I am very "turned on" by my wife with another man, is this crazy?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but have been wanting to ask someone about this for some time, but have never had the guts to ask any of my friends. My wife and I have a good friend (David). We've been friends with him for about 4 years. The 3 of ...
A. 6 September 2010: Hi
what's the story two years later? Are you still together????
Thanks!... (read in full...)
Lost in high school, lost in life generally
Q. I'm 14 and I really need help.I'm going through a really bad time in my life right now and I don't know what to do. Life sucks pretty much. All the stress from school and pressure i put on myself to do well in school is really getting to me. It's ...
A. 5 September 2010: hey man! I went through the same stuff. Life is not easy. But, as I was going through these problems, my survival sense started up, and I knew I had to make some big changes.
ultimately, if you want to save yourself, the desire has to stem ... (read in full...)
Why does intercourse still hurt?
Q. why does intercourse still hurt if iv had sex at least 15 times?...
A. 15 July 2009: well for one thing you're really too young to be having intercourse. But it could also be because you're lover is a little bit to rough and insensitive. ask him to go slower and maybe not to come in so quickly. it takes time for a woman to really ... (read in full...)
Dating for a year, but find her less attractive?
Q. Dear People I've been dating a woman for 1 year. I love her very much, and I find her extremely attractive. But recently I feel less sexually motivated and I can't determine why. Its like, I don't feel like it, or when we do it, I feel li...
A. 25 June 2009: wow! you all are sooooo far off the mark that its scary. I appreciate your kindness in trying to help me. But, no, its not purely sexual, she is a professor of philosophy and I'm a symphony musician- and amateur philosopher- we talk for hours, ... (read in full...)
She's lying to my face about things going on!
Q. I have a follow up question still pertaining to the question i asked on March 2nd the link is here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-feel-a-break-up-coming-on-and.html My wife has been lying to me about one of her male friends at work. like ha...
A. 23 March 2009: I'm sorry about this. And you do have a right to be angry, because she obviously doesn't respect you enough to tell the truth.
I think you need to confront her openly.
Its clear that your relationship is not important to her anymore. She seem... (read in full...)
I'm not desperate, but I would like to be more proactive in the dating world!
Q. i don't know what i'm doing wrong in the dating game! i'm 19, and i can honestly say i've never had a proper boyfriend! on the plus size: i'm clever, fun, honest, caring with a good sense of humour. and my issues are: i'm a bit overweight (but...
A. 7 March 2009: Take your time, you're only 19. You have years ahead of you. Stick with your friends for the good times, Go to school- accomplish your dream or goal. Eventually, in the process of doing your life, you'll meet someone. I promise!
Most people y... (read in full...)
I feel a break up coming on and am trying to determine exactly why?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 5 years now and almost married for two, and have a 3 year old daughter. Our relationship started out as your fairy tale love at first sight and I even played the night in shining armor so to speak when her and ...
A. 3 March 2009: hey man! some of things you could focus on is getting a college degree, or doing something you always dreamed to do. Going to the gym is good too. take care man. have any questions, drop me a line. Kinkydude... (read in full...)
She is sexually stressed! What can I do?
Q. I've been with a woman for 10 months now, and we love each other alot. Things have been going well, although last night she admitted that sexually she feels a little stressed out. Part of the reason, she stated, was that she has alot of problems...
A. 2 March 2009: Its similar to alzheimers, but not as severe perhaps. She's the one that does the jackhammer. Obviously I tolerate it, but sometimes I feel that it doesn't bring either of us any pleasure, so I wonder why she does it. I don't question it though, ... (read in full...)
She is sexually stressed! What can I do?
Q. I've been with a woman for 10 months now, and we love each other alot. Things have been going well, although last night she admitted that sexually she feels a little stressed out. Part of the reason, she stated, was that she has alot of problems...
A. 2 March 2009: Thanks, RCN, for your answer. I'll discuss some of these things with her.
I think we both agree with you on the making love part. Though, she is very sensitive, and perhaps I've been putting some pressure on her to try a more relaxed, tant... (read in full...)
I feel a break up coming on and am trying to determine exactly why?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 5 years now and almost married for two, and have a 3 year old daughter. Our relationship started out as your fairy tale love at first sight and I even played the night in shining armor so to speak when her and ...
A. 2 March 2009: relationships can be so hard. The problem in my view, is that you both got married way too early. What this does, is eventually create a "need" to experience life, perhaps, as it needs to be experienced.
How does this information help you in y... (read in full...)
She's very sick, and pushing me away.... What do I do?
