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writes:i was currently in a bad relationship earlier on this year and unfortuntely it ended badly and my ex soon found someone else.I have since been in a relationship with a guy since august and we are together even today, but i have been seeing another guy, who i met on a dating site. This was a site i tried after leaving my ex.And i see this guy too, and have been for the past month i don't know what to do as i like them both and i can't decide and dont want to hurt either of them.I can't stop cheating on both of them with each other, and i feel i am doing this because i got hurt by guys in the past.I have been told to choose or end the relationships for now. Because I'm thinking of doing this, but i dont know how to tell the them its over.When i feel i am in love with both of them, i know i probably dont deserve to be in any relationship right now, but it's becauseof just the way i was treated in the past.I could say to them both that I'm not ready for a relationship right now and just be friends but that seems to hard . . any ideas or help ??
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reader, cinc71  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 You probably should be single, you can't love someone with all of your heart if you love two at the same time. I think when you find THE ONE you won't love anyone else but him. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): You need to finish with them both, if you thought anything deep about either you wouldn't be cheating.
To be fair to them just end it and be single for a while, I dont think your doing it because you have been hurt, your doing it because you can get away with it, for now.
Neither of these two deserve to be treated like it and however you tell them its going to hurt them, do it fast and then leave them alone.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 You know what it is like to be hurt by a guy that you love. Am guessing you where cheated on by someone you loved very much, so now you are going to inflict that pain on these two men. You know how it feels so you should not be doing it to others, there is no excuse, you have been through it and now you are doing it. Its not fair. You need to let one of them go. Stop messing them around, its not fair. If you cannot chose between the two of them then finish with both of them because it is cruel. You need to sit down and think about what and who you want. If you cannot pick then finish with both and be on your own for a while so you can clear your head.
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