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I'm insecure about my saggy clit, help?
Q. mkkay well can you help me! i wanted ta know is it normal for your clit to be saggy? and is it a turn off? i didnt let my ex touch me down there because i as so insecure about it! i want to sex my boy friend but im afraid he will be freaked out by ...
A. 3 August 2010: now you gals are starting to sound just like us men all worried about our size...it's all good!... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop to talking to his lover
Q. My husband finally admitted that he had a fair with female partner who owns a company in overseas.( They have been working on the project for last 5 years. The fair just started it several months ago when he was in business trip in overseas) I ...
A. 3 August 2010: his "fair" is not over and it is un fair to you i'd reccomend a good divorce lawyer.... (read in full...)
He's avoiding me because he doesn't want to take my virginity before I'm ready
Q. Hey guys! Well, I've been friends with my friend, Mark 4 about 3 mon. He liked me from the start but I didn't really like him til about a mon. after I met him. Our families went camping 2gether and we talked a lot and pretty, I think deep. But we ...
A. 2 August 2010: It sounds (aat first blush) that he respects you very much and doesn't trust his capabilities to hold back around you. I'd say you're lucky to have a friend like him.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is cheating and making up excuses not to have sex
Q. ive recently discovered that my boyfriend of 2 years is cheating. We meet through a dating site, and everything was great for a year. The past year, however, hasnt been wonderful - we get along grand, but hes put on weight and said he doesnt feel ...
A. 2 August 2010: I saw on TV that the "meanest way to break-up" with someone is via a text message. Do you have his number and can you text?... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and exhibitionist. Am I normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did not...
A. 2 August 2010: just think of all the other things you could be doing like amassing a fortune for your retirement years instead of pulling on yourself... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest a reason why I shouldn't walk out on my lazy, frigid wife?
Q. I have been married for 14 years and have got to the stage where my wife is driving me insane. Apart from going to work, she never leaves the house. She doesn’t have any friends, hobbies, interests or do any sports. She just spends all weekend and ...
A. 2 August 2010: Yeah, she would blame you...the rest of the world doesn't matter... (read in full...)
Does giving blowjobs make a girl a whore?
Q. If I like giving bj's does that make me a whore...? I give my bf plenty of them cuz in my opinion I find it fun, my friends say that girls who do it a lot are dirty... and even though I try to ignore it, it always comes back... is it bad for a girl ...
A. 2 August 2010: You are too young to be messin' around like that. but to the point...no not unless you charge for the service you are not technically a whore. Some might classify it as slutty though. I just think you're too young.... (read in full...)
Why my girlfriend does not give me blowjob after I accidently ejeculated in her mouth?
Q. I and am my Girlfriend engaged in normal sex for one year. One day she said," I want to suck your penis. " She did it and I felt not much because she had not practice of doing this. One day I asked her to ejeculate with her mouth. She took away her ...
A. 2 August 2010: Oh well, it's her call my friend. Some wome just don't like the mess, but some can't get enough of it. you just got to go with what she wants.... (read in full...)
Guys, how do you like to be turned on?
Q. Guys, how do you like to be turned on? My boyfriend and I don't have sex very often. He gets tired and because of his job and has a lower sex drive than myself. I don't exactly want sex every day, but I'd like to know some good ways to get the ...
A. 2 August 2010: The men I know almost all get reved up by nudity so reveal some skin;i.e. low cut blouse etc.... (read in full...)
My friends are sexual at 14 and they keep telling me to do it to
Q. ew. two of my close friends gave a blow job when they were thirteen, but all the guys gave them more attention, so instead of regretting it they have done it again, and they have turned really sexual at 14, i am also 14 but have not done any of ...
A. 2 August 2010: Peer pressure at your age can seem enorous and generally is. but for your sake think about your own values rather than those being thrust upon you. Just because "little Jenny" is out trying to satisfy all the boys in the town and chancing getting ... (read in full...)
I want to date him, but he thinks I'm a slut because I sent him dirty messages. What should I do?
Q. Hey Folks See, there's this guy who I like and want to get to know. Only trouble is that he thinks I'm a slut as when I am drunk I tend to send him dirty messages. and now he has made it pretty clear that he is only interested in sex. BUT,...
A. 2 August 2010: It's never too late to 'clean-up" your PERCIEVED image. Try to send him some sober messages that have been well drafted and re-read several times until you know your image can be restored. His perception sounds like a "knee jerk reaction" and will ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him want me and find me sexier?
