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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2847 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...

Will I ever move on, get over everything and meet someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Hello everyone, I hope you're all well. So basically I feel and think that I will seriously never meet anyone who I feel a close connection and chemistry with. A few years ago was the worst time of my life. I had no confidence and was very u...

I still have feelings for him. He still feels the attraction too. But now he's living with another girl. How can we go forward with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Long story but need advice. In 2013, I dated a guy for a few months. I really, really liked him but he was very keen to make the relationship official (telling everyone), which at the time I wasn't ready for, mostly because I was really poor at t...

I don't want to have a relationship with him but I'd like him as a friend.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2854 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - Me and my ex (who i've known my entire life) split up a year ago because he started to treat me bad and was showing signs of unfaithfulness. However, a year on me and him were supposedly over the relationship and he requested that we be friends. We ...

I kissed Max on the cheek and Mark thinks I cheated!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - Hi, me and this boy have known each other for around 3 years now. Lets say his name is mark, me and mark have been quite good mates. The other day he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I told him not to tell anyone we were together ...

Why is he checking on his ex flings FB page after she unfriended him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2855 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - Something happened a few months ago with my husband and an "ex-fling" of his. I was there when the incident occurred and it was just a bit of drunk stupidity on his part, which we are both fine with in our relationship - it was a private message ...

I feel I have lost my future ....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Last week i split with my boyfriend of 2 years . Yesterday my friend shocked me with some news , she joined a dating site for single parents as she is one, i helped her set up her account and started looking at profiles and thats when i saw my now ...

He gave me deadline to talk to my ex and when things didn't work out he ended things with me

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - I need help to figure out who is the wrong one here. I'm 39 divorced and have a 10 years old daughter. My relationship with my ex is peaceful and it's just because we have a child together. I started dating for the first time, 3 years after divorce, ...

Wife friended EX on Facebook and it has caused issues in our marriage

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2860 days ago

24 January 2017 (M) - One evening my wife was typing on her smartphone because she got a message on Facebook. It turned out, an ex-boyfriend wanted to friend her and she asked if it was OK. I asked her if he knew she was married and she said it was on her profile, so I ...

Should we talk things over or let him go ? His lies and his baby Mama have helped drive us apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

24 January 2017 (F) - MODNOTE: two near identical questions combined with additional material from the second question combined below with the first question . . . . . . . . . Dear Cupid Am a 40 year old female with two children from my previous marriage. When I los...

I feel inadequate!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2856 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...

I need to let go of the past. Can someone give me some advice on how to do that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2864 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - Me and my significant other have been in a relationship for 5 months, however, I've been in love with her (the love was for the most part unrequited) for about 3 years. We've started to plan a future with each other. But recently, we dis...

My boyfriend and his ex are now talking every day and I am not comfortable with it

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2861 days ago

21 January 2017 (F) - Hi there. Well something is bothering me and I don't know if it's ok for me to be upset or not. About a week ago, my boyfriends ex girlfriends grandmother died. Her and him haven't really spoken for the last year or so. But she called him to let him ...

Is he not telling the truth in an effort to not hurt me? I'd rather he tell me the truth.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2863 days ago

20 January 2017 (F) - In 2013 my partner and me split up, he met someone else become engaged and ended up having a little girl with his new gf, which is completely understandable. I only found out due to my friend seeing them both out and about, with her other chil...

Should I support my ex? I feel angry and ashamed of succumbing to his desperation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2866 days ago

19 January 2017 (F) - My ex and I were together for 2 years but in the end it became unhealthy and toxic. He became verbally abusive and was flirting online with other girls which made me depressed and anxious. In the end I had to go ‘no contact’ in an attempt to get ...

How can I get my current Gf to trust me? I've not cheated on her. But I did cheat on my ex.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

18 January 2017 (M) - I cheated on my first love two years ago with my current girlfriend. I broke up with my first love to set her free from my cheating ways. I still love her and check her social media accounts to see how she's doing but I never told her I cheated wh...

Is there any way I can change his perceptions about me? How should or could I attract him back to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2866 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - Its been 50 days. My boyfriend broke up with me.. It was all my fault. Its been 2 years. For 1 year we were together when i was working ..but from last 1 year we are in long distance. I live with my parents and i am jobless. My career is ...

Is he using me? He's spending more time with his ex than he spends with me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

18 January 2017 (F) - I'm going out with this bloke on and off for over a year now, but what gets to me is he spends most off his time at his ex's house. He says he's there for kids but half of the time the children are not there. He leaves at 8:00 in morning and ...

