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anonymous
writes:My ex husband and I have a 2 year old daughter together which he continues to use her to get to me and make me feel bad that we're not together anymore. He does nothing but stalk me, harass me, has broken up two of my relationships and lies constently about about how horrible he is to me, he twists things around so everyone thinks I'm crazy. He won't let me move on with my life and keeps track of everything i do. He even wants me to tell him if I move on or have an interest in anyone. He even researched my friends and my last boyfriend on the computer. Each time I hang out with a friend that's a guy he threatens to take me to court and now he claims he's going to leave to North Carolina 2000 miles away from me with our daughter. He want's to reconcile and has some dream of us being a family but there is no way I would ever be with him again he has done nothing but emotionally abuse me for 5 years that's why I filed for divorce in the first place. I just want him to leave me alone and feel like I can live my life with my daughter, shes already getting affected by his actions. If she sees me sad right after I get off the phone from him emotionally bashing me she asks "Is daddy being bad person? It's ok momma, daddy is hurting me." This is not what I want for her she is to young for all of this. I just want peace I don't know what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): hey. im so sorry to hear your sad story...i feel the same... my ex is stalking me and he hacked my computer and changed stuff. making stupid changes like for example, my blog. he post stuff saying im in love with him and no one else but i have a feeling for this other guy, hes very nice but hes my ex's close friend. i hate my ex. he follows me and lies all the time. save me. please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): i think you need to stop being so expreesive when you speak to your ex. you may not want to involve your child but i believe you both are doing just that. you both are consciously/unconsciously manipulating her so that she can choose sides. by you acting all sad and down it shows her that he dad is being the bad one. just leave her out of the emotional trauma you both have created. you have moved on easily from your marriage. when did you file for divorce yet you have had 2 "relationships" already. this is not a healthy situation for your daughter. she cannot be exposed to different strangers in her others life. yes you want to move on but please be more selective just to protect your daughter. i suggest getting a restraining order against your ex . but keep the kid out of your drama. she doesn't need this in her young life. you may not believe this but you too are also affecting her. there is not much you can do regarding your ex behaviour but you can also try changing your attitude.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 Honey you need to get the police involved!!! he's ruining your little girls life and yours!!! he won't let you go because he feels you're his property and that you and your little girl are SUPPOSED to be with him despite what he does to get you there.
you need to bring the police into this because he's upsetting your daughter as well and there is no way she should have to go through that!
i'm in a similar thing myself not an ex husband and ex boyfriend and i'm lucky to not have a child involved but when i mention a guy all hell breaks loose i;ve had to change my number and email account because of the abuse! you need to speak to the police about this he's harrassing you and can get into big trouble! it's obviously effecting your daughter also!!
look you want to talk further please don't hesitate to message me i understand what you're going through!
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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