Q. been with my boyfriend for a year, we love eachother very much, always cuddling. our sex life use to me so good, we had sex up to 4-5 times a week, sometimes 7 days a week (everyday) i know that in relationships sex will become less, but these past ...
A. 1 August 2010: Pregnant women are the sexiest thing in the world but I'll bet he's terrified (like I was) to ask for sex fearing possible damage to the baby.... (read in full...)
I want to wait to have sex but I have urges!
Q. What's the average age to lose your virginity? I mean, i'm 14 and a half and have been thinking about this for a while. My two best friends are probably the biggest players in my town, and i know people lie about how many times they've had sex but ...
A. 1 August 2010: A; you don't "lose" your virginity. it's either taken from you as in rape or you freely give it away. don't give this one-time gift away without serious thought. It's yours once1... (read in full...)
My bf isnt a virgin but I am...and it bothers me.
Q. ok so im 15 and my bf is 17.i do love him with all of my heart and normally we talk about anything, but this topic is just too embarrassing for me to bring up (though im sure hed have no problem talking about it). so hes not a virgin, and i am.and ...
A. 1 August 2010: What on earth bothers you about virginity? You should be a proud young lady and covet it until you get married or at least until you know it's the right thing. If he was proficient at skdyving and you were not would it be different? Don't fret ... (read in full...)
Does boob size really matter in attractiveness to guys?
Q. This sounds really silly, but...I'm 18 and I think my boobs are too small. All my friends a D's and big C's and I'm barely a C, probly closer to a B 1/2. I'm not a very big girl about 117lbs 5'6". So maybe it's normal for my size. Still my fr...
A. 1 August 2010: Not anywhere near as much as folks fret over penis size.It's not size that matters...it's frequency!... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 31 July 2010: Alas,miamine is right on the money. The questions men ask on this site are mostly misogynitic or steeped in low self esteem over penis size. i relate to the later but if you all have read my responses to questions of the misogyny nature you know i ... (read in full...)
Why is it mainly women posting on here and not men?
Q. Hello Aunts I have one general question on the forum. Why do only women post questions here ? why so less questions being raised here by Men?. what are the thoughts on this. I know it is complex question and not a single and easy answe...
A. 31 July 2010: Yes, God gave me my share of pain and heartbreak but it's not in my makeup to ask for advice... We men were raised to be problem solvers not problem cry-babies. trite? maybe but my response is as from the heart as I can explain in 90 words or less.... (read in full...)
My husband has E.D. and I don't want to divorce just b/c of a bump in the road! Please help me with my marriage.
Q. I am a 48 year old women, have been married for 27 years and my husband has never been a romantic type. but since he has been diagnois as a diabectic 7 years ago he has E.D. and are relationship has been strained. I love my husband, but i am not in ...
A. 31 July 2010: Ladies, come on this foolishness has got to stop1 Ed is a manufactured myth created by the drug industry. The commercials try to make it appear that the poor wife "needs" the stiff husbad. We men knowthat wives do everything possible to avoid sex ... (read in full...)
Two men - Should I go with my head or my heart?
Q. I am confused. I need to choose between two men. This is not an easy decision. My husband has been out of the country for 2 1/2 years and I haven't seen him in one year.Over time we have lost communication(more on his part I would talk and t...
A. 31 July 2010: my credo is to always go with the heart.... (read in full...)
Can I be in love with two men at the same time?
Q. is it possible to love two people at once or is there a diference between loving someone and being in love?i'm in love with two men. i just don't know which one is my "true love"....
A. 31 July 2010: I think love is limitless there may be degrees of love but one can love many people... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me how big/small his penis was compared to my exes. Does it really matter?
Q. My boyfriend asked me how big/small his penis was compared to my exes. when i said i didn't remember he said i was lying. so then i said fine, they were all smaller, then he was angry that i remembered what their penises looked like! why is he doin...
A. 31 July 2010: Well, the answer I got was shocking and Iwish now I didn't know 'cause they wre all twice my size but she's with me now so who gives a rip?... (read in full...)
Diary of a desperate wife
Q. Diary of a desperate wife This journal is commencing, right now, 7pm on 21st july 2010-07-21 Today, i’m pissed off and feeling sorry for myself yet again. Cant even work out how to change the spacing on this page. Today i should have had my tooth...
A. 31 July 2010: Sounds like a real "Leave it to Beaver kind of homelife. Have you tried going out and judst gtting ripped? it might give you the libeated feeling you ned to have to muddle through. THen there's always self help books on self-esteeme...No go get ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to a guy I'm not in a relationship with...how do I act with him now?
