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writes:At School, My friends were talking about their boyfriends and Girlfriends and stuff. And my friend Melinda* look at me and was like "To bad you don't have one." Everyone kinda looks at me. and I smile. I said "what are you talking about? I have one." and They got all excited and stuff because I never had a boyfriend before or went on a date, and I was Always too scared/shy to talk to boys I liked. Some didn't believe me like Melinda*. She started asking me questions like:~ "How old is he?"~ "he goes to this school?"~ "have you two had sex?"and others. of course I didn't want to answer the questions and stuff. But then they all started asking. and I got annoyed. I said "he's 23. He just turned 23. and no he doesn't go to this school. And yes we had sex." I'm 17. I don't see a problem with the ages. I thought they would be a little impressed. but I was wrong.They all started yelling at me. And was like "How Could You Do This?!", "You aren't Even Legal!", "That was So Stupid-- Why Would You Do something like that?!", and "He could have Raped You!". Of Course I'm all like "uhh... okay? Ya'll were the one's who asked. I just gave answers. if ya didn't want to hear this stuff, why ask? ... and rape?". and They just got more upset. I didn't understand why. Melinda* grabbed me by my shoulder to turn to her, and was like "What was You thinking?!" And I was like "I thought it would be funn. We both did." And they all just gave me this disgusted angry look. I didn't understand what I did wrong.When Lunch was over, I dunno how, But A LOT of friends that I don't even have lunch with was like "EW! You nasty!" My friends have horrible Grammar. For 2 days they have been doing that. It's Annoying. I don't understand what's wrong. Age is Age. And our age differences aren't even that far Apart!I kinda wish I didn't say anything... but then again... I'ma little weird, and I kinda like seeing them upset. I just don't like when they bug me. Could someone explain why they are so upset over something so little?[Sorry for my horrible Grammar and Spelling.][* = Name changed.]
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reader, TMYK +, writes (23 April 2009):
TMYK is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you. Right now, I don't have anyone to talk to this about. it was worse today. A friend of mine yelled it out in the subway. " [my name here]! YA NASTY! YOU HAD SEX WITH A 23 YEAR OLD! YES I'M BLOWING UP YOUR SPOT!" I felt so embarrassed.
It's not like I JUST met this guy. I knew him for a while. Near the end of `o5 or in the beginning of `o6 we met. We didn't go out back them, we were just really close friends-- Best friends. And now, we started going out.
He cares for me A lot. And I care for him. I don't want to get him into any trouble, but I want to be with him. I never felt so happy. He told me he feels the same, and he would do anything for me. And I would do anything for him.
And don't worry, we used condoms.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 April 2009):
The thing about teenage girls is that they are all talk.
This is why we get so many high and mighty 13 year olds telling us that it's fine to have sex because everyone else is doing it.
They are just worried about you and unfortunately they are not mature enough to actually tell you this, so they are just trying to show you that they disapprove.
Going out with a school boy is one thing. Going out and finding a man that you then have sex with is very different.
Just find one person that you trust and talk to them about it. I am sure this will all blow over.
Good Luck!! xx
PS. If you continue to have sex with your boyfriend then be aware that he can be charged by police for doing it. But if he's fine risking a criminal record then USE CONDOMS!!!
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