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writes: I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong?I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the discussion about sex was there.Point is, I couldn't think of sleeping someone I don't love. I've always resisted urges to have sex with some random hookup so that if ever I meet someone I really love I could say that I'm pretty loyal and don't give in to sexual urges easily. But for the past 5 years my life has been a mess and I haven't been meeting anyone new. So now I'm starting to doubt myself...
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reader, lifesucksforever  +, writes (22 August 2010):
I remember when I was a virgin at 28. I also remember when I was a virgin at 38. I can easily remember when I was a virgin at 48. This year will be year 52. Wish I could help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Sex is natural? So is marijuana.
Both are said to be pleasurable but not always healthy.
Be proud that you are still a virgin.
And give your wife the most unique of gifts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Yes man, omgwtf what is wrong with you, virgin at 28???? You MUST join the rest of the sheep and inseminate as many women as you can! Otherwise "society" will LAUGH YOU OUT OF EXISTENCE!!! HA HA HA!!!111111Disclaimer:The above is an example of KIDDING.Just RELAX, do not obsess yourself over virginity, and FIND A PROSPECTIVE WIFE, a woman so wonderful that you can actually MARRY (it is not a swearword). Once you find her, marry her and only then you'll understand that she was worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): I am in a similar position at 24. It's tough feeling as though you have to justify it. but I also just haven't met the right person, even though I'm a social fun type of girl. Or I've met a person I'd love it to happen with and they have been committed or not interested in me in that way. It's starting to get to me now and is something nobody else knows about, I find myself covering it up.
It is not wrong, just unusual - which makes others uncomfortable, that's all.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 No, you're fine..Everything will evolve naturally don't push it and don't seem desperate it turns women away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Dude
it is completely normal and respectable and you can flaunt it rather than be ashamed of. I never had sex before marriage till 28 and in my life i made love only to my wife and it is all fine. I do not have any problem in my life, which most of the people have in the forum.
enjoy the life with pride.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 No theres nothing wrong with that at all. If starting a new relationship dont talk about sex on the first 3 or 4 dates, a lot of women wont appreciate it.
But if she brings up the subject first then its ok to talk about it.
I actually admire your principals about not just jumping into bed with someone you dont love. Good on you for that.
There is someone for everyone out there, try meeting new women either on line dating or go out more to places where single women are likley to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): No it's not wrong. Just go to places where you are likely to meet new people and keep doing what you are doing. You will find girl who will love the fact that you haven't slept around.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (13 August 2010):
 There's NOTHING wrong with that! You have what so many men don't-standards. Don't doubt yourself because you'd rather make love then have sex. I think it's an entirely different experience when two people honestly love each other. It might still be enjoyable but it's a difference flat club soda and gourmet champagne. So wish there were more men like you around! :) Best of luck!
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reader, T-Marie +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Hey there,
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at all! The fact you are holding out for someone you love is quite inspiring, it also shows you have more willpower than most :)
I think if you are wanting to meet someone you need to get yourself out there. Go on a night out, but don't get too drunk that way you will have a clear perception of who you are talking to. I met my husband in a pub and we hit it off straight away. Don't be too uptight because you know you are looking for love, just go with the flow and enjoy the process.
I hope this helps xxx T
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Do not feel strange or inadequate. I am older than you and still a regret-less virgin.
All I say is: do not separate love and sex, wait for marriage. Why settle for anything less? Why form emotional bonds with someone that will likely not be with you five years from now? Your wife will love you for your ability to stay faithful to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): I am 23 and the same way. When you're not ready, you're just not ready. Being a virgin is not a bad thing as long as it's your choice. When you meet the right girl, you'll know.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 There is nothing with being a virgin at your age. Dont doubt yourself, you will meet someone who you will love enough to give your virginity to, and who I have no doubt, will be honoured to be your first.
Honeygirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Do you know its men like you that give men a good name. Not because your a virgin but because you believe that sex should be in a relationship with someone you love. Don't rush into having sex now after waiting, because you'll just regret it and when you meet the "one" she will fall more in love with you knowing that you are, she will trust you more and not have to think about them stupid past relationships. You will probly have the best and strongest relationship out there. So don't just have sex for the sake of it, the person you meet will be lucky!!:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): I think that more men should be like you. I believe that you should wait for someone that you love. Most men would have probaly already given in to their sexual urges by now. Some women like men that are virgins. Im sure that you will find somebody, and when you find that person you will be ready.Good Luck:]
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Nothing wrong with it at all. When you find a decent girlfriend, she'll absolutely love the fact you've saved yourself.
Seems men/women who hasn't had many gf's/bf's always have very little confidence in themselves, which is how you sound. You just need to throw yourself back out there. Meeting new people always does the trick.
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