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I cant wait until I am 25 to have sex! So how do I convince my girlfriend we will be together forever so having sex now is ok?
Q. My name is Alex. I'm in this situation Where I want sex and she wants to wait until Marriage. It's hard for me to wait. I'm thinking I'm probably going to marry this girl one day, I Love her more than imaginable. We've never gotten into a serious f...
A. 31 July 2010: oh really now as if this is a new issue. if you love her you'll wait. in the meantime take matters into your own hands it is not a big deal. you think "being cut off " is tough now wait until you get married you stay cut off.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend's feelings towards me change if he knew I liked lesbian porn?
Q. I am a female in my early twenties and I like to watch lesbian porn sometimes. I'd say I watch it about 50/50 compared to hetero porn. I'm worried that my (serious)boyfriend will think of me differently if I tell him I do. He likes girl on gi...
A. 31 July 2010: yeah he'll change..he'll want you even more.... (read in full...)
Sex should feel good at some point right...?
Q. Here is my story... Well, I lost my virginity fairly late compared to others that I know. I was 20. Before that, I never was so into the idea of sex or felt that I needed it. I know this may be a taboo topic but if I wanted to pleasure myself,...
A. 31 July 2010: Of course it should feel good nay, it should feel amazing. You'll find the right guy that has the slow hands and a gentle touch (to borrow some song lyrics) He will thrill your body for you and your heart will sing.... (read in full...)
Should I fake an affair to teach my cheating husband a lesson?
Q. should i fake an affair to teach my cheating husband a lesson? my husband for last years has been constantly cheating on me. i have caught me several times and everytime he begs for my forgiveness telling me that he has really changed this time. i ...
A. 31 July 2010: Should he then fake a divorce?... (read in full...)
In dire need of advice!! Is he too weird?
Q. Been dating a man 10 yrs older than me (never married, no kids, engaged a few times) for 3 months now. I thought I was in love with him after a month or so, but now when I say it...I just don't feel it. I think it's because he's a bit odd. He's in ...
A. 31 July 2010: sounds like your first instinct is right on..a bit weird and creepy if you ask me. I'd like to see you go out and find a "normal" guy with cell phone, family,friends,job,hands that don't wonder so much. Good luck... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend's feelings towards me change if he knew I liked lesbian porn?
Q. I am a female in my early twenties and I like to watch lesbian porn sometimes. I'd say I watch it about 50/50 compared to hetero porn. I'm worried that my (serious)boyfriend will think of me differently if I tell him I do. He likes girl on gi...
A. 30 July 2010: Yes I'd be even more interested or turned on... (read in full...)
When I give him a hand job, he doesn't come, so I want to do better!
Q. My boyfriend hasn't been able to ejaculate the last three times in a row when I have given him a handjob. The first time I gave him a handjob he came but now he doesn't seem able to. I think it's because I give a rubbish handjobs as I am not very ...
A. 30 July 2010: lingham massage use your searh engine . if that doesn't work he has a problem or you're doing it wrong.... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm at 22....
Q. I previously posted a question regarding lack of sex drive with my amazing partner and how its been really getting me down. A few people have suggested it may be due to never having had an orgasm. Not even with previous partners. Does anyone have ...
A. 30 July 2010: ms honeypie has the right idea. you may also want to try masturbating in fron of a mirror. I'm told by women this is a fail safe method of arousal.... (read in full...)
He spat on my vagina to lubricate it! Now I don't want him to touch me!
Q. While making love, my vagina was a bit dry so my partner spat into my vagina to lubricate it. i feel so degraded by this i cannot bear him to touch me since. Am i over reacting?...
A. 30 July 2010: That wasn't the most considerate thing to do however,it kind of makes sense if more lubrication was required so as to be more pleasurable for you.... (read in full...)
Why are men turned on by fake women?
Q. Okay, so I just thought I'd ask a question about men's taste in women when it comes to sexual desire. You see the adult magazines, and the women in them look nasty.. Fake boobs, overly tanned, slutty, what is it that men find sexually arousing by ...
A. 30 July 2010: That's an excellent question. I'm a man and I don't understand the facination in fake tits either. They feel fake they don't bounce like they should. They look like over inflated tires and so on. I can only see one "need' for them as a ... (read in full...)
Should I get it overwith and have a one night stand to lose my virginity?
Q. Ok, so I'm only a few months off 21, and I'm still a virgin. Not feeling quite as alone in this as I just read another post from a 21 yr-old girl in a similar situation, but regardless, I feel that it's time to lose my virginity. I've never had a ...
A. 30 July 2010: No..no..no! You save that gift for your true love it's not something that you need to get it over with. Trust me, my wife was not a virgin and I've worried over that nearly every day of our 46 years together that "HE" was better than me or bigger ... (read in full...)
