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How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 11 August 2010: No In fact the guy loves it if he's the first to recieve palm pleasure from you and is too happy to show you how HE likes it.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 21 July 2010: "Porn" is is the eye of the beholder. Some Stupid politican said once. " I can't define porn but I'll know it if I see it!" "porn " is different things to different folks. Some cultures think holding hands is a horrible thing...Go figure? Your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to sexually assualt a man?
Q. i have a question and its something that happened to me a while ago that i have never told anyone as i just dont know who to approach about this.... I had been to a gig one night and by chance met an aquaiantance there...whom i get along...
A. 21 July 2010: Of couse it's "possible" but itdoesn't sound like it here. What country do you live in? Laws are different everywhere. Take her to court if you're even serious.... (read in full...)
My girls wants a threesome!
Q. My girlfriend wants us to have a threesome with another woman and I'm not sure if I want to. I think it would be fun, but I'm quite a jealous person when it comes to her, and I think I might even get jealous of her with another woman. She really ...
A. 21 July 2010: Well, if she "might " get bored in your word) if you don't hook up with a third what's to stop her from wanting a fourth and then a fifth? You could end up in a really wierd situation so drive safely and be VERY careful with this gal... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 19 July 2010: I have a terrific answer to this question...go to googl;e and type in lingham massage. This man will love you forever if you follow the instructions and for the guys, search for yoni massage everyone will be very happy tonight.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 19 July 2010: I'm afraid I wouldn't be much help in this catagory since I don't see a problem with porn. To me it's a "guy thing" that women will never ever understand so I pretty well guess you two will break apart Or you'll learn to live with it.... (read in full...)
I'm scared because we don't seem to have anything to talk about anymore.
Q. Hi everyone, I met this great guy 2 weeks ago. We've been texting non-stop and it's been made clear that we both like each other. He almost always starts the texts and is the one to continue them. But for the last two days, it just seems like ...
A. 19 July 2010: No, young lady . I don't think there'a an age problem however, my instincts tell me he has slightly different interest than you do. That may be due to age but the actual years don't mean much. It's world views and various levels of intelectual ... (read in full...)
I find this strange but also erotic what should I do?
Q. my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I ...
A. 19 July 2010: put blocks on website access then tell her why-she "should Be" embarrassed enough to move elsewhere. If not, you should trash the computer!... (read in full...)
When a woman has a multiple orgasm, what is the average number?
Q. What is the average number for a woman to have a multiple orgasm?...
A. 10 July 2010: I've had a partner once who said she counted 4 distinct "good ones" with a few 'aftershocks" but I didn't recognize any big difference rom my side of the bed... (read in full...)
I heard you can cum inside a girl and she won't get pregnant?
Q. I really need your advice here aunts and everyone else. So my g/f is virgin and me too and we will have sex when we both feel ready for it, it won't be very soon though because we both want to take out time. My question is: I know the first time i ...
A. 9 July 2010: I think you're refering to what some call the rythen method...certain "safe" days in the cycle--don't trust it.it's too complicated... (read in full...)
Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!
Q. I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...
A. 9 July 2010: The question is i wonder why the first mariage didn't work...I think your question answers that question loud and clear... (read in full...)
Do you think his behavior is unfair to me?
Q. Hello Guys, Idk where to start. Ive been having relationship for 11months.. and the begining of this relationship everything was perfect..5 months ago, my bf went to his country for his sick granddad and stayed there 2 weeks and this situatio...
A. 9 July 2010: sounds like a broken relationship tha cant be fixed... (read in full...)
Do I let my bf suck my breasts??
Q. my boyfriend wants to suck my breasts.do advice me.he is after my breasts....
A. 9 July 2010: double duh!... (read in full...)
My wife was a teenage slut - accepting her promiscuous past
Q. I just wanted to post this due to all the posts re girls with promiscuous pasts. Here is my story. I fell head over heels for my now wife when she was 22 and I 23. Our relationship progressed and soon we both realized we were utterly in love ...
A. 9 July 2010: Yeah,yeah, BFD... how bout this...I was a virgin ewhen I met my wife and she'd been with at lest 5 if you count her brother. So get the heck over it...life sucks and then you die.... (read in full...)
Why won't she let me cum on her face?
Q. She let's me do it in her mouth everytime I ask, even swallows sometimes. She let's me do it on he rear all the time and once I did on her breasts but she will not let me ejaculate on her face. Isn't it unusual? Why do you think that is?...
