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Archived questions from: December, 2016 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Do abusers set out to deliberately hurt the self esteem of another?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

31 December 2016 (F) - Are there seriously people who will try to bring down a partners self esteem by making them feel bad about them self is making them feel too old for anyone else to want and not as attractive as other women ( or men ) etc . I ask because I've rec...

Why tell me about this other girl when he knows how I feel? We live in different countries

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

31 December 2016 (F) - My online friend recently changed his bio from in a relationship to single after 3 weeks . I asked him about it and he said that they didn't have social media so that was why. But earlier that week he told me that he wasn't going to tell me their ...

How can I reason with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

31 December 2016 (M) - My girlfriend of 4 years always avoids conflict so we don't argue. That is annoying considering we stay silent rather than face solutions. For example it's New Year's, she is working at her Xmas party till midnight. Because she is working I ca...

Am I over-reacting to the news that my Gf of 8 months failed to tell me (until very recently) that her friend was also her ex ?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

31 December 2016 (M) - My gf of 8 months and i have been hitting it off great, discussing issues that come up. She recently informed me that she had dated one of her friends-- who we've both hung out with at parties on a lot of special events, ie birthdays etc. I was ...

I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 2755 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...

I hate being alone and will do almost anything so that I am not

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - A few weeks ago I posted a question about being reallyyyyyyy sad all the time I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I have everything I need (not to toot my own horn but I have a ver...

Does he possibly still like me? Is it normal behaviour to spend Xmas with your ex and not with a child he fathered?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - Me and my ex split in November 2013 due to him leaving for a new job then couple months later me finding out he met someone he knew and having a kid with her. Which I've asked many times but he will always denie anything. Anyway Feb this yr he r...

I just broke up with my BF and I am upset. Any advice. please?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - I told my boyfriend of almost 7 months that I loved him. He didn't say it back. I asked him why and he said he just doesn't feel that way. And that when he feels it he will let me know. He had a very nice ex girlfriend for two years and he sai...

Does a bruise on my boyfriend's stomach mean he is cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend came home with a noticeable bruise to the right of his belly button last night and this concerns me. We have had rough sex many times but not recently. I asked him where he got it and he said he has no idea and just noticed it himself ...

He is two different boyfriends in one. Mr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He's making me feel scared. what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2864 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - MODNOTE FREE UK resources added by the Moderator: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/if-you-are-a-woman-experiencing-domestic-violence.aspx Phone 0808 2000 247 in UK and http://www.refuge.org.uk/what-we-do/our-services/helpline/ ...

What do I do? Don't want to split up. Yet also don't want a Bf who behaves like a cheater 2.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - hiya everyone me and my fiance have been together for 3 years. A few month ago he started to add women on facebook the women he added were the type of women he said he would like as a girlfriend. I asked him why he was adding them (he hardly uses ...

Why is this happening? He has no time for me. I am fed up and ready to just walk away!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for four years now we have three girls together and now we are having problems because he doesn't involve me in any part of his life what so ever. He doesn't invite me out anywhere when he goes out with his...

I've given her support over the years. But now she seems to have dropped me. Should I just accept her rejection and move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - My friend is mad at me after constantly asking me for advice and not liking my advice. Okay I have this friend from college - we met in class 3 years ago and kept an in-class friendship, we messaged almost every day on Facebook but we live 3 ho...

He lies about money, I am fed up with being his doormat!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

30 December 2016 (F) - I would love your opinions please on whether I am being unfair or judgmental. Me and my husband have been together for 15 years. Over the years I have caught him out in lies over money. About five years ago his aunt passed away, I knew she had left...

He is moving too fast, talking children, houses and marriage. He already has three kids.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - I need some advice I met this guy years ago down the pub via mutual friends he admitted he liked me never felt that same way. He then stopped speaking to me due to new gd etc and now has 3 kids with her who is now an ex September those yr he sees ...

What hope is there for a boyfriendless virgin? I think about sex, a lot. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - Hi so I'm 17 and I'll be 18 this following year. Whilst I've had "situations" or issues with guys I've never had a boyfriend and never had sex. There was a time where I was close to sleeping with a guy I did not even want to be my boyfriend, bu...

Is it possible for men to move on so quickly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - Hi, I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a guy for one year. We had a great relationship until September this year then we started to argue because his behaviour changed towards me and I also fell out with my best friend because I ...

I did the most stupid thing I've ever done. How to repair the damage? How can I make it up to him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - Im an idiot for what i did . Theres 2 guys , one texts a lot and makes a lot of effort through texts the other could make me wait a few days for a reply . the one who texts me a lot i see a future with but he drags his feet wanting to spend ti...

