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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

What do men experience during their 'first time'? How can I help him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

30 November 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend who is a year younger than i am. He is 18 and i am ninteen. We have been together for a year and half now and he wants to lose his virginity with me. I am not a virgin, but i really dont know how will i "guide him." We have talked ...

He's done it all and I want sex but I'm afraid he's too big!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5459 days ago

29 November 2009 (F) - Ok, this guy that I really like is a year and a half older than me. I am a virgin, but he has done everything. I would love to do everything with him and I am ready to give it all up for him. The only problem is I've seen his dick on webcam and it's ...

I told her I wasnt ready, and that she felt lust not love, will she talk to me again

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5470 days ago

29 November 2009 (M) - Welcome, This is my life, Im Dave 16 and 6 months old, Tash is 16 and 11 months old Im gonna write the situation, and Id be very thankful if you could give me the next steps I could follow. There is this girl called Tash, her and I are ...

How can I tell if his feelings are geniune?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

28 November 2009 (F) - ok ... question i like this guy... and i know he likes me back last year i gave him a really hard time cuz i didnt like him. but this year my feelings grew for him i told him and even tho we liked each other he became mean. i jus alwayd figured he ...

My virgin girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. What do I do now?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

28 November 2009 (M) - I have a girlfriend and she is a virgin and i want 2 hav sex with her but she refused.so i don't know what 2 do....

He's in a gang, but a sweet guy. Is he using me for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

27 November 2009 (F) - I met *John during the summer in the middle of July through the internet. We have already met in person and after about 2 and a half months of knowing each other, we began dating, which lasted for about 2 weeks. The reason we broke up is because ...

My first time, horror and the irreal fear of her being pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Hey, I know people post the same thing over and over again. But I started panicking yesterday and feel like **** ever since. I meet this girl and we used each other to get rid of the "stigma" (please not hate, I came to believe it was keeping me f...

How can I give my girlfriend the most pleasure without going in her pants?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

27 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 16 and so is my girlfriend and just about a week ago I "touched" her down there for the first time and was just kinda lightly stroking my fingers up and down the outside of her pants because with the boundaries that she set im not allowed to ...

Are condoms safe enough without using birth control?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

26 November 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. Well, me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex soon, and we are both virgins. Of course we're planning on using protection to prevent pregnancy and infections. The thing is, is it okay to only use condoms on the first time and not ...

I want to protect my friend. Should I tell the school nurse about her (who just happens to be my mum!)

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5474 days ago

25 November 2009 (M) - Hey, just a 'quick' question. This one's not about me thank god. Basically, one of my friends got completely wasted and ended up losing her virginity at 14 a couple of days ago. I've been sworn to secrecy, but (always a but) I have a small problem ...

6'3" 200 lbs, 21 and still a virgin!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

25 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 21 almost 22 and haven't really started dating yet,and I'm still a virgin. The problem is I never really seem to be where the girls are. I'm not shy or anything, and I'm not bad looking(6'3, 200lb), I just never seem to be able to meet new ...

Is that considered sex? Am I still a virgin?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5471 days ago

25 November 2009 (F) - if a guy stuck his penis all the way in my vagina but he just stayed there and didn't move. like there were no thrusting or humping motions, is that considered sex? or sexual intercourse? am i still a virgin?...

Should I give my virginity to my best friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - basic question is whether or not i should give my virginity to my best friend? hes liked me a lot in the past, and i have liked him at points, but i am the non-commital one. he wants a relationship and i dont. hes never asked me to give it ...

What EXACTLY is clitoral stimulation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5475 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - Hello everyone, Can anyone explain to me how to masturbate as a female? I've asked this before and people always respond by saying something like 'try clitoral stimulation', which doesn't really help me. I know what and where the clitoris is, but ...

Guy feedback please - how much inexperience is a deal breaker?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5469 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - I feel a little stupid asking this, but I'm starting to become worried. I've never been an overly social person. I'm the type of girl who would prefer staying home and watching a movie, reading a book, studying, or playing a video game rathe...

What happens during an orgasm?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

24 November 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: Age posted in incorrect.] my sister asked me what happens when you have an orgasm. and i have no idea because i havent. *sarah said that her boyfriend *chris have done alot of foreplay. he asked her if she was getting ready to...