Q. I guess you could say what i did the other night was pretty stupid. I lost my virginity to a guy im not in a relationship with, he claims he really likes me, and we have had abit of a thing goin on for a bit of time now. However, im realising it ...
A. 31 July 2010: Well, the best "let down aftewords I remember getting was something like; "Wow, last night was wonderful but I'm sort of in a relationship.but I hope we can be friends.... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to let myself go sexually...I am so shy.
Q. I need some advice as I feel I am not normal, I have never felt attracted to anyone until now, I am with this amazing guy and we have been together for a long time and he has said he loves me and I love him in every way, he knows everythng about me ...
A. 31 July 2010: You sound like a nice girl that hasn't seen much of the world. The world can be very ugly and it can be very beautiful. Sex should be beautiful. If you read up on it you'll educate yourself then when the 'time" comes make sure you're with a man ... (read in full...)
Why will she no longer let me cum in her mouth?
Q. hello there, i find myself getting a little frustrated/resentful these days and have gone to counselling and been very open about the matter with my fiance. now i understand this topic may sound offensive or degrading to some women/men on h...
A. 31 July 2010: My friend I don't think I've read a mnore self-absorbed question on this site before. Look and keep in mind I'm a guy with the same fantasys all men have. If a girl doesn't want you to do something then DON'T DO IT! Get over your self and go jerk ... (read in full...)
I cant wait until I am 25 to have sex! So how do I convince my girlfriend we will be together forever so having sex now is ok?
Q. My name is Alex. I'm in this situation Where I want sex and she wants to wait until Marriage. It's hard for me to wait. I'm thinking I'm probably going to marry this girl one day, I Love her more than imaginable. We've never gotten into a serious f...
A. 31 July 2010: oh really now as if this is a new issue. if you love her you'll wait. in the meantime take matters into your own hands it is not a big deal. you think "being cut off " is tough now wait until you get married you stay cut off.... (read in full...)
I secretly masturbate but don't like doing this ...any advice?
Q. Hello, I have been living with My Girlfriend a while now but I secretly masturbate a lot. No one knows about this, I have porn magazines hidden behind the panelling on the bath in the bathroom and I masturbate to them sometimes. I also masturba...
A. 31 July 2010: It is human nature to feel self induced pleasure I wouldn't think about it too much everyone you know is probably doing it too, except apparently your gf.... (read in full...)
Blowjobs...What's my problem and what do I do about it?
Q. Ok, so I have been married for over 13 years, and have only gotten off by a blowjob once in my life and it wasn't my wife. I love when my wife goes down on me, it's truly amazing to watch her as she engulfs me, but for some reason I just can't cum. ...
A. 31 July 2010: It might be you have an elevated amount of respect for her subconciously and don't want to make her feel badly abhout herself. If she wants you to climax in her mouth, she'll let you know.... (read in full...)
Secret fantasy...
Q. Hi, I have been married for about 18 years, and recently have this fantasy of my wife being with other men, I get horny if i think of it. However, I am afraid to ask my wife about it. We love each other and have good sex. Am I crazy???...
A. 31 July 2010: No you're not crazy but don't share that fantasy with her. She will never get it and you'll catch a lot of grief for even thinking that. I can hear it now,' What! you think i want to have sex with stangers what do ou think I am/Oh, I get it, you ... (read in full...)
What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 31 July 2010: It used to mean a vibrator in the anus and a penis in the vagina so both could experience the vibrations. It "morphed' into having sex with two men in the 70's normally orally and anally(that was the "rage" in that era of porn movies) Lately it's ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so selfish wanting me to have an abortion???
Q. Hi, last week i found out that i am pregnant im 17 and my boyfriend of 16 months is 18. I told him that i didnt want to get an abortion, and at first he said he would be there for me no matter what and said he would move in with me and my parents, a ...
A. 31 July 2010: caringguy is right on the money! Your child is the ONLY Thing that's important in your life now.... (read in full...)
All I've done for weeks now is chase after him and try different tactics to get him back. I desperately need advice on how to get him back...
Q. Well mines a long story. Really hope you can help. This is th second split from my boyfriend of 7 years. The first split was in 2008 at christmas and alsmost killed me, i went completely mad and was totally heartbroken. I ended up moving miles away ...
A. 31 July 2010: Your hurt weeps through every word, however , at some point you must get a grip and evaluate your future. Life with a jerk that steals from you,breaks your heart and comes and goes whenever he pleases?OR Start over with a newfound hope and renewed ... (read in full...)
