Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 15 May 2009: Wow, she really does have attention issues, which would explain why she's so desperate to keep you strung along.
Cut contact and when she does call you and invite you out STOP GOING!
You KEEP seeing her. Why????
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Would this be considered an abusive relationship?
Q. I already posted a question, but it's getting worse.. This clingy, attatched boyfriend is getting rediculous... My phone was messed up and basically unusable. And so I got an old one a friend had given me. It was tmobile, I have att, my boyfriend ...
A. 11 May 2009: Why is your mum cutting back the time you see him?
Why aren't you dumping him for being an arse?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 11 May 2009: She is not doing it on purpose, and I'm she doesn't want to hurt you but she wants your company and friendship and will lead you on in order to spend time with you.
Stay strong and don't see her unless she tells you over the phone in advance ... (read in full...)
Stories and experiences with IVF?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if anyone can give me some stories about their experiences of IVF treatment? M husband and i will be starting the treatment later this year and i would love to hear some other peoples stories? thank-you so much xx...
A. 7 May 2009: http://www.mothers35plus.co.uk/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=22
Try here.
just put IVF support into google and millions of places come up.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Age difference. Great relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 50 year old man, who has just had a 3 month relationship with a 27 year old woman. We hit it off straight away and have enjoyed the most fantastic three months together. We have had numerous weekends away in romantic venues and roma...
A. 7 May 2009: No, she is being a little immature about this.
If you dump someone then you cannot be the one to decide that it's fine to be just friends.
You can't expect someone to
a) stop their feelings
and
b) get over you while you are still there.
... (read in full...)
Am I diabetic?
Q. My mum is dibetic, and i had symtoms of diabities, dizziness,blurred vision,thirsty all the time and going to the loo alot a feel like am gonna faint all the time. so i used my mams one touch to take my blood sugar levels and it came back as just ...
A. 7 May 2009: Oh in fact here is what you can do:
Call NHS direct or go on their website.
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/
08 45 46 47
The number looks too short but it does work.
They can tell you if you need to go to the doc to get checked out.
Goo... (read in full...)
Can someone text too much?
Q. I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story). In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've ...
A. 7 May 2009: Yes you can text too much.
If she is a teacher then she will only be able to text you back at breaktime / lunchtime.
Send her a text by all means but don't text and text and text. Wait for her reply.
Also, don't just send boring "hi how are ... (read in full...)
In love with my flatmate - but is a good idea to make a move?
Q. Hey. I live in a shared house with 4 other people. A few months ago the latest flat mate moved in. From the first moment i saw her i thought she was gorgeous, but i didn't do anything about it, as i just thought my feelings where down to h...
A. 7 May 2009: Cool, as long as you are ok with each other that is the main thing.
Friends are excellent to have. You make some of your best ones at uni.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I diabetic?
Q. My mum is dibetic, and i had symtoms of diabities, dizziness,blurred vision,thirsty all the time and going to the loo alot a feel like am gonna faint all the time. so i used my mams one touch to take my blood sugar levels and it came back as just ...
A. 7 May 2009: I thought you didn't... oh well.
They are changing so fast because you are diabetic.
Your gran is talking crap. Talk to your mum.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Sexually incompatible but everything else in our marriage is good!
Q. My wife and I have been married for ten years. All 'n all we have a good relationship, except our sex lives. I'd like some "outside perspectives" over what the problem(s) might be, and what others have expereinced, so I appreciate your feedback. ...
A. 7 May 2009: I take it you are giving all the other types of affection etc and not just going to her for sex?
I don't think a doctor can fix a low sex drive. It's just the way she is unfortunately.
As you say, she may not have been the best choice of partne... (read in full...)
Random question hope you can help
Q. hi i know you guys are not doctors but i was jsut wondering whether anyone has had this before or whether someone recognizes it? on my tongue it's like a chunk of it is coming off looks like an ulcer but IT'S NOT! i know because i[ve had it for ...
