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writes:I have a boyfriend who is a year younger than i am. He is 18 and i am ninteen. We have been together for a year and half now and he wants to lose his virginity with me. I am not a virgin, but i really dont know how will i "guide him." We have talked about sex, we know what birth control method we are going to use. We have also discussed the emotitonal and physical consequences of sex. I really want to have sex with him, and i feel that he is also ready. It is just that i want him to really feel comfortable, but i really don't know what do men experience during their first time. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, ergophobic +, writes (1 December 2009):
i was 17 and drunk and so was she. she basically ripped off my shorts in the hot tub and hopped on the stick. what did i experience my first time? an orgasm. =/
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reader, doom  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 well first time mens experience it's the same as last time...as C.Grant said, women it's different.
But first time just guide him, i'm sure he knows theoretically.It's not maths, he knows how it does but didn't do it.So help him when he blokes))
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reader, Sw Krishna Kali  +, writes (30 November 2009):
All men are very shy and anxious and it is the woman's job to realise her full power. Unfortunately women do not know this. I would suggest that at first your sexual relationship stops at mutual masturbation where you share each others fantasies. This is very confronting but very healthy. You should learn how to masturbate your boyfriend and he should help you while sharing your thoughts with each other.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (30 November 2009):
 In my experience, which was 48 years ago, I recall feeling anxious, excited, insecure, uncertain and nervous. So anything that you can do to relieve some of those pressures of doubt might help.
My age was 14, and she was 15, but she was experienced and guided me through it all. It was a shaky but successful start. I've since thought that if she had simply sucked me off the first time to give me a good climax, it might have been a somewhat less stressful experience.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (30 November 2009):
 Physically the first time is the same as subsequent times -- not like girls with the hymen and such.
As for emotionally, it really depends upon the guy. For some virginity is something to be gotten rid of as quickly as possible. Others treat it as something special. What you describe, with the feelings and the discussions to date, sounds like an ideal situation. It's great that you're asking the question, but I don't think you need to worry.
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