A. 9 July 2010: ok then settle on someplace else like breasts or hands. facials will leave with an image you will want to forget.... (read in full...)
How can I "Deep Throat" without gagging?
Q. How can I help my gag reflex, and give him deep throat? I have a real problem with gagging, so how can I relax the muscles?...
A. 9 July 2010: All the obsession over blow jobs is boring. I've had good ones and really bad ones but the best ones don't involve deep throating or gagging. Holding the tip between the lips while stroking the shaft with your hand and tickling the scrotum with ... (read in full...)
How do you have anal sex painlessly?
Q. my boyfriend wants to penetrate me from the 'rear' can anyone offer advice on how to do it painlessly?...
A. 9 July 2010: Youneed to be totally in to it and relaxed. Just remember the pleasure you will be giving him will come back to you in a hundred different ways. There should be no pain associated with any sexual act and if thee is you should not repeat that ... (read in full...)
Why can he only get erect while performing oral?
Q. This may not sound like a serious problem but it's beginning to be annoying...My boyfriend only seems to get erect once he has given me oral. This is the first guy I have ever allowed to do this. I am attractive, in shape and the sex is great. We ...
A. 9 July 2010: I can partially relate to this; During sex there is sometimes a period of time when the female response wanes slightly...that can cause a lose of erection since men love having each and every move responded to. Oral sex usually provides that close ... (read in full...)
Could sharp pains in my head be linked to masturbation?
Q. Hi, i am a 15yr old male incase the above says otherwise. I masturbate frequently but recently have had a problem. I occasionaly get sharp pains in my head for a short while (for about 15-30mins). Also, I don't know if this is relevant but I think I ...
A. 9 July 2010: I'm not a doc or an ferbalist but common sense tells me the best way to answer that question would be to lay off for a week to see if the headach goes away. If it does then change up to every other day and so on. Once you find a happy medium, you ... (read in full...)
How do you have anal sex painlessly?
Q. my boyfriend wants to penetrate me from the 'rear' can anyone offer advice on how to do it painlessly?...
A. 9 July 2010: IF you want him to do it that way then go for it with lots of lubricant. If you don't then tell him no. A good hand job is twice as good for him anyway.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be this ready or is it just that I'm more mature than most females my age?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been talking for about 19 months but we've only officially been dating for 14 of those months. He's 20 and I'll be 19 in September but neither of our families has a problem with us being together. We've had our ups and ...
A. 9 July 2010: There's nothing wrong with planning AND the "pulling out" method isn't a real safe method of birth control 'cause that little biyt that is extruded prior to intercourse if full of sperm too.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend simply will not satisfy me in bed.
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have been reasonably happy except for in one regard: sex. He always wants a blowjob, but he never wants to go down on me or even manually stimulate me. He has only gone down on me 3-4 times ...
A. 9 July 2010: What a "Mr. Me-me" In the "old days" it was a lady's first bedroom. The guy's "needs" were never even a factor until she achieved orgasm no matter how long it took(the longer the better) Tell him "no more BJs until he learns the secrets of the ... (read in full...)
Wife to be mentions wants to buy a paid woman to orally service us during an encounter
Q. Hi recently my wife to be has said one of the things that turns her on is the idea of her buying me a working girl to Partake once in our love making. Her interaction would be strictly limited to oral sex and breast work and fingers, with no ...
A. 8 July 2010: Go for it! Get her to get tested first though to be safe!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gave her ex blow jobs, why am I finding it hard to deal with this?
Q. My girlfriend gave her ex blow jobs, why am I finding it hard to deal with this? Sometimes when i kiss her i think yuck, Thats only happened twice in the 2years we've been together. Just knowing that she gave an ex partner a blow job is disgustin...
A. 6 July 2010: Just Get Over It; My love used to suck on all her dates to ensure another date...no big deal!... (read in full...)
Guys: What to you find physically attractive in a girl?
Q. I need male input, what makes porn women so ideal and attractive, and what can I do to achieve that? I want men to think I'm as attractive as I can be, and they seem to love porn, so I only added 1+1... Of course I want a guy to love me for my p...
A. 6 July 2010: It's NOT about T&A it's about frequency. you can be flat chested with a caboose the size of Dallas and if you're a 'once-a-week' kind of gal you're Not gonna be all that atractive but if you go for it twice a day or more you will be a magnet to all ... (read in full...)