Q. I have been with Jenn for 8 months, we were friends for a few months before that. I am a songwriter in Nashville, and she lives in North Carolina. Jenn has severe lupus, and is in pain a lot of time. She is only 26, and it kills me to know how badly ...
A. 18 February 2009: That must really hard! I'm so sorry for your pain. I've had these conversations with the woman I love. If she ever had cancer she said she'd push me away, because she couldn't stand the thought of me seeing her in that state. But I love her so ... (read in full...)
What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men?
Q. What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men, and not want to have sex anymore? When you were in a committed relationship and for some reason, things just started to go downhill. Thanks! ...
A. 9 February 2009: Thank you all for your ideas! Too Sensitive, Thank you!
Kinky Boots- you too, liked the movie by the way. And the name is similar to mine! Great taste!
Thanks all!!!!!... (read in full...)
What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men?
Q. What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men, and not want to have sex anymore? When you were in a committed relationship and for some reason, things just started to go downhill. Thanks! ...
A. 9 February 2009: how do you fall out of love. there must be reasons?... (read in full...)
What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men?
Q. What are some of the things that make women fall out of love with men, and not want to have sex anymore? When you were in a committed relationship and for some reason, things just started to go downhill. Thanks! ...
A. 9 February 2009: Right, well here is the story. My girlfriend and I are very happy. And I'd like to keep it that way. So I'm taking precautionary measures to keep things going well. I want to know why so many relationships fail. I've looked into my own as well, ... (read in full...)
My wife does not like sex...
Q. I have been married for 11 years I love my wife sooooooo much but sex priorities are far apart, I had doubts about our compatibility the week before our wedding but know that a lady can't be 100% perfect, sex is the only area that she is not 100%. ...
A. 8 February 2009: I'm not sure that its all your wifes fault. It could be that she doesn't like the way things have been done with her.
I find it hard to believe that a woman doesn't like being sensually touched all over her body, romanced, massaged, gentle s... (read in full...)
My wife does not like sex...
Q. I have been married for 11 years I love my wife sooooooo much but sex priorities are far apart, I had doubts about our compatibility the week before our wedding but know that a lady can't be 100% perfect, sex is the only area that she is not 100%. ...
A. 8 February 2009: I'm not sure that its all your wifes fault. It could be that she doesn't like the way things have been done with her.
I find it hard to believe that a woman doesn't like being sensually touched all over her body, romanced, massaged, gentle s... (read in full...)
Girlfriend thinks I'm cheating what do I do?
Q. My wife thinks I'm cheating on her because I've been refusing sex for about 4 weeks. But that's because I've been feeling like crap lately and quite stress out as well. She keeps asking me straight up if I'm cheating or not and I kept telling her I ...
A. 8 February 2009: I understand the stress thing. But when you two are together, you should really put the stress aside, like leave it outside the house, and be with her completely.
We have to learn to manage or personal lives, under stress, and I think this invo... (read in full...)
The hardest decision of my life... help me.
Q. I am 30 years old. I have 3 little boys which I love and adore more than life. I was married once and divorced and then remarried 4 years ago. We have 2 of the 3 sons together. My husband is 15 years older than me and after our last child I cou...
A. 8 February 2009: Your husband needs some serious counseling, because his negative attitude could really hurt your relationship.
I don't understand his negative feeling. The only thing I can imagine, is that
he is terribly worried about the financial as... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being tired.
Q. Please help me, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year... we live together too.. everything has been great till 3 weeks ago.. we don't talk any more we don't kiss, and sex is like once a week and when we do have sex there is no foreplay... ...
A. 8 February 2009: If you've been together so long and all of a sudden there is this change, what happened to initiate this change? Perhaps this is a temporary thing. You need to talk to your boyfriend and ask him what is up and have a heart to heart talk. Things... (read in full...)
Aphrodisiacs for hot sex???
Q. Hey does anyone have and recipes that my lover and I can try to make us hot in the bed... like aphrodisiacs or something? We would love to know!...
A. 29 January 2009: try maca, and or Yohimbe- though the latter is said to not be recommendable for people with heart issues. Maca works wonderfully... (read in full...)
He seemed crazy about me, but now says we have no future. Huh?!
Q. Hi, Am having some trouble understanding a situation - I have had a few bad dating experiences lately and a couple of months ago I met someone I thought I could really like. We started going out and he seemed particularly thrilled with me, I've nev...
A. 28 October 2008: to be honest, I think he's freaked out. Maybe he doesn't quite trust you over something. If he's secretly jealous, or afraid that you might harm him emotionally in some way. Maybe he would like kids and you don't/ Or marriage, and you're not the ... (read in full...)