He is clearly lying, but why does he keep doing this? I don't know why??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - I'm so confused!! I was friends with my ex for 3 years and seeing him the last year. The break up was bad as I accused him of seeing someone. He repeatedly denied it but he had lied to me a couple of times previously (just white lies he said...

Is AB more important to my Bf than he implies? I believe he loves me. But I only sharing him with AB?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2890 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and some change. When I left for college he became really close with a female friend( I'll call her AB). I do know her but I don't know her that well because we were never friends we just all kno...

Is it normal for a 69 year old man to have only one topic he wants to talk about, namely his 30 year old divorced daughter. Is it worth continuing this relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2669 days ago

29 December 2016 (F) - I am 54 years old and met a really nice man who is 15 years my senior. He is divorced and has two daughters one aged 34 and the other in her twenties. On our first date he made a toast to his eldest daughters success in getting a promotion. (i...

Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2884 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...

Why has my Boyfriend changed his sexual style to a more conservative one, to the style he favoured previously? Could he be cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2885 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - Hello friends. I have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend. We have always had a good time experimenting with each other sexually. We have a good bond and have connected from the get go. And we have also had stellar chemistry and a gr...

Can our relationship work? we have a baby on the way but the father of the baby has an addiction. Should I break up with him and move back with family?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2885 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - We have a baby on the way and he is addicted to marijuana. I had my own personal addiction to it myself but after realizing I was with child, I don't need it anymore. I want my child to have the extra money instead and to use it to benefit as a fam...

How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

28 December 2016 (M) - I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...

The way he treats me makes me so confused. Can we develop our relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2885 days ago

28 December 2016 (F) - Hi all, I have met a guy on Tinder. He is an expat and will work in my home country for a few months. Yes, I had sex with him on a second time we met but we have not labelled our relationship or even set any rules and agreements between us two. ...

I am having difficulty with my girlfriend's son

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2892 days ago

27 December 2016 (M) - Hi guys, im 8 months into a relationship with my girlfriend and things are goin great with us, we have such a laugh when we are together, but im having a very hard time warming to her 12 year old son who lives with her, sometimes hes fine but most ...

How do I break these patterns in my relationship? Where I find it easier to breakup than to actually work on resolving things in the

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2892 days ago

27 December 2016 (F) - I am in a long distance relationship and for that reason I feel It is not where it would be if I were with the person regularly. I don't feel I can ask him things or I can't tell if it's too soon or if I'm imposing too much on him etc...my default ...

My partner is very into camping and shoes no interest in getting to know my best friend at all! Advice?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2886 days ago

25 December 2016 (F) - Hi. My partner and I have been together for just over two years (2 and a half years in March 2017).. My partner and I are both only children. I'm 23, partner is 22. My partner is fully into camping, 4wding. He goes with just me, or we go w...

How can I try to improve the way my mother communicates with me? Her egotistical ways are not helping.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2892 days ago

25 December 2016 (F) - Hi all, My problem is about my mother, who has very poor communication skills, even in languages that she's really good at. It might be silly but creates big problems mainly because after not having communicated to us properly, she will turn ...

In a committed, passionate, loving relationship. Am I wrong for feeling 'put down' or like a 'one night stand'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2886 days ago

25 December 2016 (M) - Here are the basics in order to fully understand my feelings about this situation: I am a 35 yr old male and she is 34. We have been in a committed relationship for a year now. We have a what we call "remarkable" relationship that truthfully ...

Why do some men say things to their partner the man thinks may sound supportive, and yet concurrently they collect pictures of women and porn?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - I know this might seem a dumb question but it's bothered me in a lot of relationships I've been in as I've noticed most guys seem to do it and think it's no big deal to lie about it . Why do some men say things to their partner like 'you're the only...

I feel fed up not knowing where I stand!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2886 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - I met a guy 4 years ago through a walking group. We were both interested in each other but for some reason we never got together. I told him I liked him and he had some sort of anxiety attack and panicked in front of me saying he wasn't interested ...

Am I behaving like a stalker?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2895 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - Stalkerish or Nah? Ok so..... I'm curious as to what people think. Grateful to anyone who reads this longness.... I just want to give perspective. I dated someone for about the last 7 months..... He was great, we were great, things were coo...

