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writes:This may seem like no big deal but I should let you know that I keep my facebook friend list very limited. I don't go around sending or accepting requests for and from everyone I meet on the street. (this isn't twitter). I have about 100 hundred friends in total. Now when it comes to "in laws" I don't feel comfortable being facebook friends with them. In my brother's case he and this girl barely have two months together. What if they break up (which happens alot in today's world she's gonna be on my FB friend list. What are we gonna talk about "farmville"? In my sister's case I haven't even added her bf (who has been dating her for over a year now). My feel is that it looks like uneccessary hype and melo-drama like 'hey my bro dating you so let's be fb friends now'. Now she (brothers gf) has sent request to more than half my family. what should I do should I accept it?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 May 2012):
 The other option, as you seem to feel strongly about not being all over FB with acquaintances, is to make your profile invisible to people who search for it. Only your friends will be able to see you and your posts, if you set yourself to a high level of security. I had a friend who had a stalker and if you search for this person on FB, there are no signs of this friend. This of course means you have to add people as no one will be able to add you as a friend.
Another friend of mine was trying desperately to keep her personal and professional lives separate on FB and she did the same. She is a very private person and just feared having too much personal information out there for her business colleagues to see.
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (4 May 2012):
 I would add her and limit her and delete her if they break up...
I also try to keep mine limited, but not as much as I would like to.
I'm sure this girl just wants all of his family to like her and if she becomes your FB friend, maybe ya'll will get to know each other better and like each other... surely this is her thoughts. :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 May 2012):
 Accepting a fb request isn't some kind of legally binding contract! If they break up, you can always un-friend her. If you're not comfortable letting her see your profile you can put her on a limited profile (settings, privacy). That way there is no melo-drama. She doesn't feel hurt, but she doesn't really have access to anything.
I do think 2 months is way way way too soon to be adding family, but I don't see the harm in just adding her and then not letting her see much of your profile.
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