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I'm miserable and in love with someone else.
Q. Hi everyone, ok I have a sitution thats a little different then a lot I've read so far. I am a female and I'm with a female, I've been with her off and on for 3 years and she is a wonderful person but she doesn't trust me and she has some serious ...
A. 3 November 2008: You need to break up with your gf, for the reasons you sated outside of the new love interest. (I would not mention the new love interest to her, so she does not feel as if that is why you are breaking up) Also, you are not responsible for your gf's ... (read in full...)
She asks me online to go out, then disrespects me to my face. I only want to be her friend. How do I make things right ?
Q. This isn't really a question...well I need advice I guess. A few days ago someone added me and then wrote me a messege on myspace They randomly asked me out (it was someone I knew but didn't know why they "asked me out". So i kept asking the...
A. 26 October 2008: Leave her alone, she is not worth it. She has some serious issues and is taking them out on you. No one has the right talk to you like that. Those words where only said and meant to hurt you. (I'm not sure about you, but I'm not friends with mean ... (read in full...)
How do I find out how she feels?
Q. Hi Readers. This is not my first time to ask for advice on dearcupid, but the last time I didn't really get any advice that helped me and my problem... Basically, I'm a woman in my early 20's and am, and have been in love with another female...
A. 11 October 2008: I have a hard time believing anyone wants to live alone. Honestly, I would take the plunge and tell her that you like spending time with her and if she would be up for it, you would like to see where things go. (you don't have to divulge more then ... (read in full...)
My classmate pressurises me for sex and I'm starting to feel scared to say no!
Q. Theres this boy in my class and he says i have to have sex withhim, but i dont feel ready. Its horrible though because he says stuff that makes me feel uncomfortable and he's started putting his hands down my shirt and once down my skirt i told him ...
A. 11 October 2008: That is sexual assault and harassment.
You need to tell your parents, a teacher, or a councilor now. You have done nothing wrong, but you need to be responsible in doing the right thing and that is by getting authoritative help. If you keep sil... (read in full...)
My boyfriend shows my nude pictures to his friends, isn't this wrong?
Q. My boy friend used to be addicted to porn but now he doesnt havethe internet and is forever taking pictures of my bits. I wouldnt be to bothered but he shows his friends at i'm still young and i feel very uncomfortable but he says if i love him then ...
A. 11 October 2008: Yes it is wrong.
I know you may care for him, but what he is doing is wrong on so many different levels. ... (read in full...)
Is my husband playing me?
Q. my husband and i have been together for almost 7 years but married for almost 5 years and he left me for the second time in augest and he is another state and has a girlfriend but keeps calling me and says he is will to work things out but dont ...
A. 11 October 2008: Red flag one. He's setting rules to follow. This indicates you are not equals but rather your second to him. (or maybe its a game, I mean games have set rules too.) Red Flag Two. He's keep things secret, indicating hes manipulative. Red Flag three ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex who was abusive to me, we want to take it slow, how do I make sure I do not get hurt again?
Q. So my ex and i are currently talking again-i am on a break with my current boyfriend because i can't get over my ex. anyway, i broke up with my ex because he was emotionally abusive and disrespectful-pressuring me to smoke and drink and sleep with ...
A. 11 October 2008: There are some people in life you will always love, but do to history and circumstances those people are not meant to be a part of your life. The fact that you are worried, means that the past can not just be the past. How do you learn from the past ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love your mother's girlfriend?
Q. i am so deeply in love with my mom girlfriend and i know that sounds a little crazy but i never thought that it could happen..i have always been attracted to both man and woman but woman more so and i when i met her it was something that i just ...
A. 9 October 2008: Your last paragraph is a bit confusing. You seem to be asking a few things, I would say take them one at a time. If you want to come out, start with a close family member first or maybe just talk to someone your close too,other then your mom's ... (read in full...)
I told her I needed time to get over her but that just makes her upset! What's the best way to handle this?
Q. i recently started liking my best friend who is a girl. we found out that we both liked each other and things were going slow but good for a week or so until her ex's dad ended up in the hospital. to make a long story short i told her that she ...