I just found his sex doll, I’m upset! What do I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2887 days ago

24 December 2016 (F) - I just found my boyfriend of 4 yrs silicone sex doll. I haven't had a chance to talk yo him about it bc his mom has been in the hospital but is now coming home. I can't hold it in much longer. I'm upset what do I do?...

Should I just move on? I don't want to be in the way of them remaking a family.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2895 days ago

23 December 2016 (F) - I'm wondering if I'm being over sensitive to my boyfriend's need to "play family" with his ex and his children. Every week it seems, on his week's with the kids, she's over for some reason or another. He kept the house, she cheated on him a...

I'm not going to stop seeing my LDR Bf because a friend doesn't like him. But how do I best handle the situation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

22 December 2016 (F) - I haven't been dating my boyfriend for very long. He treats me well, loves me and cares about me. We are long distance, so most of my friends have not met him. The thing is my best friend got offended by what he posted online because he has d...

Why would my guy friend think I should continue to listen to him talking about his past relationships with other women? What should I say to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

21 December 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid,my guy friend and I have been friends for a while and we wanted to take it to a next level but today we had a little spat it's crazy to me but it's whatever. Long story short he has a thing for high yellow complexed women and that's f...

My Bf has been talking to a younger woman. Where to now? After all I've done for him, why did he do this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

21 December 2016 (F) - Hi I have a BF for 3 years, monogamous relationship. That is what I thought. My Bf has an habit to lie. Lie about small and big things. We are on and off due this because I caught him then he apologized then I forgive then again he lies and so o...

My wife is not interested in group sex. How can I stop having an urge to participate in group sex? I need to stop these urges, but how?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2896 days ago

20 December 2016 (M) - I have always fantasized about group sex. While there is nothing unusual about this, I'mean worried that the degree to which I want it is harmful. My wife and I have been married for twenty years and about a decade ago I decided that it was my o...

How can I prevent my Aunty from showing me up in front of my boyfriend on Christmas Day? Title

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - I've been with my partner for 6 years, and this will be the first time we are spending Christmas with my family. Though my boyfriend has met the rest of my family, this will be the first time he's meeting my aunty. She's actually a really nice pe...

My disappointment and depression are acted out in tirades

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2897 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - I am in a relationship with a man who is rather controlling and kind of immature. However, he won't change since we are older. I realize that to enjoy all the great things about him (and he is a wonderful companion for many reasons) I must develop ...

How can I stop her spreading false rumours ? How can I get her to fess up and tell the truth?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2899 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - I had a friend who I used to be close to some years back. I used to babysit her children when she was in hospital free of charge and generally be helpful. As the years passed the friendship changed. I moved to a more distant area and she rarely ...

I can't take any more with this man

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - Help me please iam getting emontion abused. i have lost nearly 9 stone but he calls me fatty.wobbly and he knows iam hurt by it but laughts and carrys on.does a day go by when he never done it. I do everything for him.he dont seem to be happy unless ...

Girlfriend's bisexual behaviour makes me want to call it quits

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

20 December 2016 (M) - Hi people! I'm seriously lost in a discussion with myself whether I accept it or not, but already when I'm doubting, I already know I don't... Anyhow. My girlfriend and her best friend are both bisexual and they have had a tight relationship as...

What should I do? I feel that he does not want any commitment in our relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

20 December 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid I'm with my current bf for 8 months. When we started he texted often, called often now we barely talk during week days. Though we meet on week ends he do his things like playing games (mostly) or reading about cars or watching shows a...

Why has he turned cold?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2889 days ago

19 December 2016 (F) - I've been friends with benefits with a guy for nearly three years. He not seen anyone else and nor have I. Over the coming months he been kissing my forehead, or holding my hand after sex. Recently we had sex and he we were talking and came over and ...

Why does he do this to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

19 December 2016 (F) - I've been on and off with a guy I've liked for 2 years. But we haven't had sex. I have tried everything with this guy because I really am unsure of his intentions as he has told me he likes me but nothing's changed. He doesn't meet me when he is ...

My boyfriend will not stop going on about an instagram post!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

19 December 2016 (F) - I've completely lost the plot with my boyfriend but I'm not sure if I overreacted. I'm trying really hard to think of things from his point of view but it's difficult. My friend's daughter commented on one of my photos on Instagram that h...

Have I completely disrespected my boyfriend, when I had no intention of doing that?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2898 days ago

18 December 2016 (F) - I went out on an unexpected night out with a work friend on Friday. We thought we'd just get a bite to eat and a few drinks after work but we ended up having one too many and never got home until 2:30am. We had dinner and went to a few bars. ...