I gave him my heart, my virginity, my dignity, my everything! He took it and left! Will I ever get over him?
Q. We're both 18 and after nearly two years, we're over. I gave him my heart, my virginity, my dignity, my everything! He took it and left! I have no idea what I'm going to do without him! I based my whole life plan on him! I was in love with him, ...
A. 28 September 2008: yeah! first heartbreaks are the toughest, but you'll move on. Its generally the case that first loves don't last. Some go through many heartbreaks or relationships before they find the "one". You're really young, and you will heal, and future ... (read in full...)
He didn't send me a birthday card on Friday, I am deeply hurt and have ignored his calls for the weekend. Should I let him go?
Q. Im a little confused..ive been seeing a great guy for months and although hes a little forgetful we have a ball and i have no other complaints. But...it was my birthday on Friday and even though he had a wedding to go to that morning in England for ...
A. 22 September 2008: hi! One of the problems with us men, is that we can be quite forgetful about things. We may love you, care about you, not want to hurt you. But we just don't have great memory. Its a man thing. But he may still love you and cherish being with ... (read in full...)
Do we have a realistic chance of rebuilding our family after an affair?
Q. has any one been in my situation or can anyone give me some advice.Can a marriage survive an affair which resulted in a baby.I dont love my wife i had affair with an old flame and fell in love with her,i got caught out and i chose to stay with my ...
A. 21 September 2008: The problem is that you don't love your wife. If you did love her, I'd say there be some possibilities. If things are really miserable you should think about a separation. You should still be able to see your children, and you'll be with a women ... (read in full...)
He was playing it 'cool' so I asked, very casually, where I stood with him! I'm confused by his behaviour!
Q. i started seeing a guy about six weeks ago, casualy. I met himm for a drink and we got on well, we text a fair bit and i meet him in company maybe once every week and a half or so. I met him through my friend, he is very laid back. i was warned ...
A. 21 September 2008: he's doing what is necessary to entice you, and its working. but what you should do is make him come after you. men value what is difficult to attain-not impossible mind you- but for him to fall for you, things might be a little more difficult to ... (read in full...)
I can't achieve an orgasm with bf or ex's.-thoughts or advice would be much appreciated
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over two years and i've had other partners before him. i can not achive an orgasm with him and never have with anyone else either. i can do it myself but i have an odd way of doing it. i lie on my stomach and rub my ...
A. 20 September 2008: I've read that often times, women harbor many of their trauma in there body and genitals... like men too. Try working through those issues. Eventually you may find that your able to be touched on your clitoris, and other parts of you, without ... (read in full...)
I finally found my lost love after 16 years, but he's married? What do you think is the best thing I should do?
Q. I just recently found a man i was in love with back in high school, and still in love with after. We were together for four years even after he moved away. He then moved back after high school graduation so we could be together. The thing is, the ...
A. 20 September 2008: what do I think is best? You already know the answer to your question, i believe.
Its not really appropriate to get involved with him right now. Wait till the marriage is over, and its been some time. That way he's on his own, and can make a prop... (read in full...)
How do you know when to get out of a relationship?
Q. Ok let me fill everyone in. I have been with this guy for 3 years. We have a 1 year old together. We've had problems from the beginning because he has a hard time dealing with my past. Everytime he's ever questioned me about it, I tell him what he ...
A. 18 September 2008: This guy sounds abusive and jealous. You're in a bad situation. I would try to get some counseling because things are not likely to change by themselves. You wan't a man who loves you for who and what you are. They exist... Perhaps you ha... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for being jealous of my boyfriend looking at younger women?
Q. Am I crazy for being jealous of my boyfriend looking at younger women?...
A. 18 September 2008: Men look at women. If he loves you, you've nothing to worry about. You're not crazy though...you're quite normal, so don't be too hard on yourself.... (read in full...)
I can't achieve an orgasm with bf or ex's.-thoughts or advice would be much appreciated
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over two years and i've had other partners before him. i can not achive an orgasm with him and never have with anyone else either. i can do it myself but i have an odd way of doing it. i lie on my stomach and rub my ...
A. 18 September 2008: You put your hand on your pubic bone...does that mean that your clitoris is to sensitive to touch it directly?
you need to identify why you're not able to have orgasm with men. what feels good to you when your having intercourse? Is it too roug... (read in full...)
My husband is struggling with low sexual desire-Please help if you ca
Q. I'm in a terrible confusion, and I don't know what to think.. My husband is struggling with low sexual desire, and erectal dissfunction at the last few years.. He went for medical check-up, any ,they never found anything... He also has involunt...
