure certainty that yes we can feel it and it is great!!!... (read in full...)
Do women actually cum too???
Q. Just to let you know i am 16 but for some reason it hasnt changed my age on here:/ Do women actually cum? I know this sounds strange but my boyfreind asks me during sex if im about to cum but i dont know. if so what happens?? or do i just not re...
A. 23 July 2010: Like the others say, he's tryingto "time" his orgasm with yours... A mutual orgasm is intense so the goal is to try to sybchronize the event... (read in full...)
He's too big for me! Or maybe I'm too small for him..?
Q. I have recently started seeing the most amazing guy; however he has a pretty wide penis. It's a lot bigger than I'm used to. We tried to have sex the other night it didn't really fit properly and it was painful. I did not have this problem with my ...
A. 21 July 2010: Oh my I wish I had his "problem" My wife was used to very large boyfriends until she met me. Then there was this period of dissapointment but we got through it by findind out that oral sex in our case was way more satisfying to her and to me. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to watch porn every night?
Q. I have trouble looking at porn every night when I am supossed to be in bed sleeping. Is this wrong. I dream of sex like 12 times every night....
A. 21 July 2010: The morality "police' would call it wrong and "harmfull" If you enjoy it as much as most do it's not wrong just hard to find enough time for. I must admit it is addictive but so is breathing I guess.... (read in full...)
Woman and loving the "BIG ONE"
Q. A lot of questions on here about penis size, and most women say it's not the size, it's what you do with it, it's the motion of the ocean, bla, bla, bla. BUT, most women at least joke about meeting a guy with a big one. Some women love it. Some ...
A. 21 July 2010: All the women I've ever talked to about this subject (I'd estrimate 5 to 10) say "If someone tells you size doesn't matter is a liar." They all love the initial penetration of a big thick one. Sadly for me and my stubby brothers out there.... (read in full...)
I think my sister saw me!
Q. Hey, well here's the deal. When I was in my room with the door closed, I was watching some porn.. with my penis showing and in erection. I wasn't masturbating but my sis pushed the door, she didn't look directly and walked off. I'm traumatized that ...
A. 21 July 2010: Despair? Give me a possible break! Sisters are normally wired to embarress the heck out of their brothers no big deal.... (read in full...)
Can you have sex with a person for a long time and not feel anything?
Q. ? 4 men! Can u really have sex with Some1 4 a long period of time and Amd not have any feelings 4 them?? Whn u have sex with the 3or more times A week and the sex is the best??...
A. 21 July 2010: Nope for some yup for others. Those that can might as well just put a hole in the matress and save the heartache, If the hand is better than the girl then he should never have become a partner to anyone.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to watch porn every night?
Q. I have trouble looking at porn every night when I am supossed to be in bed sleeping. Is this wrong. I dream of sex like 12 times every night....
A. 21 July 2010: It's not wrong it can be a serious distraction though and girls(mostly think it's wrong. So cut back a bit. PLUS, some idiots think it's fun to downlad viruses from porn sites so your computer will get all messed up. My theory is some prudes with ... (read in full...)
The look the lips the tits the taste... the hair the eye the skin the waist?
Q. What do you think are the ideal measurements for a woman? Such as height, bust, waist hips etc. ...
A. 21 July 2010: I love the Anon male anwer also,... there is way too much attention paid to the female measurement as if the bigger the breast size the better the women. Or even the I like big butts crowd" If you have a loving personality and a good groming habit ... (read in full...)
I've never felt an intense orgasm with my husband and I can't figure out the reason why!
Q. i dont always come with my husband and when i come its not at all intense. i never felt intense orgasm with him. please help... cant figure out the reason...
A. 21 July 2010: I know I already replyed once but I remember something. Not all women even have orgasms so if you're hving less thab intense orgasms consider yourself lucky. I've been with women that can't cum and they try to fake so as to cover up the fact they ... (read in full...)
Oral: To spit or swallow... and what about kissing afterwards?
Q. This is an embarassing question. But do guys prefer women to spit or swallow after oral sex? Also should you kiss on the mouth after giving or recieving?...
A. 21 July 2010: The absolute best HBJ I ever had ended up with her ouking. But the next one she just asked that we'd kiss. I agreed and we shared the "load' I don't know where all these descriptions of "It tastes like Cr..." come from I found most unremarkable ... (read in full...)
I've never felt an intense orgasm with my husband and I can't figure out the reason why!
Q. i dont always come with my husband and when i come its not at all intense. i never felt intense orgasm with him. please help... cant figure out the reason...
A. 21 July 2010: Orgasms are a mystery even men have various degrees of orgasm.. don't worry about it and life will unfold itself as it sees fit. You'll have great ones and good ones . Main thing is keep on trying Or you'll be using your vibrtor on a regular ... (read in full...)
What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 21 July 2010: It can mean 'all of the above" just depends on your own preferences...Commonly it's two men on one women one at each end. but with vibrator is more logical with him at the oral end.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend want to cum on my face?
Q. Why does my boyfriend want to cum on my face? ...
A. 21 July 2010: It's just an intimate sharing of fluids..kinda like how you probably feel while he likes your lower lips and tastes your inner most fluids...same sort of turn on.... (read in full...)
Large labia minora....is this a turn off to men?
Q. Hello This is a little bit embarrassing.... I just wondered if anyone could give me HONEST answers as to what they think as i'm too embarrassed to ask anyone I know. I have large labia minora that hang down a little... i am so paranoid about t...
A. 21 July 2010: As a man over 60 that has seen up close som really long and some really short lips. I definetly prefer the longest possible. One for each check. An enormous turn on!... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 21 July 2010: "Porn" is is the eye of the beholder. Some Stupid politican said once. " I can't define porn but I'll know it if I see it!" "porn " is different things to different folks. Some cultures think holding hands is a horrible thing...Go figure? Your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to sexually assualt a man?
Q. i have a question and its something that happened to me a while ago that i have never told anyone as i just dont know who to approach about this.... I had been to a gig one night and by chance met an aquaiantance there...whom i get along...
A. 21 July 2010: Of couse it's "possible" but itdoesn't sound like it here. What country do you live in? Laws are different everywhere. Take her to court if you're even serious.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 19 July 2010: I'm afraid I wouldn't be much help in this catagory since I don't see a problem with porn. To me it's a "guy thing" that women will never ever understand so I pretty well guess you two will break apart Or you'll learn to live with it.... (read in full...)
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