I have large labia minora. Please help, and give me your opinions!
Q. Hi, I'm 16, and i have large labora minora (outer vaginal lips) i worry constantly, and what happens when it gets to the stage when i'm going a bit further in relationships? Please, male and female, give me your opinions. and i know its normal,...
A. 6 July 2010: the bigger the better!... (read in full...)
How messy will a hand-job get?
Q. I'm super inexperienced, as in I've never done anything for a guy. My bf has done some things for me, but I haven't returned any favors because I dont know how to! I've been reading up on hand jobs, I think i have that pretty figured out. So my ...
A. 6 July 2010: age has a big influence on the actual amount of "mess" there will be young = a bunch...older over 40= not so much...over 50= a very small amount. some younger boys can hit the ceiling oif the car and fill up a couple of paper napkins. it's all up ... (read in full...)
Could there be a problem in our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I see eachother only on weekends and for the past 15 months we have had sex 2 to 3 times a week. The past weekend a long one at that he was packing and moving but also had plenty of down time for the fourth and he was too tired. His ...
A. 6 July 2010: There are hundres of things that effect us guys, being tired is one(although I know of no one too tired for oral gratification-dead maybe but tired no). You didn'y mention his job. High stress jobs can really work to "soften" thr relationship ... (read in full...)
Would he rather masturbate to porn than to me?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend going on 3years now, our sex life has always been good and we have watched porn a couple of times together before but it never realy crossed my mind about him watching it on his own until we had internet. We are ...
A. 6 July 2010: It is sometimes the ONLY option...when there is no responsive partner then self gratification is definetly better than trying to arouse the spouse[she is NEVER 'in the mood'0 a my own body is always in the mood.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty watching porn
Q. I'm not a good english speker.but i tray.... my probllem is watching Porno movies. at that time I'm not happy b/c i used masterbeshen.... after all the thing happen i hate my self. allwayes I ask my mind why im doing this but i didn't get the ...
A. 6 July 2010: what's to feel guilty about? porn and masturmation go hand in hand(pardon the pun) maybe it's like ebony said a cultural gap? Welcom to life in America. We have sex with ourselves a lot since it is so darn complicated to have sex otherwise... (read in full...)
I do not mind him viewing and saving porn;but he saved a picture that cleary isn't pornographic and I don't know what to think..
Q. My fiance watches a lot of porn and I don't really mind. He has a fetish for nylons. On a nylon fetish site he found and saved a picture of a group of girls approximately 14yrs old posing for a formal. All in dresses and nylons of course. I ...
A. 6 July 2010: you might think of him as a potential molester of kids. If he were to act on his fetish he might hurt someone. Treat this issue very carefully!... (read in full...)
How can I get the thoughts of her breastfeeding out of my head??
Q. i have a maid servant living in my house with her family. she has recently given birth to a baby girl. now it so happens that she is a buxom. i used to have fantasies about her sometimes. anyways, a few days ago, i went to her room to tell her some...
A. 6 July 2010: relax; it don't taste better than cows milk it's just a better dispenser. you have one of two avenues: 1. ask her for a few minutes of nursing. (you may get shot) or 2. Grow up and become a mature young man that just has fantasys and beats off a ... (read in full...)
Any thoughts on what I am?
Q. Hi, I'm 17, male, i've been going out with this girl for about 9 months now, and we're are having sex. its great. Getting to my point, as much as i enjoy to look at her naked, i think i'm weird, and worry about what i like. For instance, i...
A. 6 July 2010: well. i think you're a normal pubesent boy with an intense curiosity(like most of ud you like to peer into the "other world" to see what's going on but since you don't get turned on by it, my guess would be you are straight hetrosexual with the ... (read in full...)
How do I give a hand job ?
Q. ok well i have a question to ask guys. i have never givin a hand job before and this guy wants me to give him one. im totaly up to it.....but obiously i dont know how to. so told him i dident know how to, and he said he would help me out (teach me...
A. 5 July 2010: the absolute best way is to have him show you...since all guys are different they have different best ways- you've heard "different strokes for different folks. It can't be more true than here... (read in full...)
How many is too many sexual partners?
