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*arlizzle
writes:Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginity with him, basically neither of us knew what we were doing, I felt uncomfortable and immediately told him to stop. However he didn't, he was 18 and I was essentially raped and ended up in hospital that night. Since then i've had a bf that only lasted 6 months and men that i've liked and seen for a short amount of time. This has mainly been because I need to gain trust to have sex, and it's like a vicious cycle.I've met someone I really like now, and trust, but I'm so embarrassed about the fact i'm 20 and have literally no sexual experience. Obviously i've done other things with men other than sex, but this is the big thing for me. I just get scared and now I feel like i'm so behind knowledge wise with sex that the guy I like will just think i'm weird or something.Please send us your words fo wisdom! I feel kinda trapped :S
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 If it makes you feel any better, I was 24 the first time I had sex! Feel better now? You do?! That's great!
Anyway, as the previous posters have advised, be yourself with this man, if he respects you as he should, he should be glad that you don't have too much experience (this is not a bad thing, this is a great thing!) as you can both learn together, what feels good, what one another like/don't like etc and I know what happened to you was awful, but if you go into a new relationship with trepidition, you will only make it worse for yourself! Relax, relax relax are the keywords! Be yourself, and be honest with him. Good luck!
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reader, pimpdaddy01  +, writes (15 November 2009):
If I had a girfriend i wouldn't care if she had experience or not. I would just feel lucky to have her. By the way I hope you reported that dude that did that to you to the authorities.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 And what exactly do you think sexual experience would teach you? How to do everything just right? A hooker would know that, does he want to date a hooker?
You are still young, it is alright for you NOT to know everything yet. You can learn it, just be open.
I would also suggest telling him what has happened in your past so that he knows to take it slow and that you might get scared.
Frankly, if you read the posts on this forum, then there are more problems with girls having to much sexual experience for the guys taste then to little.
talk to him, so he knows what he is going on, and if he then expect you to be able to perform the kama-sutra from memory, ditch him.
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