A. 28 September 2008: Well, that does change things. Looks like you are doing what you can to help, and you seem to have a handle on the situation. Best of luck to you. ... (read in full...)
Two girls. One's my ex-girlfriend, the other a girl who likes me, but I don't like her that way. What do I do? what does it mean?
Q. Ok, so here's the deal. About a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. About two weeks ago, she was acting like nothing was wrong and was all touchy-feely to the extent that people have been asking if we were going back out. Its hard to just...
A. 27 September 2008: First decided if you want your ex back. If not, be public about telling her your not dating any more. In other words let people know, otherwise they wont know what conclusions to draw. If you do want your ex back, then ask her was is going on? ... (read in full...)
I told her I needed time to get over her but that just makes her upset! What's the best way to handle this?
Q. i recently started liking my best friend who is a girl. we found out that we both liked each other and things were going slow but good for a week or so until her ex's dad ended up in the hospital. to make a long story short i told her that she ...
A. 27 September 2008: You did what I would have done. Sacrifice your own wants for a friends happens. Some would argue, if it was your sacrifice to make? I think you should take a long look at the reasons why you decided she would be better off with her boyfriend then ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a good experience with a younger still coming out to herself and others lesbian? Help!
Q. So I am dating this woman(23) who has never been with a girl before let alone in any kind of long-term relationship..i am 9 years her senior and have been in several relationships, so knowing everything she is thinking about i am being uuuuber ...
A. 27 September 2008: She sounds a lot like me. I would say your openness might help her own. It might be easier for her to be physical with you rather then emotional. Some people are just really good at holding there emotions and concerns inside and they get embarra... (read in full...)
She wants to move in, but I'm happy the ways things are. I feel like she is being selfish. Do I stay or do I go?
Q. I don't know whether to stay in a relationship or to tell her I give up? We are both lesbian. She wants me to move in with her--has wanted this since 2 months after we met. I am not used to moving this fast. Apparently this is common with les...
A. 25 September 2008: Those are some very legitimate concerns. You shouldn't feel pressured to do things, especially things such as moving in or lending money. And as harsh as it is, her mother is not your responsibility and she should respect your feelings on not ... (read in full...)
I keep having this dream about her! How do I stop the dreams? And do they mean I'm a lesbian?
Q. I am still unable to get over my high school crush, and I am now entering my second year of college. When I was in high school there was this girl who seemed to be flirting with me non-stop. However, as a female myself, I was never sure if sh...
A. 16 September 2008: I think you might be reading to much into this. You dream about her because she is on your mind or something in your day connects you to that time. Whatever the reason you did reject her in the dream. To me this would indicate you don't want her ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my sexuality as I have thoughts about kissing a girl and I got bored easily when dating boys...
Q. Im confused about my sexuality, i don't know whether i am bi curious bisexual or straight? I've had boyfriends and been on plenty of dates with guys, but i get really bored of them after a little while and end up messing them about un intenti...
A. 20 August 2008: Hmm,
Well you have asked the question now you just have to figure out if you want to know the answer. One thing you can do is look around online and read other peoples stories and see what being bi, straight, curious and gay means to them. Or... (read in full...)
She won't take the risk for me but she says she needs me!
Q. ok so i fell in love with this girl.. shes 19 and lives in tx, still with her parents and im 14 and live in illinois.. we met online, not looking for relationships or anything, i was bi curious and she was just straight. so we talked for awhile, we ...
A. 20 August 2008: Wow, that is quite the story. I’ll just offer some thoughts that popped into my head when reading it. On one hand it sounds as if she may just be needy, on the other hand it could be confusion. But in either case it’s unfair to you to put your ... (read in full...)
We cuddle up next to each other on her sofa in our underwear under the blanket, whilst her fiance's in the room, he doesn't seem to mind.
Q. Right here's the thing... Im a girl and im in love with my best friend whose also a girl, shes engaged to a guy and they are very happy together, been together for more than 5 years. I met her at college and about 5 months down the line i started ...
