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writes:I was just wondering what other peoples view on this is...When I go to bed at night, if my boyfriend has fallen asleep somewhere besides bed, I always wake him up to come join me in bed. Last night, I had kind of fallen asleeep on the couch. I heard the movie end, then I heard him get up to brush his teeth, then he came back in the room I was in to turn off the light, then he walked through the next room to turn off that light (the last light) and then he started walking toward the bed when I hollard, "You weren't going to get me up?" He then turned around and said, "Uhh, yeah I was." But he wasn't, he wasn't walking toward me, he was almost in bed.So, I know this isn't that big of a deal and maybe I am thinking too much into it, I was just wondering if there is a reason men do this - do they really not care for the woman to lay next to them in bed or do they just not want to wake the woman? Please advise if you have time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (1 October 2008):
Hopeful Romantic is verified as being by the original poster of the question DiovanLestat, you're right, he is a good one and I am lucky to have him. Thank you so much. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Common cowgirl, he isn't that quick thinking. It took him a whole day to come up with that one. ;) Good one though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): mmmm.. you've got a very smart clever guy there, (I think the men know what I mean) Please keep him, he loves you very much, and he is a very quick thinking clever young man. Don't be upset, he loves you and considers your feelings and comfort at all times...
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (30 September 2008):
Hopeful Romantic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank all of you who replied! I really do appreciate it as it is nice to read others view points.
Funny thing is, yesterday, my boyfriend actually told me, "You know, last night, I was just going to look and make sure there was nothing on the bed & then I was going to carry you to bed." (but of course I ruined that by asking, "were you not going to wake me?") hahaha - I guess we can all be silly at times and I over reacted in my own head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): i myself would also be hurt if he went off to bed and left me there,didnt even bother to bring a throw over for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): I don't think it is a big deal. But I do the same thing, if my husband falls asleep somehwere else I have to get him up, I have even pulled him to wake him up to go to bed. I can't sleep if he isn't there. But I noticed that he doesn't do the same if I fall asleep somewhere. It did bother me b/c I thought why doesn't he want me with him like I want him with me? I think it's just that they don't think about it too much. They just don't see a point in disturbing you. The only thing I find strange is that he said he was going to get you up when he clearly was not. But, he might have just wanted to avoid conflict.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 September 2008):
If you are comfy and happy on the sofa, why would he prod you, wake you up, and force you to walk to a place where he can snore and lie on you?
He's leaving you there because you are asleep and comfy on the sofa.
It's very selfish to disturb someone just so you can have the pleasure of being able to roll on them in your sleep.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 September 2008):
 If my husband fell asleep on the couch I probably wouldn't disturb him and I think he would most likely do the same for me. As our couch is about as comfortable as a sack of potatoes this has never happened. I don't think this is a biggie.
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reader, hardrive +, writes (29 September 2008):
hi. It really is not a big deal. When my gf falls asleep on the couch. I never wake her up to join me in bed cuz I don't want to disturb her. She is usually fast asleep. Maybe ur bf thought u were too deep in sleep n didnt want to wake u up. Just forget about it.
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