Am I assuming too much? Should just leave now, as he resembles some qualities of my ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2869 days ago

17 January 2017 (F) - Modnote: Two very similar posts started off the same and were from the same poster. The two have been combined herein. without repeating the identical start . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . So I have been going out with this guy for...

Logically I know it doesn't matter, but I am struggling with my Girlfriend's past!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

16 January 2017 (M) - I know a lot of you are going to say this is just another guy with hang-ups and insecurities suffering from hypocritical retrospective jealousy – and to a certain extent you may be right – but I really am desperate to fix this (fix myself?), so ...

Is she his EX? Is my BF being honest to me? He seems very emotionally connected to his woman he says he is helping due to the woman's health issues

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2868 days ago

16 January 2017 (F) - About almost TWO years ago, my boyfriend who is 37 years old asked me (28 years old) to do him a favour and to please call his female ”friend” (27 years old) to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can ...

He is still under her thumb. What can I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2870 days ago

15 January 2017 (F) - Hello, I am slightly put off and rather upset at the moment. I live in a small town with my boyfriend of almost six years, and he... Well he is always dragging me over to his ex's place, making me spend the night, doing all her "to do" lists, and ...

I think I am pregnant and the dad has disappeared.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2869 days ago

15 January 2017 (F) - Well. I met a guy months ago. We went out 3 times. At the 2nd one we had sex. I was the one who brought the sexual topic to the conversation. After sex we had sex once more. And the condom didn't work. I think I'm probably pregnant. He started ...

Am I reading this situation right, or am I over reacting?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2867 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - Please help me understand if I'm overreacting. Here is some backgrounds, I'm 40, divorced, have a kid and started dating online.I don't like to date few people at once so I focused on the first guy that I started talking to. He is 42 single, highly ...

I asked before and followed advise but nothing works

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2870 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - I have written here before asking for advice and I tried to take th advice but I'm still feeling the urge and fighting so hard to be happy - I can't seem to get over my ex- it's been close to a year - it was a short relationship and he wasn't let's ...

People changing their minds about crushing on you years later...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2870 days ago

14 January 2017 (M) - When someone turns you down romantically or makes no time for your friendship, then years later they see you again. Suddenly, like nothing has happened they are all over you, and suddenly attracted you. Do you give them a chance or leave them? ...

I am worried about letting my daughter's father back into her life.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2862 days ago

14 January 2017 (F) - Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...

Could it be her using fake profiles?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

13 January 2017 (M) - I would like your opinions about what has happened four times in the last four months, i have been on a dating site for few years now, I've had two girlfriends,so the one ghost me a year ago, I've ask a few women friends of mine about this, well I ...

I love him but he's still not over her. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2872 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - I am in love with my boyfriend who is my first love, boyfriend, and overall first (in everything). However I am not his. This normally wouldn't bother me as much as it does, but his first was so significant to him that I'm not sure what my ...

Is it ok to masturbate?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1382 days ago

12 January 2017 (M) - Being a sportsperson I masturbate , is it okay to do it? I have heard it decreases stamina etc..just please help ....

I've got an ex husband, an ex fiance and a new guy who all want me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2873 days ago

12 January 2017 (F) - I'm 39 divorced and had been dating someone for 3 years. I knew him from university.He lives in another country. We became engaged. I have gone through a lot for this long distance relationship to make it work. I applied for a fiancé visa for him ...

He has lied and I don't know why

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2874 days ago

11 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend has lied to me about how serious an ex relationship was but I don't know why. He said he and the girl were just friends and they flirted a bit but that was it however while over at his house a few days ago I found an old valentines c...

How can I stop him bringing up my ex'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2874 days ago

11 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend constantly keeps on about my past. I'm 4 years older than him and had a long-term relationship with someone else before we met. He's only ever really had flings and more casual relationships before me. We've been together 4 years but ...

Should I tell my ex that feelings have resurfaced for him even though we are both married to others?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2875 days ago

10 January 2017 (F) - Hi guys! My ex-partner and I separated amicably over a decade ago, and keep in contact and remain friendly towards one another for the sake of our fifteen year old daughter, whom we co-parent. Our relationship, which lasted for about eight years, f...

I'm not sure if I should hang in there or let it go ...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2874 days ago

10 January 2017 (M) - Hello everyone, I'm not sure where to begin? I came out of a very bad relationship. I try not to say anything negative about anyone, but imagine the worst things you can do and she pretty much did it. This ended about a year ago. I met...