A. 15 August 2008: Sorry for the delayed response.
My situation was a bit different then yours. Ultimately what it took was distance and a whole lot of overtime at work. But even before that, I just stopped hanging out with her so much, since I knew I wanted s... (read in full...)
We cuddle up next to each other on her sofa in our underwear under the blanket, whilst her fiance's in the room, he doesn't seem to mind.
Q. Right here's the thing... Im a girl and im in love with my best friend whose also a girl, shes engaged to a guy and they are very happy together, been together for more than 5 years. I met her at college and about 5 months down the line i started ...
A. 10 August 2008: I feel your pain and confusion, having been there myself.
You need to decide what you want from the relationship. If it is more then friendship, I agree with Emilysanswers, you need to get away from her so you can move on.
You need to l... (read in full...)
How do I know if my house mate needs professional help to get over her breakup?
Q. How do I know if my house mate needs professional help to get over her breakup? I live with a couple that broke up over the summer after we signed a lease. Where all in college. At the beginning of the school year she acted as if her and her e...
A. 28 July 2008: Well its been awhile but i thought i would throw in this follow up. Things did get worse and came to a climax when she decided to hurt herself over spring break. Long story short she ended up getting counseling.... (read in full...)
Being a lesbian is my worst nightmare so how do I prevent it?!
Q. So, I'm 17 years old and I'm pretty certain I'm a lesbian. When I was 12 I realised I was bi-sexual, but when I was 16 my feelings for men gradually grew distant. I wasn't happy about being bi-sexual, but I dealt with it, I even came out to ...
A. 28 July 2008: Its hard to be true to ones self, especially when the truth is something you much rather avoid or ignore. You say being a lesbian is your worst nightmare, how come? You have already identified yourself as bi, thus admitting an attraction to women. ... (read in full...)
She wants space and to date other people, I don't have a problem with that. Should I back off completely?
Q. im a 33 yr old who has a realtionship question--i met a girl on the internet--it was supposed to be only a friend with benefits--but we clicked the first night we met---after the 3 rd time of hanging out i was staying the night--we continiued seeing ...
A. 29 May 2008: Depends on what you want from a relationship. I think if she wishes to pursue other people then you should let her and do the same. You sound like a really nice guy, and I give you credit for staying and supporting, but there is only so much one ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this first time hook up? I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself...
Q. I really don't even know where to start. I'm completely and utterly disappointed in myself and filled with regret. I met this guy Dan through a friend a couple of years ago. We really hit it off, but he was then deployed to Iraq. I haven't seen ...
A. 29 May 2008: *hugs* I'm sorry things haven't turned out better. Its hard coping with regret, and he is jerk for not saying much. Its possible he might not know what to say, but that still does not lessen his jerk status. I think if you have made valid effort ... (read in full...)
I think he wants to love me, but isn't capable of doing so!
Q. My boyfriend and I have had ongoing issues for the full term of our relationship. We have been together for almost 8 years and have a beautiful daughter. The way he is behaving towards me is causing doubts in my heart as to whether he really loves ...
A. 29 May 2008: I sympathizes with his issues, however I'm more concerned with you. I think the real question is what do you want from a relationship and are you getting these things? If not what can be done to fix the situation? I understand that every ... (read in full...)
What's keeping me from telling my best friends who I like?
Q. Heyy Why can't I tell my BEST friends who i like ? If they are supposed to be my best friends (as i have 2) I should be able to tell them but something holds me back when it comes to it. Do i trust them ? x...
A. 29 May 2008: If your not conferable telling someone something, then don't. You should never feel pressured to divulge information for the sole purposes of fitting some standard. In this case the the standard of best friend. Do what your conferable with and ... (read in full...)
My work colleague often watches me and I recently got caught in a lingering gaze with her. Could she be attracted to me?
Q. I have a colleague at work and am getting very confused by her actions. We are both women of the same age she is single and I am attatched. I really like her and have done for months. She is in charge of the department where i work but is not ...