Q. How Many is Too Many?? I am just curious, I had the post earlier about peoples opinions/views on casual sex? That got me to thinking, how many would you think is too many for past number of sexual partners?? I mean I know there are average...
A. 5 July 2010: from a man's point of view , i'd say more than ten would be an overload to me. Too much copetition to overcome.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for males to like this stimulation?
Q. Hi! :) .. I have a really very strange question to ask.. Yesterday morning my bf and I were having sex, the first time in 2 weeks that we have had proper intercourse. Although the strangest thing happened about a year ago he bought me a vibrator, ...
A. 5 July 2010: Works like a charm unless you're alone then it's not all that hot.... (read in full...)
I get embarrassed because my nipples stick out too much.
Q. I have small boobs and my nipples seem to stick out really far. They stick out abut a centimetre. Is this a turn off for men, I get embarrassed by them!...
A. 5 July 2010: I can't see why you'd be imbarassed at having something all men desire. Unless you don't want men to look at you?... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I like him? Or is it wrong?
Q. Okay, this is the story. My best friends neighbor is geting really close to us. He is so nice and extremly hot. Lately, we've been hitting on each other, and kissed a little. I was pure presured by my friend to do it though! I'm starting to like ...
A. 5 July 2010: Young lady! It's not uncommon to have a crush on a guy but he is totally taking advantage of both of you. Don't letit go any further!! You will end up hurt and wronged in some pretty bad ways. Just get back to guys your own age.It's not your ... (read in full...)
My internet love broke up with me and now isn't returning my calls!
Q. i meet a guy 3 months ago in a internet, and we chatted for 1 week than we fall in love, i don't what happens he don't talk to me much or don't come online much i got so upset and i write to him asking why is he doing this to me he reply he said its ...
A. 5 July 2010: Falling in love over the internet is not a reasonible way to fibd a lasting relatonship. It's kind of like me falling in love with Tina Turner just because I saw her on TV once and really liked her performance. Try the local bars in the area. ... (read in full...)
My husband has gone crazy over the idea of swinging
Q. so my husband and i were talking about fantasies the other day. he said one of his was to try group sex with another couple. no swapping spouses or anything, just being in the same room or possibly me and another girl. i am trying to open up to new ...
A. 4 July 2010: It sounds as though he has gone a little iverboard with fantasy camp life. If he were to try it once he and most other men would run home to his real life. While 3somes and more look cool on the porn sites. In real life there are sounds and ... (read in full...)
Why am I the odd one out when it comes to bra size?
Q. im 14 and i havnt evan grown in to an A ???!!?!?! Why?!?!!? Everyone in my year has but me ? People younger than me have bigger than me. ...
A. 4 July 2010: Young lady, Get a grip! even if you stay small it won't matter one tiny bit to the love of your life later in life. Girls have an envy fixation just like guys. Being small down below has always bothered me to the point of obsession but no one ... (read in full...)
Dizzy over this much older man, how do I stop this??
Q. Help needed!! I'm in highschool in England and I'm over the age of consent. I have a problem because I am madly in love with someone who is much older and sees me as a nice interesting kid. I know nothing will ever happen because he's not a pervert ...
A. 2 July 2010: you neglected to say how much older.. so if I were you, I'd guess at his age do some simple math and try to figure how old he'd be if you were married,had kids and lived in a nice apartment. But how old would he be when your youngest child graduated ... (read in full...)
How do I improve my self-esteem, I hate my looks??
Q. I hate myself, because I feel ugly and disgusting. I'm not fat and people say I look ok, but average is not enough for me. I don't know what to do. Everytime I see a beautiful woman, I get depressed. So yes, I'm constantly depressed, every day, ...
A. 2 July 2010: My young friend, Everyone hates the way they look! Trust me no one but maybe the Hollywood set thinks they are "just right" You only need to work on your inner beauty because that is the ONLY thing that counts...self esteem is for the efite snobs ... (read in full...)
My wife was a teenage slut - accepting her promiscuous past
Q. I just wanted to post this due to all the posts re girls with promiscuous pasts. Here is my story. I fell head over heels for my now wife when she was 22 and I 23. Our relationship progressed and soon we both realized we were utterly in love ...
A. 22 June 2010: I've beeen married 46 years to my first real sexual partner and although she "majored in boys" her terms not mine) i've always been true to her and vica versa. she did mention once though that i had the smallest(you know what0 of all the boys she'd ... (read in full...)
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