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female
age
30-35,
*apagrl
writes:So I just recently realized I have a crush my friend. I have never been friends with a guy first and then found myself attracted to them. So this crush really took me by surprise. But anyways. Out relationship is still fairly new, we have only known each other since the quarter started and we never had any physical contact other than when I pat him on the back if he's stressed or on the head when he's being dumb. We see each other everyday in class and sit next to each other. Doesn't really matter who gets to class first we always just find where the other is and sit next to them. Last Saturday our dynamics changed..alot. We bumped into each other on campus and he was heading home but I got him to hang out with me while I worked on my project. on the way over there he initiated the touching and poking. which progressed through out the time we were with each other. We talked a lot and teased. The two hours we were hanging out with each other was weird but at the same time exciting. We also talked about sex, he's a vigin and asked questions and told me his insecurities about being 20 and only having had one girlfriend before. We talked about my past relationships and what not as well. At the end of the night we walked away and he shouted out "thanks for the educational talk" And I thought that it was going to just go back to the usual no touching when come Monday. It didn't instead the random touching and poking continued. not as often as Saturday but still. Everything else is still the same. He jokes about other girls and says things that make me turn 10 shades of red, some have sexual implications, some of his comments are just really random i can't help but try not to laugh. Today though he forgot my name twice. Instead of saying my name said two different names. first mia and then ana. I was like "wow! seriously? haha" But he compliments more which I'm not used to and today he gave me a huge compliment. without thinking, I hugged him. I was so embarrassed I wanted to rewind that moment and take it back. All I could think is "Great! I totally blew our friendship." But still he waited for me so we could walk and talk together as we walked to our separate destinations. In an effort to get a little time with him outside of class, I asked if he could help me study for our exam and he said sure. then I mentioned this bar that serves cheap food on campus and he said to take him there the day we have our study session (which I don't have a problem with). But now I don't know what to do. I mean is he into me or does he only see me as a friend? And if he is into me as more than a friend, should I be more flirty or just do what I'm currently doing? *Sorry I had to give you a backstory before asking my question.
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reader, cinc71  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 sounds like the beginning of a great relationship to me!He's seems into you. Enjoy the moment, don't question yourself too much. Keep us update good luck!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (20 October 2011):
Hi there. It does sound like he likes you, plus he's a little bit shy.
He seems to like you, because he forgot your name, which could be nerves when he's near you. He wouldn't feel nervous if he didn't have feelings for you.
Yes, for sure take him to that eating place on your campus and study together.
Just act like you have been acting, and see where it takes you.
Don't do the flirty thing yet, until you are sure about how he feels about you. Because it might embarrass him.
I'm sure he can already see that you do like him.
Just take it one day at a time. It will all just evolve with time.
Most relationships begin as friendships first, then become more as time goes by.
The important thing here, is not to try and rush things - just let everything flow naturally.
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