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writes:Hi everybody,I'm a senior girl in high school and i've never really had a boyfriend before. I've had some dreams about girls for 2 or 3 years and already asked dearcupid to know if it meant something or not. They said it's just hormones and my mind - i was kinda young.I went to Boston last summer to study and got drunk for the first time,starting to kiss girls,... Now,i have a boyfriend (it's been a week) and i don't know,i feel weird. He told me he loves me and i did the same.When we kiss,it's okay and i can't really say something because i don't have any experience in love... i feel wrong because when i see lesbians on a tv show,i really enjoy it :/ i still have those dreams when i kiss a girl,... -- I'm very girly and don't have man behaviors nor look like a man. This guy,M. is crazy in love,he's always texting me or calling and talking about future and how we could live together or something. Well,that scares me... and i've never had sex. So my question is,am i gay or something? or just afraid of having my first serious relationship with a guy? i don't wanna break his heart and i don't wanna feel guilty about breaking up with him. I'm sooo lost! :'( he's really cute! and my mom's so against homosexuality and i'm just afraid of being gay!!! Thanks fro reading,B.
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reader, natalieejanex  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 you are quite possibly a lesbian and it does seem like it from my point of view. are you physically and emotionally attracted to just girls or guys as well? or do you feel physically attracted to guys and both with girls?
another thing i would like to point out is that lesbians aren't always manly and butch. i know many lesbians that are girly and enjoy doing girly things, that is just kind of stereotypical.
if you are really that unhappy with your boyfriend, end it before you feel pressured to do something you don't want to. its obvious that this relationship is not right for you.
your mom on the other hand, she's gonna have to deal with it because its who you are as a person and there's nothing nobody can do to change your sexuality or who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone ! :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 how your mom feels about same sex relations is not relevant to the argument. if you are bi then your boyfriend is one lucky guy.
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reader, iLoveGirls  +, writes (15 July 2010):
Well, I think you are bi. But, there is NOTHING wrong with that. It's a good part of life. As you can see by my username I am very open about being a lesbian. I am 13, and I know its not a phase. I wish u the best of luck.
Bye!
--Skye
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reader, inuyasha12 +, writes (5 June 2010):
go for what you fell is right. if your mom loves you she will come around. be your self. i am going threw the same thing and im yonger then you. im 14. when was dateing my ex boyfirend and i told him. he said he expected me to be gay.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (19 April 2010):
 you sound bisexual.
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reader, JodieWee +, writes (18 April 2010):
 You shouldn't threat about it. Being a lesbian is perfectly normal and you shouldn't worry about what other people think about you. I myself an a teen lesbian also. Before I came out, I had a boyfriend too. We dated for two weeks. He'd say I love you, and instantly I'd say it back.. But with this horrible regret. I dumped him knowing it didn't feel right. It's not fair to lead someone on if they do truly love you. You don't need to act like a man to be a lesbian. I'm more of a feminine lesbian myself. I wear make-up and such.My mother was very homophobic toward me. She guessed I was queer because I was hanging around with a bunch of bisexuals.. I'd tell her how awesome they were and how I loved them all. She'd say something all homophobic-like, and I'd cringe knowing I loved females. After I came out, she accepted me for who I am.. Although she still holds doubt. Just be very careful because she may take it the wrong way and you will end up deeply hurt.I recently got a friend to come out to me. He's a boy of 16, and he's very feminine. He assured himself he was straight.. Until I asked him up straight. I asked him when he masturbates, does he think of men are women.. He didn't asnwer straight away so obviously he was thinking about it. If I asked a straight man that, he'd probably laugh and say no automatically. Are you fully interested in girl's? Do you ever think about men? If you do think of men, how you'd want to kiss him and such, then you are bisexual. Not all dreams mean you are gay. They all have a meaning behind them. I mean I had a dream that a snake bit my neck and someone said I was horny. Lol. In front of a whole load of people. I nearly died.. So you shouldn't use the dreams as an example.Any way, update me on how it is working out.
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