A. 18 September 2008: have you been married long? Is he taking some kind of medication for his prostate, like proscar?
For one thing, a little sexual variation may help. The finger anus thing doesn't mean he's gay, thats certain. I would have him try Maca, or... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this loss of interest?
Q. Hey Dearcupid readers, My girlfriend has gained quite a bit of weight over the past year. She has not been successful in dealing with it, nor have my attempts to help. I am not going to ask how to address that as there are many excellent posts ...
A. 18 September 2008: I can relate to your story and feelings. I was dating a women some time back.
At one point I realized her bum was a little larger than I would have liked, and eventually I lost complete interest.
HOWEVER:
I'm currently with a woman who has othe... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get her past relationships out of my mind, and it's driving me crazy!
Q. Hey people I need some help! I have been with my gf for 1 year and 9 months. she is my first ever girlfriend. She is the first girl i have ever done anything with. I have only ever kissed one girl before her. We gave each other our virginit...
A. 17 September 2008: love and jealousy don't go together. jealousy is about possession, love is about freedom. My chick has been with numerous guys. I love her, so it doesn't bother me. Focus and the happiness of being with her, creating wonderful moments. The ... (read in full...)
Is it normal after a 12 hr love making session to get up, switch on the pc and start going at it to porn??
Q. Can anyone tell me, is it normal for a man, after a 12 hour love-making session the day before and a night spent together, to wake up the next morning, switch on the computer in the bedroom, and start wanking to porn while his girlfriend (me) is in ...
A. 17 September 2008: no, this is not normal. My partner and I make love from evening till morning and I never have desire to wank to porn afterwards...it totally thoughtless and selfish... does he have trouble have orgasm during normal sex? ... (read in full...)
I feel my life is going nowhere, for as long as we're at his dad's!
Q. I lived with my boyfriend for a little over a year and then we moved out and moved into his dads house to try and save money to buy a house. Well, times got tough and we haven't been able to really save any money because his business was not gene...
A. 17 September 2008: you may want to share the fact the if things don't change, you're not going to be around anymore. Communication is really important in a relationship. You need to tell him everything that you've stated here...he's bound to change. if he doesn;t ... (read in full...)
Single and losing hope. Any advice?
Q. I have been single for about the past 2 years and I hate every second of it. I have been rejected by at least 50 women and I am at my breaking point. I don't want to approach anyone anymore because I know that I will just be rejected. I can't ...
A. 15 September 2008: Man, your really psyching yourself out. First off, your still really young. Identify those issues which you believe are holding you back from not finding someone, and work on it.
Another thing, don't try and randomly meet chicks. If some... (read in full...)
We're in a push-and-pull relationship. Can I fix things up? Or should I move on?
Q. I am confused here. I don't know how she thinks and what she want. Her actions and words are contrary. I am with her for almost 1 year. We start off great but now I feel the love is dying. We live far and rarely meet. We rely mostly on instant...
A. 15 September 2008: I'm sorry to tell you this, but long distance relationships almost never work.
there are of course, exceptions, but the general rule is that, for a relationship to work, there needs to be physical intimacy. When that isn't there, there isn't a mu... (read in full...)
My desire for a relationship is strong but I think my size is an issue! How can I overcome this?
Q. I have posted questions previously about how I worry about how my appearance will affect my relationships in the future. Quick reminder - I am nineteen years old, six foot dark hair blue eyes. My close female friends say I'm sweet and kind and love...
A. 15 September 2008: if you got love in your heart, you'll never be alone. you'll find someone, of that, I'm certain. don't stress it brother!... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person because I either want everything or nothing at all?
Q. I've been moved reassigned from LDR to "friend" and she can't understand why my attitude towards her has changed. She's been hinting at it for a couple weeks now by telling me what she wants in a man (none of which I am) and the other night she ...
A. 15 September 2008: she may think that you're all those things she's been telling you. Perhaps, she's into you. Be a man and tell her you're interested...take her out for coffee... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest in me? He has trouble staying erect...
Q. I am 23 years old and engaged to a man who is 30. We have been together for 4 years and have had a good sex life until recently. About a month ago we start having problems, where my sex drive is a lot higher than his and he is not satisfying me. ...
A. 14 September 2008: yeah i would agree to that. First off...A man (in his thirtys) shouldn't ejaculate more than 2 time a week. Slightly more for a guy in his 20s. How do you have sex without him ejaculating? He has to learn how to orgasm WITHOUT EJACULATION. ... (read in full...)
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