A. 7 May 2009: Could be a flap of skin, could be a tumour.
Book a time to see your GP and find out!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I diabetic?
Q. My mum is dibetic, and i had symtoms of diabities, dizziness,blurred vision,thirsty all the time and going to the loo alot a feel like am gonna faint all the time. so i used my mams one touch to take my blood sugar levels and it came back as just ...
A. 7 May 2009: Did you tell her it was 19 last time?
You need to go and get checked by a doctor.
You are in the UK so I am pretty sure you can call up and make your own appointment.
Do it!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She went back to her ex!
Q. She Went Back to Her Ex When I met Dee, she had been out of an abusive relationship for six months. Her ex is an unemployed alcoholic who used to physically and mentally abuse her. She had to take out a court injunction and seek Police help to prote...
A. 7 May 2009: Well if he abducted her then she should go to the police and get him locked up.
I don't think you should take her back. you are not her family and you are not a women's refuge.
But you should not abandon her. If she gets him charged with thi... (read in full...)
Is my man gay?
Q. Is my man Gay? I've just found out that my boyfriend of 3 years has been calling a gay chat line every time i'm out of the house. this has been happening for about 5 months. He tells me that he had an addiction to sex chat lines about 8 years...
A. 7 May 2009: He's not gay, as he wouldn't be with you if he was.
If he's willing to experiment with you in the house, why wouldn't he will willing to experiment while single? Why go out and get a girlfriend? It makes no sense.
He could however be bi-cu... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 7 May 2009: Did you do that in a bar or a cafe? Were you with friends? Did you offer to buy her a drink?
Or did it look like you were just on your own looking for a girl to sell something to?
Just asking a stream of questions is not enough. Start ta... (read in full...)
Am I diabetic?
Q. My mum is dibetic, and i had symtoms of diabities, dizziness,blurred vision,thirsty all the time and going to the loo alot a feel like am gonna faint all the time. so i used my mams one touch to take my blood sugar levels and it came back as just ...
A. 7 May 2009: You need to just tell her. You tested your blood sugar on her machine and it was dangerously low then dangerously high.
Tell her you think that you might be diabetic and would like to go to the doctor about it.
If it is the genetic nasty ki... (read in full...)
We are in a long distance relationship, does anyone know what to do to get a visa?
Q. hi im with my lover who currently lives in bodrum i love him so much and want to be with him vis vers hes currently in uni and he wants 2 cum 2 england after hes finished how do i go about getting him a visa what do i need and what do i have 2 do ...
A. 7 May 2009: He needs to go to the British Consul in his country and ask about it there.
I'm not sure what his chances are but he can always come over on a holiday to see you.
You should make sure he does that before he starts looking into visas.
He has... (read in full...)
Would this be considered an abusive relationship?
Q. I already posted a question, but it's getting worse.. This clingy, attatched boyfriend is getting rediculous... My phone was messed up and basically unusable. And so I got an old one a friend had given me. It was tmobile, I have att, my boyfriend ...
A. 7 May 2009: Yes, your boyfriend should commucate with you like an adult.
He should not tell you that you have been naughty and need to sit on the naughty step and take away your phone.
He is not your dad and you are not 5.
Tell him you want your phone ... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 7 May 2009: Well how did you approach them?... (read in full...)
I just cant see myself raising my daughter. I don't think I even love her.
Q. Hey, I'm basically wondering what's the best way to end a long term relationship when you don't want to give the real reason? Bit of background... I'm 18 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 5 years and we have a daughter who's 2....
A. 6 May 2009: I think you need to talk to him.
But to be honest I think you may also need help for depression. You have so much going on in your life and I refuse to believe that the feelings you have about your mum leaving have nothing to do with the way you ... (read in full...)
A simple question... How do you know if you are in love?
Q. I have but one not so simple question. How do you know if you are in love?...
A. 6 May 2009: You don't. You have to take a leap of faith.
During your teens it's easy to feel infatuation and to love someone but not be IN LOVE with them... but since you've not had experience with either before you just don't know.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am trapped!