When I lose my virginity to my boyfriend I don't just want to lay there and not know what to do! Can anyone help?
Q. Hi, i've been with my boyfriend for a while and we havent had sex he knows im a virgin but he doesnt rush anything because he is a gentlemen and he's not a virgin. but when we do have sex i want him 2 have a lot of pleasure and i dont just wan...
A. 30 July 2010: Your virginity is a gift you can only give once so be very sure who when an where that gift is to be given. It is your beayutiful body give it to one that you truly love and you'll never look back with regrets.... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a homosexual act?
Q. is masturbation in fact a homosexual act ? no matter who or what you think about you are still having sex with your hand and you come on yourself you are giving and recieving so its male on male or female on female. any thoughts?...
A. 30 July 2010: Nope it's an autosexual act. There's homsexual, hetrosextual and autosexual and that's it.... (read in full...)
I want my wife to hookup with a guy at a bar!
Q. Do any of you have the fantasy of watching your wife or girlfriend get picked up in a bar by another man, and then watching them do stuff short, but close to, sex? Have any of you indulged this fantasy? For some reason the thought of this ...
A. 30 July 2010: Be carefull what you wish for my friend, you could end up all alone.... (read in full...)
He says he can't love before sex!
Q. My boyfriend has this thing, where he feels like he can not love me until we have had sex. He says, that it's not like he doesn't want to he just can't, and he thinks it's the only thing holding him back. I want to know if any one else feels this ...
A. 30 July 2010: listen to cocoqueen. he's so full of it. ALL he wants is to get in your pants!... (read in full...)
She's 13, I'm 16 and we like each other but her mom wont let us see each other!
Q. i am 16 and there is a girl that is 13 and we both like each other one day i told her she was pretty and her mom wont let her hang out with me!!! wat should i do???? i need some help...
A. 30 July 2010: Yo should do what most everyone else does, wait until she's your age. An age spread of 3 years isn't much above the age of 20 but below 20 there's a whole lot of maturity going on that nature takes care of not momma's permission. besides mothers ... (read in full...)
Her fantasies turn me off!
Q. My wife and I have had some very serious problems for the past couple of years and have been going to a therapist. I want to be cooperative, but I admit also to wanting to learn more about my wife's clandestine behavior that led I believed to our ...
A. 30 July 2010: Yeh,yeh, I know what you mean. My wife's fantasy is to sip hot coco while cuddling on the couch together-BORING!... (read in full...)
I really need to understand what his fascination to 'let loose' all over me is all about!
Q. What is with the male fascination with porn and cumshots? I guess I don't understand the appeal of it. Maybe some of the guys can explain it. I can always tell when my b/f has been looking at porn because he will pull out during sex and let loos...
A. 30 July 2010: There's probably a deep "Freudian rationale " for it but all I know is doing it and/or seeing it is the turn on of all turn ons. It may be messy but like one girl I slept with a long time ago said," I just love the mess...it's so primal."... (read in full...)
I'm a nymphomaniac
Q. Okay so im 17 yrs old and i just recently found out that im a nymphomaniac and in this serious relationship but dont really know how to tell my partner that i have it ive known for about a week 1/2 now and im pretty scared on the reaction ill get ...
A. 30 July 2010: Were you diagnosed or just think this is the "problem"? If it's a clinicalissue your Bf will understand...If you're just thinking it then you're probably wrong since there are very few real cases on the planet earth. It's more a male "fantasy" ... (read in full...)
Fingering doesn't feel that great to me. Will I never have an orgasm?
Q. When my boyfriend fingers me I don't feel anything 'nice' at all, even when he rubs where my clitoris is. I've never had sex and I'm worried I won't be able to have an orgasm....
A. 29 July 2010: Sounds like you're just too uptight about the whole experience. Relax and enjoy it...it'll happen sooner or later. Don't fret over something you have no control over. When it finally does happen you'll be amazed at how easy it was.... (read in full...)
Is he a liar?
Q. OP's own title. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and he's been living with me at my moms for a year. (I'm 22) Recently we kind of fell in a rut.. the affection/sex was fading.. and it made me start to question thin...
A. 29 July 2010: AS a guy, I know we are mostly pigs and can't be trusted until we've demonstrated a long period of trustworthyness. but only you can judge the truth. Normally, we lie to avoid conflict.... (read in full...)
Can I harm my unborn child if I smoke and drink around my pregnant wife?
Q. [Moderator's Note: Question edited for clarity] i drink wine regularly, my wife is pregnant, is there any effects on my unborn baby because of my drink? is there any risk of smoking and drinking wine on my child which is not come in this world? ...
A. 29 July 2010: I was a smoker and had no respect for others either. The boys turned out OK but I'll always regrete putting my wife at risk. It caused me to have a stroke and now I totally have to rely on her to drive me everywhere.. the guilt is heavy on my ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling hurt about the fact that he's off and dating now?
