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writes:I don't like my boyfriend watching porn. It makes me feel like I am not good enough for him. Just the thought of him watching other naked girls and doing the nasty with himself makes me sick. Should I just watch it with him? Would he stop watching it by himself if I watched it with him? I don't mind watching it with him, I just don't want him doing it by himself.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I think he might like that. Just sit behind him and stroke his manhood as he gets turned on.
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reader, Fefi  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I wholeheartedly agree, its only natural for men to watch porn, just like women like to keep clean up a mess (was that a bad example?) he is only trying to keep up the excitement between ur relationship. if you really dont mind watching with him, then sit close to him, and seeing as you both will be affected by it, you may end up carressing each other until.... you know the ending... if you dont, then just be excited and prepare yourself next time you two canoodle, he may try pulling on some new techniques ;)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 August 2010):
 No watching it with him won't make him stop watching alone. Have you tried talking to him about how it makes you feel?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 My boyfriend said to me, that a lot of guys who watch porn only watch it to get them in the mood - seeing other people have sex makes them want to have sex, but once the touching etc begins, they begin thinking about their girlfriend, doing the stuff in the video with their girlfriend. I can't tell if this is the reason your boyfriend watches porn. How much do you trust him? Use your own integrity to work it out, or just sit down and talk to him about how it makes you feel.
I know a lot of couples who like to watch porn together and it works out for them, maybe it will for you too.
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reader, Deema +, writes (8 August 2010):
 No he won't stop watching it if you watch it together. It seems to be a man thing, and if they're not mature they seem to have to do it in private and make a big secret of it. It is better if they know you don't really care about it - it really is no reflection on you, they just seem to have to look at it. But if you're not happy to look at it, tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you'd rather he did that in private. It's much better if its open, but like I said he may not be mature enough yet to share that with you. It seems to add to the thrill if they think they're doing something naughty. Let em have it. Boooooring !!!! :)))))
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reader, GettingInYourBizness +, writes (8 August 2010):
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): heya. Well you could watch it with him, but chances are he'd still watch it by himself anyway. Guys dont watch it because they dont think their girl is good enough, it is a tool they use to have a quick orgasm and continue their daily business. Dont think that it is because he is unhappy with you or your looks. I had an issue with my finance watching porn too. Just didnt understand why he'd need too, and he'd lie about doing it. But after many arguements etc he agreed to not lie about it, i agreed not to keep bringing it up, and we reached a happy medium. A few questions for you, is your sex life good? Does he often want sex more then you? Does he turn you away for sex and use porn instead of you? The last question is the most important. My guy never ever chooses porn over me. Only uses it as an extra, and still wants me. This is important to me. Ive read many posts on here about the guy picking porn over his girl. Thats a huge no no to me. I simply cannot understand a guy who would prefer to use porn then his girl. If thats not the case with you, and you are ok with watchin porn with him, try it. I watched some with my man and he far preferred me then what was happening on the screen. Which is also important. Hopefully your bf will be the same. And perhaps ask why he watches it alone, not attacking but to know. If he says 'i dunno' or 'just because' chances are he's the same as many guys who use it as a quick tool (maybe 10mins) Have a talk with him about it if you can. Bear in mind many guys get defensive if they feel like its a personal attack, and also that they do find it their own personal thing. I hope you guys can reach a compromise. Good luck!
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reader, xXJDXx +, writes (8 August 2010):
Ah.. Your feeling insecure about yourself, there's really no need to, yes he watches porn by himself.... So?? He is more than likely trying to pick up tips for your benefit. and so what if he "does the nasty" that's a perfecly normal natural thing for a man or woman to do! And if your confident enough to sit and watch porn with him you should, perhaps even try out one of the positions or two... You never kno ;) good luck!
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