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writes:Ok here's the thing a couple of days ago I spoke about my concerns over my partners nephew, well I have noticed that in the last 3 months he has visited our town 7 times when ordinarilly he normally visit once every so many years.I do try to avoid situations where I will be alone with him but to be honest sometimes it is impossible because now he is becoming more forward in his advances towards me. It started off with rubbing my thigh him kissing me and telling me he loves me but now as soon as we are alone and I dont mean in a house alone I mean in a room alone he grabs me squeezes me tight and kisses my neck and tells me how much he loves me and that he wants to make love to me over and over.The last time I came to dear cupid I was asking should I be concerned about his nephews feelings but to tell you the truth I am kinda liking the attention. Yes I know he is my partners nephew but he is very attractive and the age difference between us is the same as the age difference between me and my partner. The last time he came to visit which was yesterday he actually came to my house at a time when he knew his uncle would be at work and yes we ended up making love 3 times and I really enjoyed it but do feel guilty, he is coming up again next weekend and I am worried that I will not be able to ignore his advances or my urges nor do I think I want to. The other thing me and my partner have been trying for a baby so I do not use birth control and nor did I use protection with his nephew (his nephew is aware of my situation with birth control).Do you think I am starting to like the attention because I am so use to being round people older than myself and I feel like I am living a life of a person at least 10 years older than I am? Or could it be that I miss being my own age and this is how it is affecting me? I live a life style that is more to my partners age rather than my own and I do love my partner but after 10 years I must confess I am bored to death of doing the same thing day after day and night after night which is nothing. My partner has certain minute problems which he uses as an excuse for not doing something different and because I am married to him I do feel obliged to stay with him if I am happy or not but it is so depressing. I know doing what I have done with his nephew is not right or the answer but I do think it may be a sign that something has to change in my relationship what do you think.You can bitch at me if you like but remember this is an agony service not a bitch at take the piss, laugh and joke at other people's problems site so genuine suggestions only please because people are taking you advice seriously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): The explanation of the age differences between you, your partner and his nephew is a little confusing, because if he is your partner's nephew, he should be a lot younger than your partner. Could you please give all three of your ages? As far as trying to resolve this situation, the best thing may be to divorce your partner if you are truly bored and not happy.
Another way, a way to have your cake and eat it too would be to have a three-way relationship with your partner and nephew. You could start working toward this by asking your partner if he ever had any sexual fantasies and get him to reveal them to you, then you tell him you have fantasized about being with two men at the same time. Then, during that discussion, try to work the conversation to his nephew and mention him as a possible third person in a threesome, with your partner being the other man in your fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): I am the person that posted this question
I think that I need to make it clear regarding the baby issue.
We have been trying for a baby for almost 8 years and I am resigned to think for the last 4 years now that it is not going to happen. I have not just started trying to have a baby.
Thanks for the advice re the morning after pill I did go and buy levonelle from the chemist.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 April 2009):
I always find there is no excuse to cheat.
If you are not happy with your husband, then tell him you need to get it fixed. If he won't fix it, then leave.
You had sex with another man and I'm afraid that you need to pick. Either cut contact with the nephew, tell your husband that you are not happy and want to save the relationship or end it.
OR, leave your husband and then when you are single you can do what you want.
Either way, you are NOT in a position to bring a child into the world so go and get the Morning after pill / Plan B pill (you have 72 hours after you have sex to take it) and then start taking contraception.
Get your head straight and take control of this situation. You have to make some serious decisions and then stick by them.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Sweetie, as I read it, you are no longer in love with your partner but find your new man more exciting. Why dont you take the plunge and get divorced? If your partner finds out that you are having an affair it is going to be very hurtful. Why do you feel obliged to stay with him??? If you would be happier with someone else, then leave your partner. Please remember that the grass is not greener on the other side and after a couple of years with a new partner, yes, they also start getting on your nerves.
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