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writes:Hey guys,Basically, an exchange student joined my university course last year and over the course of the year I developed feelings for her. I thought I got signals but she turned me down after I asked her out - her excuse was she wasnt over her ex boyfriend. She moved into the same apartment block last summer, I thought it would bring us closer but it was the opposite. Fast forward one year and we've sort of drifted apart, I barely see her outside of uni, only in uni classes. We both have got jobs in different cities and there are now four weeks until we go our seperate ways and I'll never see her again.The problem is I still feel exactly the same about her and shes on my mind every day and has been since I asked her out - my feelings have only gotten stronger for her. I dont really want to let her go, I was thinking of writing her a letter letting her know how I feel or asking her out for a drink and just telling her there. I dont know what I expect to happen but think I need this for closure to move on. Any advice appreciated, thanks.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (14 April 2014):
 So you want her to turn you down again by either ignoring your letter or by saying 'thanks but no thanks' on the drinks date?
She's been keeping her distance from you for a year.
I'm not sure what benefit this will be to you. Do you want a personal rejection to confirm some sort of negative self-assessment?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 April 2014):
 okay .... you say this "I don't really want to let her go", but what you are failing to realise is that this is nothing to do with her, you don't have her, or hold her to be letting her go.
She is not interested in you, she turned you down, a letter or asking her out for a drink will give her cause to think you are a little bit creepy, so don't do that!
What you have to let go here are your unrealistic expectations, this whole crush has only ever been about you, and your unrequited love from afar. Closure is over rated, and this girl does not need to be involved in you getting your head around the fact your nice daydream is not going to become a reality.
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