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writes:One hundred per cent of background is Chinese but my Ma, Pa, I move to America two year prior when I sixteen. I hope my English OK.Two year prior, I left behind girl, my best mate. We knew us since before primary. She want me back in China and then to marry her. I want that as well but our parents dis-approve becus we not finish our education first.In China, girl is graduate from secondary and to university in Autumn. In America, I am university freshman. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): I thank you for answers.
To jellybeans, I do know about law but I forgot. Thank you for reminding it to me.
To Emilysanswers, I not mean to sound so crude. I do wants to give her better life, one we not have in China, but I think I want her here in America. Here, dating is social norm. Girl is 18 in fortnight, so we see what happen later.
As for now, I will follow advices of parents and you. Thanks again.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 April 2009):
If you really love her then you will want to provide the best life you can for her.
What good is a peice of paper saying you are married if you have to live in the streets? Do you not think she deserves better than that?
Don't you think she deserves someone who can be successful and can give her a good life?
Finish your education make sure you can earn enough money to buy her a good home and provide her with everything she wants. Then go to China and find her.
Do you want to turn up a penniless student all grubby and get on one knee with a tin band? Or do you want to fly in with a good airline, and turn up in a nice suit with a diamond to take her away and give her the life she deserves?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jellybeans +, writes (23 April 2009):
I am also from China but I think you should focus on your education at this moment. I just checked online and according to the Chinese Marriage Law, men need to be 22 yrs old to get married and girls need to be 20 yrs old. Obviously neither of you are old enough to legally get married in China. And what do you plan to do to support her after you guys are married? What skills do you have to in order to get a job in China? If you really like each other, you can video chat online every day. Both of you should calm down and focus on school. You've know each other for over 10 years and if you are meant to be together, another 4 years of long distance relationship is not going to change anything between you.Good luck
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