A. 27 May 2008: hmm... Are there any work repercussions other then gossip, that could happen if you two where to enter into a relationship? If there are any other women/colleagues that you get along with in the office, you could try and form a group thing. Such ... (read in full...)
I am bi curious and want to explore this side of my sexuality that my BF supports. How should I approach the girls?
Q. Hello! I'm 20 and live in [...] with my fiance and i'm bi curious....where do I find girls that I can have a physical relationship with (not so emotional) and how do I go about approching them? My fiance supports me in being bi-curious ...
A. 25 May 2008: It’s great that your willing to explore your sexuality but to what end? I mean your engaged and in my mind committed to another, but those are just my beliefs showing through. As CupidsArrow said, a gay bar would probably be your best bet. But for ... (read in full...)
I told a lot of lies. Now she throws it at me when we argue. How do I stop this pattern?
Q. i am lesbian,33 and my civil partner is 24..i told alot of lies in the 1st yr of our relationship and when i got caught out i stopped as i do not want to lose her..she forgave me on condition that i never lie to her again..i have kept my side up but ...
A. 25 May 2008: I’ve always been of the attitude of if its not working then leave. However, you express an interest in trying to “fix” your relationship, a task that can only be done if you’re both willing to work at it. First off, saying things in a fight for ... (read in full...)
An advice please onow to cope from people who had casual encounters they later regretted?
Q. OK I feel as though I need to explain myself or apologise before I even start as I dont want people to misjudge me. My bf and I are both models and even though our world is full of superficial people, I pride the fact that neither of us are like ...
A. 20 May 2008: There’s not much you can say to someone that has feeling for you and not hurt them to a degree but you can try and ease the blow sometimes. There are many things you can say, I think as long and your firm and clear things will turn out fine. Just ... (read in full...)
A period twice in one month? Why?
Q. I'm 17 and Kay well I have my period April 7 - 13 and then I got it again April 25 - current... I did have unprotected sex with my boyfriend in between those times.. but I was just wondering if it was normal to get your period twice in one month.. ...
A. 30 April 2008: I'm no expert, but that does seem short, do you tend to have regular cycles and is there any abnormal pain? I've tried to look on Web MD (http://www.webmd.com/) to see if there was anything but I didn't find much on the subject of short cycles. ... (read in full...)
I just want to know if I like men...but I'm challenging that, to know for sure if I do or not.
Q. I am doubting my love for my b/f because of questioning sexuality. I asked a question just a week ago and people said that I should stick with him (and i want to) because I love him, but I'm questioning that now. I'm questioning if i truly am attr...
A. 30 April 2008: Its hard to really tell what the question is. Your concerned about your sexuality and it is effecting your relationship. I guess the my question is what you want to do about it? Do you want to hold onto your love for your boyfriend or do you want ... (read in full...)
Do you think she could be Bi-sexual?
Q. So I think I'm bi.. actually pretty sure just I always tried to ignore that side of me up till now. I've had emotional attachments to close friends before, but never a more physical interest in a girl who is currently my closest friend right now. ...
A. 26 January 2008: Its hard to say if she's bi or not. There is a large step between emotional attraction and physical attraction. I guess the first step would be to figure out what you want. I went through something similar, I felt more for a female friend of mine ... (read in full...)
My view on whether love is selfish or not.
Q. I'm just 17 years old and had to do this for an English class i've read many other peoples articles on whether they think it is or not so I wanted to submit mine. You may not agree with anything in this article but it is just my opinion I am not t...
A. 28 December 2007: I'm not sure if love is selfish. I think that within love there can be selfishness but i don't think love is selfish. Love is a feeling, and it can manifest itself in many ways; such as to a friend, family, pet, or a significant other. Focusing ... (read in full...)
Do I end it... even although we're good together?
Q. Well, my problem is that I'm with this girl who I reckon I've been seeing for about 4 weeks maybe more, and I feel we both feel really good together and have been enjoying being with each other but a day ago she told me that she got drunk at the ...