Q. I am trapped. I need help desperately. I formed a very close relationship with one of my school teachers and, well, we ended up kissing. Just once. But my ex saw. And now he's using what he saw as an excuse to blackmail into everything - from doi...
A. 6 May 2009: Blackmail is illegal in the UK.
Tell him that he has absolutely no proof that anything went on between you and the teacher... but you have proof that he's been blackmailing you.
Tell him that if he doesn't stop then you will go to the head of y... (read in full...)
Should I try now, later, or never to get back togeather with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of three months and I just broke up two weeks ago. For both of us it was our first real serious relationship. We pretty much broke up because I was upset by the fact that although his residents hall was a 3-5min walk away i only real...
A. 6 May 2009: You are making all the excuses in the world for him here.
His friends knows you want to get back with him. He knows you do.
If he can't over come his shyness to even send you an email then you cannot be in a relationship with him. As much as ... (read in full...)
Controlling Parents...
Q. I'm 16 years old and my parents still treat me like I'm 6. They gave me a phone when I was 12 because my mum and dad are divorced and my dad didn't like calling the house phone... anyways, a few months ago they took that away because 'they say' I ...
A. 5 May 2009: Unfortunately your parents pretty much have control of your life at this stage.
Mine didn't like me going out either.
But you just have to use it as reason to work hard at school and then in a couple of years... BANG, you get to leave home an... (read in full...)
Love, marriage and monogamy...
Q. I have a question about love, marriage and monogomy. When two people love each other and are married, is it normal for both of these people to be seriously attracted to other people, to the point of one having an affair and the other having to use ...
A. 5 May 2009: Um, no, affairs are not normal within marriage. That is why most couples who have affairs end up getting divorced.
If you are not happy together then you need to talk about it.
If your love is really really strong then you may be able to cope ... (read in full...)
Even though the condom didn't break and the test came out negative, could I be pregnant?
Q. I had sex for the very first time just over 2 weeks ago. I was 9 days into my cycle. We used an extra safe condom, which we checked after hadnt split and we also tried putting water into it and seeing if any leaked out, which it didnt showing there ...
A. 5 May 2009: You are probably just a bi late because you are stressed.
Go out with your girlfriends, see a very funny movie and stop thinking about it.
You should be fine.
However, you are underage so you should think very carefully about whether ... (read in full...)
I'f I'm pregnant he could get into trouble with the law... Help!
Q. I'm 16 years old. well ive found myself kind of being a little bit slutty i guess you could say. i go out and party and just try to have fun. well i met this guy. Hes 18. And going into the Army. I dont believe age matters. But in the laws eyes ...
A. 5 May 2009: He did the crime so he has to be willing to do the time.
Tell him and your parents.
It's going to be tough and I can't guarantee he won't get in trouble but that is his problem not yours.
You need to concentrate on you and your baby.
Go... (read in full...)
Why does he want a lap dance on his stag night?
Q. My fiance and I get on really well, we have both been married before but at last are happy, we hardly never argue and everyone says that we are made for each other. I am unusually laid back about most things BUT we are getting married this year and ...
A. 5 May 2009: I think you have to tell him how much this means to you.
As you say, he has probably been to several dozen lap dancing bars in his time. Why does he need "one last private dance."
I have to say that I would feel exactly the same as you. If ... (read in full...)
Importance of family
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some advice on the importance of family in a relationship. Basically my partner's family are rude at times, have little to no manners and the majority also have poor social skills e.g. saying hello can be an issue. The parents ...
A. 5 May 2009: Well if you are looking for a husband with a whole new family to take you on then yes, dump him and look elsewhere.
If you are looking for a man to love then accept that anything else would just have been a bonus.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ex Girlfriend dumped me three weeks ago, now she's sending me messages...
Q. Hi My Girlfriend and i were together for about 8 months and dumped me out of the blue three weeks ago, told me not to look for her anymore. yesterday she wants to chat on yahoo, to say hi and to ask me what I was up to, could it mean she's sort of ...