Q. He's dating a new girl a few weeks after we broke up. I am very hurt and he wasn't emotional at all during our break up, it was very easy for him. How do I stop feeling hurt about the fact that he's off and dating now?...
A. 29 July 2010: What I would do is go get a pint or two or three and "wash that man right outa my hair" There are a gazillion other guys...go get one and forget about the last one!... (read in full...)
I got a call from a woman who said my partner of 8 years was her fiancee! He said she was just playing a joke!
Q. hi im 32,ive been with my partner for eight years. he keeps saying he isnt ready for children and doesnt want to get married. just lately he hasnt been coming home and says he's worked late and is staying with a friend? a few months ago he went to ...
A. 29 July 2010: spelling wasint my best subject ether. i'd say you might ought to begin looking for another mister right... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says I'm too clingy!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend 9 months and she says i am too clingy... How can i be less clingy? I am 15, we both contact through texting... We both have unlimited texts so we can contact each other whenever we like? i want the sort of hard-t...
A. 29 July 2010: un cling yurself..don't text anymore. maybe she's tired of being thumbalena on the text thing. I am so glad we didn't have texting when i was young. We did have phones though and I wasted enough time on that thing to have let me get better grades ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to want to have sex with me more often?
Q. how to make my husband do sex with me more and how to make him keep an eye on me and want to do sex more often? as he dont even talk about sex. as i remember he is so sexy and always will keep watching sex movies in his mobile but he dont have my ...
A. 29 July 2010: Be nude when he shows up from work and act l;ike nothing is going on. He'll get the idea and soon you'll find more lovin' than you want. Nothing like a nude women to turn a guy on.... (read in full...)
How long should a guy last in bed?
Q. To the ladies what's the least a guy should last in bed?...
A. 29 July 2010: In my mind it's not duration as much as it's all about frequency. My goal is 4 times per hour don't always make it but I try and try again. No complaints yet.... (read in full...)
Ladies, orgasms during sex?....
Q. Questions for ladies who have had orgasms during sex....does it intensify your orgasm sensation to have the guy coninue to move during the contractions? what is most intense fast or slow thrusting?...
A. 29 July 2010: There comes a point in any good relationship where you can just know when she's about to have an orgasm(ladies first guys...always) As she achives the pinical of her contactions then and only then do I penetrate as deep as possible and release. ... (read in full...)
Was what he did with me considered cheating? And how can I get over the feeling of being used only for sex?
Q. Hello everyone! Soooo I have a bit of a problem... This summer was a pretty crazy one for me. I lost my virginity to my bestfriend. We didn't start dating or anything, but I didn't expect him to be talking to another girl. Throughout the summer i...
A. 29 July 2010: egver wonder where the term "right hand girl" came from? I think you are one. Let him go away as fast as he can go away. Friends are friends not orgasm aids.... (read in full...)
I love him but just don't want to be with him anymore...i need advice...
Q. Please help!! I am 23 years old and have been married for 2years. My husband is 16years older than and at first everything was rosey! He used to drink but lately it seems he has to have alchol every night, he has between 8 and 10 cans a nigh...
A. 29 July 2010: Call your local AA office they have folks that can stear you in the right direction. Drinking can be a disease or it can be an outlet for something else. You take care of you first then get him the help he neds.... (read in full...)
Any ideas for adventurous sex?
Q. hi. my boyfriend is sexually adventurous and I will love to please him in all the kinky ideas possible. I'm a very sexual person, I'm up for everything but I'm from a country were sex is only allowed after marriage, I know how boring and mistaken, ...
A. 29 July 2010: like the old punhline to the question of how do i get him to love me goes, show up naked, bring beer and don't block the TV. Just be nude when he's around.... (read in full...)
I feel so unwanted!
Q. can anyone help me i am too sexy but my husband lost his sex i dont know why? before we use to do sex a lot but now i feel im unwanted why is it? how to make myself wanted even by my family i feel i m unwanted? i want to be attractive and have good ...
A. 29 July 2010: There are many reasons a man has "problems" in bed. If it's being limp that's easy to fix. If it's NO interest at all that might be a problem. I wouldn't think too hard9pardon the pun) about it. Talk is always a good place to start. If it's ... (read in full...)
My husband found out I am not a virgin! What can I do?
Q. sir,,i got a mistake,my problem is that my husband got on first night that i am not virgin girl.what can i do....
A. 29 July 2010: Well, you can't go back and "re-virginate". Just tell him all about it. I married a women that had been VERY active prior to our first time. Next month we will see our 46th anniversary(2 sons& 3 grandkids). If he loves you, he'll get over it. BUT ... (read in full...)
Worried and intimidated by a blooming sex toy that my girlfriend is waving around me!
