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writes:As it says there, i really didnt know where else to turn. i don't have many friends left.. So i'll start from the begining. it all started when i was only 13, i'm now 16. it started as an internet relationship and i never intended it to go far i didn't even know what love was, but, i fell inlove and i'm not sure how it happened, he was 16 when i was 13, and i dont care how pervey you think it is, and we had a really good relationship, it lasted 3 years.. and now we're not talking, he missed my 16th birthday and he told me he'd never love me again, he's deleted me from msn, xbox, everything, i really need some help here :( i can't live without him hes the only one for me, hes everything i have, i wake up every morning and hes not there and i feel awful, i want him back.. why doesnt he love me? did he fake the 3 years? is he pretending it never happened? :(
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reader, MeRoboMiC4YMiCorazon  +, writes (3 September 2010):
I know how it feels, not to the same extend as you but I know how it feels to fall in love with someone via the internet and not be able to be with them, I especially know how it feels to know that they are with someone else but all I can say is move on and if you really love them (like I still love her) then just hope that your paths intertwine and that you and him can be together. I know it's hard but you can do it, I did it, and I still dream of her and I still think of her, but I know that we can't be together so I moved on, do the same. Just think of it as a Broken Sunday.
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reader, myheartwascrushedbyaformeroflove +, writes (5 August 2010):
Well maybe it was Hard for him idk i dont want to get your hopes up or anything but like that happened to me well still trying to get over it But like the last thing he said to me 4months ago was "I wont love you again ever this is it " But then i just tried to forget and with out noticing made a new MSN and added him idk how lol but well we became friends again.. and he sai " you know the reason i ended it was because it was all too hard for me i was falling inlove with you more and more everyday so i just couldnt let my self get hurt i still love you " but oh well life goes on and yh oh and yh just try to get his new msn or something or just Make a new msn and Pretend you didnt know u added him and Just try to get a conversation like u did the first time u met him like start over again
Well even thought im only 14 lol That might help (personal experience) so yeah
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (12 August 2009):
 eugh! what a complete w*****!!!! my guess is he didn't know what he really actually wanted in a relationship.
reasons being cheating he didn't want to commit to one person but he also liked the idea of you being there as someone to care for him and look after him.
when you say he realised he missed his friends was it really his friends he missed?
or perhaps someone else he had up there?
that's the thing with internet guys they seem to think they can live a double life!
one with a long distance girl and one with a girl at home and they think they're doing no wrong because the LDR won't find out about the current one and visa versa!
it's pathetic and disgusting the way he treated you! you're so young and fragile and he knew that and he used the fact you were fragile by spoon feeding you stories about everything and then shattering them because he felt he couldn't be bothered so to speak.
i think in answer to your question he did fake it because he was leading a double life one online and one wherever it was he lived.
best thing for you to do is going to be hard i know i understand that but try and move on you're such a stunning girl! and seem so lovely!!! i'm sure you'll have no problem finding a really decent guy and heck you've got alot of time to find the one!
if he got away then i don't think he was the one for you sweety!!!
i hope this helps :)
chin up!! if you ever want to talk further please don't hesitate to message me :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 I think the relationship just got too complicated for him and he bailed. He cheated on you but did you talk about cheating on him or maybe rub his face in it? If you did, that would cause anyone to walk away. He was wrong for cheating and sometimes we can forgive and it seems you didn't really forgive him but wanted to continue in the relationship. That's sort of passive aggressive and the constant reminder of our failures is hard to live with. So I'm guessing he's living without the constant reminder?
At any rate, I don't agree with giving it time. That only gets your hopes up and I really think this one's over. Too bad as it sounds like you are having trouble letting go but you will let go. Give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): theres always more to the story, i think give it time.. try contact him, try communicate.. dont give up
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (9 August 2009):
 Well, honey, he was not the man you thought he was. A guy that cheats on you is not a good match. Sure, you had an amazing connection and your relationship worked for a while, but once he cheated and those trust issues came out that wrecked your relationship.
Sometimes we love and lose and all we come away with is a harsh lesson and a broken heart. I know it hurts, but you have to try and move on. There are other men out there who will be faithful to you, and you will love again.
Good luck.
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reader, Kaykayy123 +, writes (9 August 2009):
Kaykayy123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, thank you for all the help, but as you've said you need more information, so information you'll have. Yes, we did meet in real life, in june 2007, he came to live with me, for 4 months, he realized he missed his friends so, he went back at christmas time, this was the point it all went wrong.. he cheated on me with a girl he still see's, but it started out all fine, the first time we met was when we ran away for 3 nights and slept in a train station waiting room, i remember having to come home i cried all the way :'( sigh.. but after the cheating we worked it out, and it sort of turned into one of those.. "you did it to me so why cant i do it to you?" games. which really got on my nerves cos all i wanted to do was to be happy but this was on my mind constantly.. well, now its 3 years later and the last time i saw him was his birthday which was 24th may and i havent spoke to him at all since, i've tried and all i got out of him was "i'll never love you again" :( hope this is all the info you need.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (9 August 2009):
There's more to this story. People usually don't flip out and end a 3 year relationship saying they'll never love you again unless something major happened. Maybe you don't know and he does, or maybe you both know, but either way that's the reason it's over. You'll love again eventually though it will take some time.
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reader, reign154 +, writes (9 August 2009):
it has nothing to do with you. in life today its really hard to have a long distance relatinoship but sometimes people still manage to keep that fire burning in their relationship. internet dating is another hardship. you may see eachother pictures and add eachother to diff sites but its never the same, you truly dont know each other. internet dating is basically talking to yourself becasue you never actually meet the person or go out with them as you would someone whom you actually meet in person. Dont stress yourself over this. Its the guy's lost that he let you go but dont doubt yourself from some internet guy that you thought you knew but really didnt. I think that you should just live your life and have fun, you will meet plenty of guys outside of cyber some that you may actually fall in love with and not even rememeber what you are going through now. Just move on and do whats best for you . :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Did you get his phone number or anything ? Call him if he wants to talk to you and ask him what happened ? If he deleted you that means he found someone else (online or in person). You are kind of young. I wouldn't worry about him and you can find someone else. He might look you up if he still miss you and want you back.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (9 August 2009):
Did you have a physical relationship? Did he give you any reason why he doesn't want to be with you? I think we need more information to help you.
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