A. 28 December 2007: If you can forgive her and trust her then there is no reason you can't continue a relationship.I mean she was drunk... However, on a more critical note does alcohol excuse ones actions? Personally I don't think it does and I'm not sure i could... (read in full...)
We're on two completely different wavelengths, and I don't know what to do.
Q. right you wont belive the mess im in, bassically im 19 years old, jus come out of a pretty destructive relationship, ive known this girl for 4 years, we dated when we were younger although it wasnt very serious, she was besotted with me, but being a ...
A. 27 December 2007: You need to give her space. You can't talk to someone not willing to talk to you, to try and do that would just be harassment to some extent. If she has told you to leave her alone then you need too. Sometimes life doesn't allow for things to end ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to want to kiss my best friend who is a girl?
Q. Is it okay to wanna kiss my best friend, who is a girl? I need help, cause Im also in love with this guy....
A. 22 December 2007: Its how you feel, and its ok. I've wanted to kiss one of my friends. i think that feeling came from how emotionally close i felt to her. I never did, nor did i ever talk about it, it was just a feeling i had sometimes and i enjoyed it for what it ... (read in full...)
Do I confront her about the way she avoids me?
Q. Okay so I've been seeing this girl for a few months and we have a lot in common. We knew from the first day we met that we'd probably end up really liking each other. A couple weeks ago I stayed over at her place and we went out to breakfast the ...
A. 19 December 2007: Tough situation.
From what you have said i would have a few hesitations about getting involved. One being the games she playing with changing her voice mail and making you call her. The second is her attachment issues with her grandmot... (read in full...)
Is my cousin bi curious or just awkward around me because I am a lesbian?
Q. Hi i am female 18 years old and also a lesbian, i just got back in contact with my cousin who is also female but tells me she is not a lesbian, she has been acting very weird around me. its sort of like she's trying to tell me she fancies me, i am ...
A. 16 December 2007: Be strait up with her. Ask her what's up. Then be prepared for the possible answers. Have your feelings worked out on the possibility's. I'm not sure about you, but if it were me and my cousin told me they liked me i would say, "I'm flattered but ... (read in full...)
I am a married woman falling in love with my lover, what should my next move be?
Q. i have been married for 12 years there has been nothing between my husband and i for about 2 years and I have been having an affair for the past 12 months with a man who is also in a relationship. Iam falling in love with my lover and think he has ...
A. 16 December 2007: Ok first thing first, you are married. Assuming that this marriage is not an open marriage you need to either get a divorce or break up with your lover so you can work out your marriage. But thats my feeling on the matter.
Considering your que... (read in full...)
I love him but I think I would be better off without him, should I listen to my heart or my head?
Q. have been dating a guy for 6 months i fell in love with him.he says he loves me but we hardly spend any time together or even talk.i feel like i am being used by him but don't know what i should do i love him.so should i listen to my heart or my mi...
A. 16 December 2007: Sometimes I think our mind tells us what our heart can not see. Look at what you want in a relationship, if your not getting what you want and expect from a relationship then you that needs to be addressed. You can discuses with him how you feel ... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my first love, and I've heard she has feelings for me too, but she has a boyfriend.
Q. hey i been thinkin alot recently and its about an old girlfriend of mine that i broke up with bout a year ago now n she has a new boyfriend now but i hav heard from my best mate.. hu is also her best mate that she still has strong feelings for me n ...
A. 16 December 2007: First of I would review why you broke up in the first place. Second i would say that if you really cared about her you would not put her in a situation where she needs to decided between you or her boyfriend. Honestly i feel like timing is a big ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my house mate needs professional help to get over her breakup?
Q. How do I know if my house mate needs professional help to get over her breakup? I live with a couple that broke up over the summer after we signed a lease. Where all in college. At the beginning of the school year she acted as if her and her e...
A. 2 December 2007: Thanks for your comment, even if i do feel that your calling me condescending, mean and insensitive. I've decided that, counseling probably wouldn't do much for her, I'm just not sure what to do or say and i wish i knew someone that did. I fea... (read in full...)
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