How should I act towards him for the best outcome?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2876 days ago

9 January 2017 (F) - A while ago I kissed someone from work who I had liked for a while. He told me he had feelings for me and we began texting. -But then later said because his ex works at the same place nothing could happen. And then kissed a different co wor...

I still think he cares. How can I convince him that I am fine? Or should I even try?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2874 days ago

9 January 2017 (F) - I was in a five year relationship with a man I loved. He lived with me in my home and we did everything together. We saw a counselor together because we had broken up in the past. In one session the counselor made some comment about my memory ...

My crazy abusive ex got a job where I work.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2876 days ago

9 January 2017 (F) - I was in a emotionally abusive relationship for years. I finally had the strength to get away. For years, the cycle was that she would do something horrific to me, and then break up with me. We would proceed not to speak for a while until she ...

Boyfriend lost his job, became depressed and now won't speak to me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2876 days ago

9 January 2017 (F) - I'm in a pretty bad situation. I dated a guy for 6 months long distance and were very serious- he met my family, I spoke to his, our parents talked- we were on the marriage track. 4 months into it he told me that he was unemployed. It threw me for a ...

My abusive ex is dating again. Would it be weird or wrong if I warn his new Gf about him?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2876 days ago

8 January 2017 (F) - Hello all, Ok here's the short situation I was married have two kids with the guy. He cheated and abused me verbally and physically. We ended up getting a divorce and I'm finally free of him. He is living in another county now. He does n...

I don't feel good that my husband talks to his ex behind my back! What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2850 days ago

6 January 2017 (F) - I have been cheated on in the past and I just can't stop with snooping. I've talked to my husband about it but I just keep finding him communicating with his ex and he deletes them right away. I just saw that he told her I don't like them keeping in ...

What should I do about my ex-partner and eventually getting him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2877 days ago

6 January 2017 (F) - How do I get my ex boyfriend back?? I was with him for one year but friends for years before that. I have previously been in an abusive relationship(6 years ago) The partner at the time lied and lied to me that he wasn't cheating, to the point...

I've fallen for my friend's ex! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2877 days ago

5 January 2017 (F) - I have fallen in love with my friend's ex. What should I do? I have been crushing on him for just over a year now and can't stop thinking about him, they broke up about 2 and a half years ago and she is in a relationship with this new guy who she ...

The phone messages he's been receiving from her do bother me. But how do I raise the issue with my husband?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2877 days ago

5 January 2017 (F) - Hello I am a woman in my late 20's who has been married for 2 years. I have a problem and don't know how to handle it. My husband back when we were first dating over 4 years ago had cheated on me with a woman he was friends with at a drunken par...

She's broken up with her girlfriend and I've always thought we could have something special together, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

5 January 2017 (F) - Yesterday I bumped into an old friend, someone I haven't seen much of this past year, but someone I have always, since we first met, had very strong feelings for. In the entire time that I have known her she has always had a long-term girlfriend, ...

He is using me as his "get out" clause.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

4 January 2017 (F) - So basically me ex fiancé who I have a son with told me that he would stop seeing the girl he's talking to if I had an issue with her and her being around my son. He doesn't seem partically happy about them talking they hardly ever see each oth...

Why did he tell me about his ex wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2880 days ago

4 January 2017 (F) - I like a guy I work with and have been getting closer to him. We've known each other for a few years now but before I was very shy. We have a bit of an age difference so that made me a bit more hesitant as I wasn't sure if he would be interested. ...

Are my dreams of him significant?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

3 January 2017 (F) - i have reoccurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend who left me after 12 years and married someone else but always called and drop by unexpected. he passed away 3 years ago and I still have dreams about seeing him and his wife together. a few days ...

Is my jealousy justified?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2882 days ago

2 January 2017 (M) - Hello aunts. I am writing this because I really need help with a recent situation that I am just not handling well. Thanks in advance. First, some background. I'm 30 and I met my current wife two years ago in a business dinner. We flirted a bit an...

What I want to know is, if he is seeing my ex best friend then would he really want to stay friends and in touch with me when there is a good chance I would eventually find out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2883 days ago

2 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend of one year an I split up 8 weeks ago. We split because I thought he was seeing my best friend....I still do. He has ALWAYS sworn that he never had and never would have anything to do with her and that one day I will see that. He tells...