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writes:I am a female in my early twenties. I have been told I am attractive. I am slender yet have nice curves, a very noticeable smile and nice long hair. I am educated, intelligent, well mannered and have been told I have a great personality and a fantastic (yet quirky) sense of humor. I have been engaged twice both times in long term loving relationships. I have never had a shortage of male attention. Despite all this I am STILL a virgin. No one will sleep with me! Not even in the long term relationships. When I asked why this was, I got an array of answers- that they wanted to wait or that they felt I wasnt ready etc etcCan someone PLEASE tell me how to get a man to have sex with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): i would stick with a vibrator for now. Almost as much fun and less likely to leave you feeling like rubbish in the morning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Thank you all for your advice. This issue has been on my mind a while now and recently it has started to concern me quite a bit.
I really hope that one day I meet the right guy who will want to be intimate with me, and when that guy comes along I will know that all this wasn't for nothing.
Thank you again for helping me out when I was feeling unsure of myself :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): Sounds like you've been sticking to guys who have full respect for you and take your long-term best interests in mind.
I'm guessing that you didn't wanna start having sex too early so you saved it for a special guy. Then gradually the longer you waited, the more rare & special that it got, and the more the guys were concerned about keeping you from blowing it on them . . .
If you wanna get laid then you just need someone a bit more selfish. That shouldn't be too hard.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (18 November 2009):
 Exactly where in the USA do you live?
In my hometown, it's unheard of to have sex with someone NOT related to you, lol.
Seriously, though, the most important thing is to save sex for the loving relationship. You sound like you have a lot of good qualities, and I'm sure you'll meet someone. You just have to be patient and not settle. When you meet the right person, you'll be glad that you were patient and waited for them.
Perhaps the guys just want to wait until marriage.
I hope you find someone soon. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): If all you want is sex, then go to a bar or night club and pick up a guy. Tell him you only want sex, with no strings attached and you'll get laid.
But... what a sad way to lose your virginity. When you do have sexual intercourse for the first time make sure it is not a one night stand. Make it something special that you can look back upon fondly.
You can always make the first move with a date and see how that goes. If you get your date worked up enough with foreplay, he will want to cum and you will get laid.
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reader, eddy_nicolas  +, writes (18 November 2009):
im in the same situation.
i have been in a long term relationship,but i have still remained a virgin.im 21yrs old.i wouldnt see that as a problem.
i mean sometimes its quite depressive.but dont be worried too much about that.what im thinking is the fact that they didnt feel confident with that fact that you are a virgin.
so that means that they didnt want to be involved seriously.maybe they felt insecure with the fact that you are virgin.which is not your fault!
so,dont be worried about this,you will meet somebody one day who is serious.:)i know that.just be confident and believe in yourself!!!
hope that helped
keep me updated.
good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 November 2009):
You sound like a lovely lady. It's more likely you just haven't found the guy for you. Don't be in a rush, or you'll meet the wrong guy who'll use you and hurt you. Be happy for yourself, and when the right guy comes along, everything will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): maybe you just havnt found the right person yet, im sure it will happen eventually when you love them and they love you, maybe your just givin off unapproachable vibes or somethin xxxxx dont worry xxxx
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reader, HanatoKobato +, writes (18 November 2009):
 ...Honestly my answer is that the guy you picked really wants to wait, it's not you. So I think your doubting yourself here.
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