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writes: i'm 14 and my girlfriend is 14 too. we have bin going out for about a year and she asked me if we could have sex what sould i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): I won't encourage you to have sex at the age of 14. Nevertheless, it is really based on individuals. Temptation brings responsibilities.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (15 November 2009):
if u are both 14 there is no age of consent. but there are consequences. consider them, pregnancy and the chance of disease. then make your decision
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (15 November 2009):
if u are both 14 there is no age of consent. but there are consequences. consider them, pregnancy and the chance of disease. then make your decision
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): its not up to us to decide for you dear. but if its what you want then go for it. what i will suggest is use some form of birth control and have fun. its what sexual activity is all about.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Here is the thing about sex.
There are a ton of consequences. People always ask me at what age should people start becoming sexually active, and I always state that the best time is when they are ready.
When I say when they are ready, I mean that they are able to deal with the consequences. Are they mature and do they know each other enough to get tested for STD's? An STD can ruin your life, especially those that can't go away. For the rest of your life, any future partners you may have, you are at risk for infecting them. You have to go through the embarrassing hassle of telling them about your infection before becoming sexually active with them. Basically your life is changed forever.
The second big consequence (and the one that applies to you two more) is pregnancy. Can you honestly handle your girlfriend becoming pregnant? Could you drop out of school and work the rest of your life at some minimum wage job supporting a kid? At fourteen, I think it's asking yourself to grow up way too fast. What about an abortion? Can you afford that cost. What about telling your parents? What would they think? Condoms and all that can protect you, but there is still that chance that pregnancy will occur.
So please make an adult decision to a very adult scenario. Sex is great, but there are very serious consequences to it. Love isn't the only requirement. There is also common sense. Do I think you should have sex? No. I don't. I think you should wait for a couple years for when you can actually financially handle what might happen. At a later age, it'll be easier to get the prevention you need for both pregnancy and STD's. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): Hi, I'd like to say if you're in love, go for it..but it all depends on where you live and what the statutory age for consent is. In most countries, 16 years old is the minimum age of consent. This is done to protect children and young adults who aren't necessarily ready for sex and it's possible consequences, so would be advisable to wait if you're only 14.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 I think you should be the responsible one and tell her you are not ready for sex.And you are most probably not. Point out to your girlfriend that men reach their sexual peak at about age 19, and if she is willing to wait for you until then you will give her the time of her life. She will reach her sexual peak in her early thirties, so if she will wait for you, tell you you will then wait for her.Fair exchange?
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