He hasn't made a move and I don't want to miss my chance!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

23 November 2009 (F) - I really need some unbiased advice for my situation. I really like this guy, and personally think he's right for me. We're both very religious, and saving ourselves for marriage. Neither of us have dated or kissed anyone, so we're both very ...

Is it safe to have sex with my girlfriend, we are 19 this year?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

22 November 2009 (M) - may i ask is it safe to have sex with my girlfriend,we are 19 this year,i was just afraid that having sex before 20 will higher the chance to have vaginal cancer?is it true?...

Will he 'fit' when we have sex tomorrow?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I really need help . I am 18 and i going to have sex with my boyfriend of 4 years tomorrow and i am worried that my vagina is to small for his penis.like stretching wise and i was wondering how can i make it fit if it doesnt? and some advice f...

I loved him...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

22 November 2009 (F) - I still cant believe it. I lost my virginity when i was in 8th grade and only 14 years old. Now its changed my life forever. I dont feel like its a bad thing but when i think about it hard, it kinda disappoints me. Ive had sex with two guys now and ...

I'm 14 years old and never had a boyfriend!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5467 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - i'm 14 years old,i have never had a boyfriend.i have a good personality i am one of those people who if you ask them for help i will definitely help. my mum and other people have always said that someone will always come around. my looks are ...

I'm jealous of his past! Will I always feel this way?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - I grew up in a very religious home (no sex before marriage). I grew out of my religion, but my health kept me from having fun. I've met a great guy, (who i lost my virginity to at 23) but he has a lot of experience, with the pics to prove it. We've ...

He's a great guy, but I'm still afraid of being used for sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5478 days ago

20 November 2009 (F) - me and my bf are together since 8months, though i went away to university and haven't seen him for these last two months. when i was there, we used to kiss and he gave me oral too. i tried to give it to him but couldn't. he is the most amazing ...

My girlfriend had a one night stand before she met me and my family knows about it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5480 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - I lost my virginity to my recent girlfriend and she has slept with two people before me. Only one of them bother me since it was a one night stand which she ended up having sex with twice. My cousin was there in the same house the first time she did ...

Why won't any man have sex with me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I am a female in my early twenties. I have been told I am attractive. I am slender yet have nice curves, a very noticeable smile and nice long hair. I am educated, intelligent, well mannered and have been told I have a great personality and a fa...

I'm overwhelmed by condom selections! Any tips?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - Hey, Me and my girlfriend are thinking of having sex. And it sounds embarrasing, but when i looked in the shop for condoms, i was completely confused on how many different types there are. Can anyone help me out, and tell me the best 'DUREX...

I feel so stupid because I fooled around with this guy at work!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I need some help, I feel so stupid. This is long - sorry. Me and a guy at work have been flirting for a long time I have always said never to a work thing but one day we were both working late and one thing let to another and we kissed, a bit la...

Getting it up (first time)

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

18 November 2009 (M) - Hi people, I have a concern I'd like to get input on. I'm 18-22 and a virgin; I was about to have sex several times after making out but every time I couldn't get a full erection, or of I did, it fell off quickly..I just didn't seem to be that ...

What was this thing I found in my panties?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - im 17 years old now... but a few years ago when i was about 14 on holiday i woke up and had this thing i cant explain in my knickers, it was kind of big, it looked a bit like a fetus, but the thing is i was a virgin at the time so i dont understand ...

An unlucky guy looking to have sex, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Well, I'm 18 and I really want to have sex. "Saving it" for someone special stopped meaning something to me a bit ago, I just simply want to do it. I haven't had any luck with girls and the last girl I was seeing just flat out stopped speaking to ...

Should I give up my virginity?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

16 November 2009 (F) - hi, basically im 15, and im seeing a guy and hes very open about sex and hes not a virgin. i am and hes kind of asked about if i would and i kind of want to but am really like nervous about it all and how its all going to work lol. theres no poin...

Should I have sex with my girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

15 November 2009 (M) - i'm 14 and my girlfriend is 14 too. we have bin going out for about a year and she asked me if we could have sex what sould i do?...