I wonder why he's not interested after having sex with me?
Q. I was really confused , I meet a guy in dating site its kinda adulthsite for casual sex. This guy is interested to get to know me persona, we share a lot of things through chatting ,I know his past relation were share things over the internet and ...
A. 31 July 2010: Posibly he decided that a more reasonble way to find a lifelong partner was to meet them in person first. I'm sure you are the bomb but he may not have felt arroused.... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 31 July 2010: Sounds like a good Return on Investment argument. I always joked it's the only licence you get that's not rewable every year. Hey, when you're my age you'll know the answer. A life partner is the best thing in the world. Who the heck else would ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how much our sex life is bothering me
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been together for just over a year. We only have sex about once a week, sometimes not even that, or twice a week at a push. I want to have sex a little more often (twice a week every week would be great), but my ...
A. 31 July 2010: I know a women friend that confided in me that she could be all spread out nude on the bed and "pleasuring herself" and her husband would come out of the bathroom and just walk on by. She confided in me to ask if I thought that was unusual. Of ... (read in full...)
Had sex twice, but did not feel anything physically, why??
Q. Hi. Well this is pretty embarrassing to talk about but I'd like to know if this is an issue so here goes... I had never had sex until I was with a prostitute a year ago. The second time was with a prostitue also, earlier this year. I guess I ...
A. 31 July 2010: pros know tricks to make you feel good. Rookies generally need experience. Not to worry.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend's feelings towards me change if he knew I liked lesbian porn?
Q. I am a female in my early twenties and I like to watch lesbian porn sometimes. I'd say I watch it about 50/50 compared to hetero porn. I'm worried that my (serious)boyfriend will think of me differently if I tell him I do. He likes girl on gi...
A. 31 July 2010: yeah he'll change..he'll want you even more.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to find your husband looking at other naked men?
Q. Is it normal to find your husband looking at other naked men, in provocative way on internet, and find myself am I married to a closet case? Sex is good, when I initiate, due to medications he is at times unable to finish performance...
A. 31 July 2010: Not strange,normal...when we men view por the first thing we look at and focus on is the guy's penis(how big,how erect,etc.)We are naturally curious as to how they could be so darn lucky... (read in full...)
I suffer from premature ejaculation! How do I satisfy my wife with this problem?
Q. 2 years into marriage, but in this two years i can not satisfy my wife. what can i do now? help me when i have sex with my wife i discharge within 2 minutes. pls, help me...
A. 31 July 2010: you can satisfy your wife with your tounge.... (read in full...)
What do I do with his "boys" while giving a blowjob?
Q. how do i suck my bfs testicles during a blowjob? ive never done it before so im a little nervous as far as what to do with them. do i lick them? suck them? and my bf says he enjoys the blowjobs i give a lot but i want to make them more enjoyable. ...
A. 31 July 2010: A real treat is to pushyoure tounge in between the nuts and gently explore all the vesels and veins real slowly... (read in full...)
Sex should feel good at some point right...?
Q. Here is my story... Well, I lost my virginity fairly late compared to others that I know. I was 20. Before that, I never was so into the idea of sex or felt that I needed it. I know this may be a taboo topic but if I wanted to pleasure myself,...
A. 31 July 2010: Of course it should feel good nay, it should feel amazing. You'll find the right guy that has the slow hands and a gentle touch (to borrow some song lyrics) He will thrill your body for you and your heart will sing.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend's feelings towards me change if he knew I liked lesbian porn?
Q. I am a female in my early twenties and I like to watch lesbian porn sometimes. I'd say I watch it about 50/50 compared to hetero porn. I'm worried that my (serious)boyfriend will think of me differently if I tell him I do. He likes girl on gi...
A. 30 July 2010: Yes I'd be even more interested or turned on... (read in full...)
I cant wait until I am 25 to have sex! So how do I convince my girlfriend we will be together forever so having sex now is ok?
Q. My name is Alex. I'm in this situation Where I want sex and she wants to wait until Marriage. It's hard for me to wait. I'm thinking I'm probably going to marry this girl one day, I Love her more than imaginable. We've never gotten into a serious f...
A. 29 July 2010: Sorry dude the "If you love her yo'll wait" answer is the right one. Surf the porn sites until then if you "have to" but she should come first in you life.... (read in full...)
What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 21 July 2010: It can mean 'all of the above" just depends on your own preferences...Commonly it's two men on one women one at each end. but with vibrator is more logical with him at the oral end.... (read in full...)
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