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writes:Ok , Im new to this , and I do feel ... very odd asking people I've no idea who are for advice on these ... very personal issuse . But Gotta swing the bat before that blood ball will fly don't I ?... Here we go .So , I am ... odd shall we say . And I am known in me own cliques as the None Human ... Mostly because I think anyway ; I just don't like the human race as a whole . There are people out there that I do get along with yes , but in general . I just can't stand them . And I never expected to fall in love . I was always in the assumption that if I did not give up on life at a certain point , that I would become a hermit and live off the land as it were . But I did , And after 4 years of waiting for her to get over her last breakup , she accepted my proposal , and wanted to be my girlfriend . *the crowd goes wild cheering(...right?)* Well I thought it would , and it did for the first 2 months . But then I realized that I was , and am the only one in this that is still crashing madly in love ... And it scares the bloody hell out of me . I am admittedly obsessed with her , I can't get her out of me damned head at any point in time . We have been going out for 9 months now . And I just can't spend enough time with her . Ever . She is going to college next year (I think , it may be sooner) and I am getting a bit paranoid , I've come to realize that when it comes to us , I have extremely low self esteem . And when we are apart , I get physically ill . I just start shutting down inside , and start losing the will to even breath . I think that I am suffocating her , though she hasn't said anything to indicate it ... Oh , and btw , I am not going to college , for more than one reason ... anyway that was useless info ... So please help mates , What should I do . I'm lost on the unmarked trails of love in the middle of nowhere and have no idea how to fix my issuse .
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reader, DraidenGunGiest +, writes (24 April 2009):
DraidenGunGiest is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHrmmm ... Thank you all for your input , I shall take it all into consideration , and attempt to back off .
-DGG
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 April 2009):
Well first off you need to calm down.
I know a lot of people like you (I've always been a none human too. Although I think of myself as a true human and the others as sheep.) and because they are so happy alone living the simple life, when a bit of love and excitement comes along it's just too much and then overdose on it.
You are overdoing on your love for her because you never grew an immunity to it while a teenager. It's like you're trying to keep up beer for beer with someone who's lived in a pub when you have been t-total.
So the first thing you need to do is admit you are out of your depth and then you need to detox a little bit. FORCE yourself not to think of her / obsess over her. Get a new hobby, play a video game, start planning the design of your little house in the middle of nowhere, get SOMETHING as a plan B to think about. Then every time you start getting crazy thoughts about her, stop, and think about that.
College is going to be hard, long distance is horrible, but you can get through it if you chill out and fill your time.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, flowerdoll  +, writes (23 April 2009):
Hi, You need to be very careful, i was like that about my boyfriend many years ago. I felt sick and upset when i was not with him but it is not love, it is pure and utter addiction and you are setting yourself up for a massive fall and to be honest it wont be your girlfriends fault, it will be yours, you will push her away, no matter who we are or where we come from, we all like to be with someone solid who knows their own mind, we like a child to be dependent on us but not our partner, we like to be supported but not worn down. I wish you the best and i know it wont be easy but back off or you will be your own downfall
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reader, Griim +, writes (23 April 2009):
 You need to make sure you are happy when you are alone and in your own company, as well as when you are with her. Depending on her for all your happiness will not help either of you. Try to be more independent and see where you end up!
Oh and try not to dislike humans too much, we are just the same as you None Humans!
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