Should I smoke pot before sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5481 days ago

15 November 2009 (F) - Would smoking pot before having sex make it hurt less the first time?...

I'm so behind with my sexual knowledge I fear he'll think I'm weird! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

15 November 2009 (F) - Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginity with him, basically neither of us knew what we were doing, I felt uncomfortable and immediately told him to stop. However he didn't, he ...

How do I overcome my sexual inexperience with men?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5485 days ago

15 November 2009 (F) - Hey everyone this si the first time i've posted on here but have always had interesting reads from this site! Ok basically here goes. Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginit...

Why don't boys want to kiss me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

14 November 2009 (F) - so... i'm about to turn 16 and i mean ive had plenty of chances but whenever a boy wants to kiss me they either think i wont want to, think it will be awkward after because ive neve kissed anyone, or believe its better if we dont because i deserve a ...

She had sex a week after our break up, two years later I still feel betrayed! Please help.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5476 days ago

14 November 2009 (M) - I have been dating this girl for a little over 2 years now. Everything is great in our relationship and we both have sex regularly. There is one thing that came up and keeps coming up. When we first started dating, I had a jealous friend on the side...

I feel insecure about not being his first. Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

14 November 2009 (F) - Heya, I've been with this guy for awhile. He's my first everything. He's a few years older than me, and has more experience. He's my first relationship and love, while I'm not his. And this makes me feel insecure, does anyone have any e...

Does it hurt worse to lose your virginity when you are younger?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - i was wondering if it would hurt worse to lose your virginity when your my age which is thirteen or if it was the same no matter what age you are cause my friend said it was worse when your younger....

Help! How do I let him know I'm ready to lose my virginity to him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - I'm ready to lose my virginity, how do I let him know I'm ready without saying it? What could I do to get him to make the first move? and can a man really tell it's a girls first time? ...

First time sex tips, please?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - Hi, im a 15 year old female and a virgin and want to have sex with my boyfriend soon. He's 16 but has had sex alot of times. He knows that i am a virgin and says that when we do it, he will take it slowly for me and make sure that i'm okay with it....

Horrible first time sex feeling, anything wrong with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - Lawn Care Specialist Reply I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted,...

What should I do next with this co-worker?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Where should I go from here. I have never had a boyfriend but I have been having some fun kissing a guy I work with, for experience really, we have both decided that we want to date but as I have never dated anyone before I am scared because we ...

We're both 13 and want to be friends with benefits, but I don't know if I'm ready!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - My neighbor and I have been friends since we were 2 and now I have feelings for him cause we have been through like everthing together and we probly tell each other more then like a married couple! We are both 13... The other day he suggested...

First time for both of us...what can we expect?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Alright, here it goes. I am sixteen and have been absolute BEST friends with a boy for three years. We talk about everything; probably more so than a married couple. This past year we have both told each other that we love each other. But we de...

I'm very worried that my first time sex will be painful!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

7 November 2009 (F) - I'm still a virgin, however when I have met the right guy I would like to take things slowly and enjoy myself when the time comes. However I have explored my body and have discovered that the likeliness is that my first time will be very painful, as ...

Will the guy be mad that you didn't tell him that you were a virgin? Or what's the deal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

7 November 2009 (F) - I'm 20, and i've been talking to this guy for almost a month, and i ended up losing my virginity to him couple days ago, now i'm bleeding non-stop and my stomache hurts.. and i never told him i was a virgin and i feel super bad about it.. and i told ...

Can a person that is still a virgin get a disease?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5492 days ago

6 November 2009 (M) - Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...

What can I do to help her get over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5493 days ago

6 November 2009 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend, "Nicole", for almost a year now. I have had one previous girlfriend, "Molly", who I dated a few years before Nicole. I'm Nicole's first real boyfriend and she is very turned off by the fact that Molly and I had an ...

My love has ADHD. What are all the things I may need to know to ensure our relationship stays healthy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5146 days ago

5 November 2009 (M) - Allo! My girlfriend and I have been together for...ah...whoa...21 months, that's nearly 2 years, lol, neither of us realized. I'm 18, she turns 19 in a couple of months and we seem, well, absolutely fine. We'd like to hold on to our relations...