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*arlizzle
writes:Hey everyone this si the first time i've posted on here but have always had interesting reads from this site!Ok basically here goes. Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginity with him, basically neither of us knew what we were doing, I felt uncomfortable and immediately told him to stop. However he didn't, he was 18 and I was essentially raped and ended up in hospital that night. Since then i've had a bf that only lasted 6 months and men that i've liked and seen for a short amount of time. This has mainly been because I need to gain trust to have sex, and it's like a vicious cycle.I've met someone I really like now, and trust, but I'm so embarressed about the fact i'm 20 and have literally no sexual experience. Obviously i've done other things with men other than sex, but this is the big thing for me. I just get scared and now I feel like i'm so behind knowledge wise with sex that the guy I like will just think i'm weird or something.Please send us your words of wisdom! I feel kinda trapped :S
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reader, ineedlotsofhelp  +, writes (15 November 2009):
You trust this guy, do you not? Being a virgin myself and about to get married I can't see myself having sex with anyone other than my future wife, who I love dearly and could easily tell if I was scared or wanted to stop. Can't you explain to this guy or your sexual situation? You were abused and any man could understand, for all you know it could end up being a great experience and besides sex comes mainly naturally ;) Don't worry, the more sex you have the less difficult it will become only the first time with someone is scary.
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