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writes:My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time snuggling and we haven't seen each other for the last week so I asked him if he was missing our cuddles and he said boys don't work like that. Is that right or am I overthinking things and being worried for no reason? Reply to this Question
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (24 April 2009):
 Excellent, Emily.I was going to respond...."No, BOYS don't, but men do" as I read the posting, but your answer is perfect.Picking up on what Uncle Phil said, I'm not in full agreement there. I was definitely not love as a child - never knew cuddles, hugs or any form of affection, only punishment with a cane if I was naughty. Or even when I wasn'tBut now, I love cuddles and can't get enough. Over-compensation, maybe, but it takes all sorts and all circumstances to define an individual, which indeed we all are.No blanket solution, sorry.Harry, now a cuddlesome 65!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 April 2009):
I think you missing the point of why men are so great.
My husband is in the army, he's a big scary Sergeant who's job is to terrify people into doing what they are told. He works with tanks and guns and straps up broken bones.
But when he is with me he's the gentlest most cuddly wonderful guy and we snuggle up and he loves holding me tight.
Of course when we are apart or around other people he goes back to being big tough manly Sarge once again.
Your snuggles are a very personal thing, it's almost his secret soft side that only you ever get to see. So when you ask him if he's missing them of course he's going to respond with a "Grr No of course not I am far too full of testosterone to enjoy cuddles!!"
Chill out and wait till you see him again. I bet he won't be able to wait to get you close and in his arms.
Always judge a man by his actions, not his words.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Love4Life  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 I have been with my wife for six years and not a week goes by that we don't at least cuddle. Some guys are different but I would always trust your gut. Do you feel its as he says or does your gut tell you different. I hope this advice helped...
Miah
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Some do, some don't. It all depends on how he was brought up. If his parents were always cuddling and showing their love for each other he'd think that behaviour to be quite normal and behave the same way himself. If his parents were the opposite he'd pick up on that and believe that was the way to behave.
It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you or fancy you, maybe he's just not inclined that way.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (24 April 2009):
 He should have missed cuddles! My boyfriend misses them! Most boys do! He's obviously not into you if he hasn't missed your cuddles! Find someone better! X
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