A. 5 May 2009: It could be that she wanted to be friends and wanted to see if you were over her yet.
Your best bet is to ask her.
"Why are you talking to me? Do you want to get back together."
If she says no then tell her not to talk to you since she hu... (read in full...)
Obsessed boyfriend!
Q. My bfriend and I have only been together a few months. The first two months were very serious (talks of marriage) but now I have just about had enough. He got really drunk one night and sent me abusive text messages because I was at work and ...
A. 5 May 2009: Woo! Good for you. I hope he gets the help he needs for his own sake, and the sake of the next girl he starts being a bad boyfriend to.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can you help me understand why people may not want to include me? Am I wrong to feel slighted?
Q. I have recently joined this ladies' club. It is a social club. We get together once a month and go out for dinner and drinks or do various activities. I honestly do not know a lot of people in the group well, but there are a few people who I know ...
A. 5 May 2009: I think you just need to take a chance and ask "can I come along with you as I don't know many people."
Also, make friends with the other women in the group, not just the ones you know. That way you will have new people to car share with.
... (read in full...)
I've jsut found out the guy who raped me lives nearby!
Q. I am not sure how to go about this so bare with me.In March of this year I was raped in my and my roomates apartment by a friend of hers.I never reported it and moved elswhere to just put it behind me.Now I find out he is living just 6 miles from me ...
A. 5 May 2009: I think you need to take legal advice on this one.
In an ideal world I would say "yeah report him and then he will be put in prison for what he did!" but after all this time it's going to be your word against his. Court cases like that are HORR... (read in full...)
Pregnancy test says negative - is it right?
Q. please ladeis i need help, i had an intercourse with my wife wich lasted long as i usualy dont cum fast,but i lost erection before cumming.. the peoblem is,since then her period has been late now for 12 days we bought a pregnancy test and the...
A. 5 May 2009: This question usually comes from age 13 - 17.
Yes, if you had unprotected sex then you could be pregnant whether you came or not.
HOWEVER. If the test said negative, they are usually right.
A delayed period is a medical symptom. Usually... (read in full...)
My casual girlfriend dumped me by text so suddenly - why?
Q. Hi I met a girl about a year ago and I had my first same sex experience with her which I really enjoyed. We made plans to meet again but she traveled back home and then traveled for work and I eventually managed to meet her again for a drink in...
A. 5 May 2009: I think she dumped you by text for exactly the same reason you dumped her by email.... it was easier to write it down.
You both have exactly the same problem as each other. You both want something serious but aren't ready for it.
You told her ... (read in full...)
The mother of his child is trying to worm her way into his family!
Q. So...my boyfriend of 2yrs and i are living together happily and have been so for 6months now!!! my problem is the pesky mother of his child. my boyfriend and his daughter's mother were never in a relationship...in fact, his daughter was conceived ...
A. 5 May 2009: I'm sorry hun, but his family are going to take her in and love her. She is always going to be there.
He didn't use a condom properly so he had a kid. He chose to have casual sex with a girl who was in love with him so now he has to deal with her... (read in full...)
Should I try now, later, or never to get back togeather with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of three months and I just broke up two weeks ago. For both of us it was our first real serious relationship. We pretty much broke up because I was upset by the fact that although his residents hall was a 3-5min walk away i only real...
A. 5 May 2009: So you said you weren't happy that he couldn't be bothered to make effort...
and rather than make effort, he dumped you.
Then you've said you still have feelings for him and he says the same thing... but rather than making effort to get yo... (read in full...)
I'm being blackmailed by an ex who has gotten me in debt!
Q. im being blackmailed by an ex, he has got me 20k in debt and has got cars on finance in my name, now im being threatened by solicitors and courts with legal action as the payments havent been made, when i ask him whats going on he says he will sort ...
A. 5 May 2009: As soon as he made those threats, he broke the law.
Go to the police. Tell them that he's threatening you. Blackmail is illegal in this country and they will go and see him. They can get a restraining order on him and threaten him with arrest a... (read in full...)
