My boyfriend insists on fisting me and having rough sex even though I have had many operations 'down below' and it causes me so much pain

so i think i need some advice cause i am not sure what to do. my fiance and i have been together for a year and a half. we are deeply in love and he does everything under the sun for me. i couldnt ask for a better man. but we have a few sex issues. first of all, i have had many surgery's. i have had misscariages and an ectopic pregnancy which caused me to loose my tube. i have had multiple kidney stones that had to be surgically removed. i had a ruptured cyst on my ovary. put it this way. i am only 30 and have had 7 surgery's. on top of all that i have a condition called endometriosis. for those that dont know what that is, it's when tissue attaches from the uterus to other organs like the ovary's or the bowel area and a lot of the time i have to take a bunch of codiene just to have sex from the pain. sex is really important to my fiance and unfortunatly he likes it a little rough. he likes anal sex and fisting and all that and when i try to tell him how much pain it puts me in, he gets angry or just tells me he will go easy and tells me to be quiet. sometimes says i will get used to it. he says after a few times i will stretch out and that a woman is made to be stretched that much cause we pop children out of there. so i just let him do it. i put up with the pain. sometimes i cry during the sex cause it just never feels good. but i am not sure what to do. if i tell him that we cant do these things then i am afraid he will get bored with me and leave me. like i said. i think sex is really important to him. but will i ever get used to it like he says? will it not hurt so much after a while? is it normal to hurt so much when you first start doing these things or is it because of my problems? i just dont know what to do. i love my fiance. he is the best man in the world and i wouldnt want to live without him in my life. any advice would be appreciated. thanks

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