Q. My new girlfriend and I have known each other for 5 months and been going out with for 6 weeks, she told me today she got a dildo as a gift from co-worker... apparently not as a joke either. We are yet to embark on the sexual side of our ...
A. 29 July 2010: anon is right on! don't worry be happy. whatever she does in privacy is her business... (read in full...)
I swear she has had anal sex before.
Q. This is gonna sound like I'm some jealous macho American asshole, so sorry in advance. I am wondering there is any way to think if my girl has had anal sex before. I realize that I should trust her when she says no, and that love is built on trus...
A. 29 July 2010: Every time I think I've heard it all someone like this comes along and steals the thunder of the last one.... looking for an anal virgin? Why the heck would anyone want to find a gorl that's an anal virgin? If anything you shouyld be thrilled at ... (read in full...)
I cant wait until I am 25 to have sex! So how do I convince my girlfriend we will be together forever so having sex now is ok?
Q. My name is Alex. I'm in this situation Where I want sex and she wants to wait until Marriage. It's hard for me to wait. I'm thinking I'm probably going to marry this girl one day, I Love her more than imaginable. We've never gotten into a serious f...
A. 29 July 2010: Sorry dude the "If you love her yo'll wait" answer is the right one. Surf the porn sites until then if you "have to" but she should come first in you life.... (read in full...)
Its been 18 years since I had sex and I don't know how to move this to the next step...
Q. I am 47 and divorced. I have not had sex in 18 years and I'm thinking too hard. I'm dating but I can't figure out how to move us from a kiss in the living room to sex in the bedroom. (Sex in the living room would be even worse.) Is it as simple ...
A. 29 July 2010: I've got a similar problem it's been 20 years for me but thanks to a good friend of ours, I've been able to remain in "the saddle" so to speak. Her husband quit on her about 15 years ago. I don't get it. Sex should be an intamate part of marriage ... (read in full...)
The New Tough Love
Q. He was charming, sexy, funny, and all about me. From living in his brother's basement with his dog, I allowed him into my house with my three children. One by one the true colors were mind blowing. Each layer peeled back to show his verbal viole...
A. 29 July 2010: man! that tired me out; i'm glad you found relief. I'm just happy i'm not him...if i was though, I wouldn't have been so wierd on you.... (read in full...)
Views on condoms - sex more pleasurable without?
Q. I now feel ready for full sex-my boyfriend is too. We've talked about contraception and condoms.Some of my friends saythere's no difference in the pleasurable sensations for a woman whether a man wears one or not.Others say the feeling is much bet...
A. 29 July 2010: sans condom is best for sensation...however, you may need protection to avoid pregnancy or STD. To a guy condoms are not good unless they're ribbed and the partner reacts positively to the ribbed feeling like with passion and lots of sighs and ... (read in full...)
I'm so scared of giving a blow job!
Q. I'm 20 and I've NEVER given a blow job! I don'tknow how to, I was always scared of doign it wrong. All my life I've been scared of almost EVERYTHING. I was 17 when I had my FIRST boyfriend after bing scared of relationships. And 19 when I FIRST ha...
A. 29 July 2010: Just google ligham massage for an even more effective way to give your man supreme pleasure..you won't need to give a BJ unless you want to.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth staying in?
Q. in a relationship with a sepatated lady for 2 months, she blows hot and cold in the relationship, feel like im on a piece of string , brings her business act home when shes over and then relaxes after a while, married for 19 years before they ...
A. 29 July 2010: sounds like you're committed to her and she's stabilized from the past heartbreak.. My guess would be it's worth working on it some more... (read in full...)
It stings when he tries to finger me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about the past two months (we are both sophomores in college). It's been a month since he's been "fingering" me. I put that in quotations because he can barely get his finger in before I tell him that ...
A. 29 July 2010: That part of your body is very sensitive anyway..tissue is easily torn and/or irritated. Use gobs of sterile lubricant (like KY) and space your "activities" to allow healing to take place. Be kind to your body especially down there.... (read in full...)
How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm?
Q. How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm? My bf really gets turned on by this (and no, he has never asked me to learn or anything, I want to try to learn on my own). We are both in our middle 20s and have been dateing for over 2 years, and are ...
A. 28 July 2010: Thank you gals for letting me finally believe it is true. I thought it was a trick of the camera on porn sites. It really is the biggest turn on a man can have .i'm just satisfied to know it's a real thing. thanks again. R... (read in full...)
Why are men turned on by fake women?
Q. Okay, so I just thought I'd ask a question about men's taste in women when it comes to sexual desire. You see the adult magazines, and the women in them look nasty.. Fake boobs, overly tanned, slutty, what is it that men find sexually arousing by ...
A. 28 June 2010: AS if women don't get all wet and bothered over the biker dude with a fat wallet and a 10-inch dong? Now there's your fake man... (read in full...)
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