My online friend sometimes ignores me!
Q. why is it that this girl that i chat with online is all loving and nice one day, saying she misses me and stuff like that, and then the next day she completely ignores me, like when i say hi? that drives me insane! i just don't get it! i hate ...
A. 5 May 2009: Well I often open my lap top up and then wander off or get busy and it signs me in to msn.
Then I come back later and people have said hi to me and then gone ofline.
I don't worry too much because they are friends and they probably do the ... (read in full...)
Could you give me any tips to lose weight ?
Q. HI. I read the question about fat decreasing penis size, i really calmed me down because i understood why mine is quite small. so I'm trying to loose some weight so i look better, feel better and have a bigger penis. I need some help on how to do it...
A. 4 May 2009: Any kind of exercise is good to do. It all burns calories.
Do stretches, sit ups, push ups, dancing, step ups on the stairs, lift bean cans.
http://hundredpushups.com/
I've not tried that site but a friend of mine has and liked it.
As ... (read in full...)
I guess our dating is a secret..when do people go public?
Q. Hello I have been seeing a guy for the past 6 weeks and have spent loads of really good times together - lots of dates and fun times. He split up with his wife last July after she cheated many times and they have 2 children together, I know he ...
A. 4 May 2009: This sounds very dodgy. It's fine asking you to be patient but he can't keep you like that forever.
Go on holiday and have a great time and then on the last day tell him you don't want to be a secret any more and you want to be his real girlfrie... (read in full...)
Married your 1st love or were dating at 18?
Q. Hello. Im just wondering, how many of the uncles and aunts on this site married their first love, or the person they were dating at 18? I hear of stories about people who married the person they dated at 18, but how often does this actual happ...
A. 4 May 2009: I think it happens a lot. Especially in places where no sex before marriage is common. That forces people into marriage using hormones rather than judgement.
A lot of the aunts on here married their first love at 18 and then divorced him at 22.
... (read in full...)
I'm regretting leaving my controlling abusive husband. Please help!
Q. no longer with my ex husband. been with him 11 years, 4 of which married. we divorced and we stayed together one more year. I left due to serious control issues. the was also abuse in the marriage. i new i should leave due to him telling me what to ...
A. 4 May 2009: I think Otherstarfish has NAILED it here.
But just to add that if you sit around thinking about what you had then you won't move on.
Get out with your girlfriends and flirt.
Don't jump into a new relationship but just get out and flirt a... (read in full...)
What goes through your head 1st when you're approached by thai guy in Thailand ?
Q. Well I always go hanging in many places[Kao san street for example ] in Thailand. I see a lot of cute girls and they're mostly tourists. But I'm always afraid that when I go to them and start the conversation, it is possible that they will think I ...
A. 4 May 2009: Well if you approach someone one on a street of sellers then they are going to think you are selling.
Find a cafe to sit in and approach them there. Sit with your friends and smile so they know you are out having a good time and not working.... (read in full...)
Obsessed boyfriend!
Q. My bfriend and I have only been together a few months. The first two months were very serious (talks of marriage) but now I have just about had enough. He got really drunk one night and sent me abusive text messages because I was at work and ...
A. 18 March 2009: You can't stay with someone just because they are mentally ill.
Tell him that he is pushing you away and you don't want to be with him till he gets some help.
The fact he's being abusive shows me he is not in control and therefore he is ... (read in full...)
In love with my flatmate - but is a good idea to make a move?
Q. Hey. I live in a shared house with 4 other people. A few months ago the latest flat mate moved in. From the first moment i saw her i thought she was gorgeous, but i didn't do anything about it, as i just thought my feelings where down to h...
A. 1 December 2008: It's sad but I have to agree with hotpinkgirl. It's not worth the risk of
a) it ruining your friendship
b) the breakup causing misery for the whole house.
She's probably in the same puzzle as you are if she likes you too.
Wait till on... (read in full...)
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