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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): I agree with you. I was brought up to believe the same. I am 27 and still a virgin. I also have desires as well espoecially more often recently. I do not have a boyfriend however. I do wish to find a boyfriend that I can be close with and eventually marry and give my "gift" to him as well. It does not make you a freak and man who "run away" from virgin women are just not worth it. I think it is awesome when guys "save" themselves for the right one too. Keep the faith there is someone out there for you and you will find one another when the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): It's not wrong, it's just pointless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): People criticizing you are LESS than worthless. Keep up the good work lady, choose your husband wisely and ONLY then give ALL of yourself to him! 8)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): I could care less about what others think, and I am not religious, but I won't give my virginity to anyone except to my wife. This is what I have chosen for myself. Dig?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): I think you are worrying too much about what other people think. It's great that you've stood by what you believe. I am waiting for marriage also, and I'm 29. I know I'm not what most people consider 'normal,' but I definitely don't see myself as a freak. And how can it be wrong to have religious convictions? Hang in there: you will find someone who loves you for who you are, and who will be surprised and awed to be your first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): You have an amazing set of beliefs! I have recently turned 19, and I plan on waiting until marriage. I left my previous boyfriend mainly due to the fact that we did not view sex in the same way...he pressured me all the time to have sex. However, I was able to resist, and have thus kept my virginity. In the end, you will always be grateful that you kept your virginity...I don't know how many people have told me that! What better gift to give your future spouse? If marriage is in my future, I cannot wait to give my husband all of me! :) Keep your values close to your heart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Not wrong at all. My wife and I both waited until marriage. We've been together over 20 years. I think you are to be commended. But, let me also say that I am not judging everyone who doesn't wait, as I know that waiting can be very difficult. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. We need to do our best to do what is right, and He knows what our best really is. (as opposed to what we might say it is)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Over 30 and still virgin here. I do NOT have regrets.
In fact, seeing how people around me are in a total,
total mess of their own choosing (STDs, pregnancies,
single parents, uncared-for babies, cheating, soul-tearing
emotional drama) I can safely say that I saved myself
a host of stupid mistakes and problems. Thank God.
I commend you for your strength. But get married as
soon as possible, to the RIGHT man. Do not put
yourself in tempting situations and stay strong. Married
sex is the best sex; but most people won't accept that.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 No you a breath of fresh air actually. Too many girls just give it away willy nilly and live to regret it all their life.
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reader, londonmiss  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 No it is absolutely not wrong to believe in no sex before marriage.
But if you are having urges and are not happy, it is not wrong at all to start reconsidering!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Why is it wrong to have an opinion? You're entitled to it.
In order for a relationship to work, though, you have to have similar values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): No it's not wrong, the only time a personal moral or ethical belief is wrong is when it harms another person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): Well if that's your belief then there is little anyone can say about it isn't there? Personally I find it ridiculous but then again I'd defend your right to do whatever you want to with your body...
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reader, razorwire  +, writes (11 August 2010):
i don't think it is immoral to have sex when not married. but whoever stays a virgin until married deserves extra "praise"
so hats off to you =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): It's your body. Do what you want with it. But I think your gonna have a hard time finding a husband that's gonna be willing to wait for marriage at your age. My sister- in- law is 40 and she's still a virgin. She's to the point now that she can't even get a boyfriend. As soon as they find out she's still a virgin they run out the door as fast as they can. Personally, I would never ever have sex with a virgin. That comes with way to much drama for me.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (11 August 2010):
 That is AWESOME!!! Your inner strength totally rocks!!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 How can any belief related to morality be right or wrong answer when morality itself is relative? If you're looking for an affirmation of your belief that sex outside marraige is wrong, you won't get it from me. BUT I will definitely endorse and support your right to beleive what you want to beleive. It does not make you a freak. It's just your point of view on a moral question.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and as long as you don't impose them on others or harm anyone in pursuit of your belief then why would anyone object. I do belief that you are wrong to deny yourself one of life's great pleasures but you are entitled to be wrong and you are harming no one but yourself.
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