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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

His ex best girl friend is back on the scene- should I be worried

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend now For a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterda...

Haven't had a response back -- how should I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I dated this lovely man for a three months and we broke up in June. I was quite devastated as he was the one who pursued me and told me he was in love with me. I really adore him as a person but at the time he was very stressed out with his new ...

Am I being a bad friend? I have a crush on her ex. But she has said that she likes him, but will never get back with him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3665 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I have recently had sex with a guy and I'm starting to really like him, however he is one of my closest friends ex boyfriend.. I told her I kissed him once at a party and she didn't seem bothered at all but she also told me, weeks after that, that...

Ex wants me back but is still somewhat emotionally unavailable. What gives??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I was with my ex for about 4 years. We broke up around 4 months ago due to constant fighting. I was nagging and complaining about not being treated very well and as a result he'd push me farther away. The more I tried to work things out, the worse ...

I think of him and his ex having sex and it makes me feel wierd

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - my boyfriend wants to have sex. so do i. i really love him. weve been in a relationship for five months now. the thing is, im a virgin. hes had sex with his ex girlfriend and i knew her before we got together. every time he brings up sex, i think of ...

After her meeting with her ex I don't trust her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - Hey guys, My relationship it was going great, we understood each other very well. She loves me but her x-bf is irritating her. He still thinks that they're together but they're not. We study in the same college and I went home for a week. She had ...

Slept with my ex whilst drunk, but he's dating my friend.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Hello, Around 9 months ago, I got drunk and slept with an ex boyfriend. It was a complete mistake - the relationship ended badly and it was one of the first times we'd hung out alone since we broke up. Ended up having way too much to drink, gettin...

I have bad feelings about her ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3666 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Hello, My girlfriend is bisexual, but tells me she is only bi for Daniel Craig, which is fine haha. I am a lesbian by the way. Anyway the thing is she is still best friends with her ex boyfriend and every time I see him, hear his name or any of...

My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I woul...

I worry this ex-girlfriend will try to hook up with my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend is having a small house party with his three close friends (one is his male best friend, one is his super hot ex girlfriend and the other is a family friend he's known all his life and who has a boyfriend, I was invited too but my ...

My parents need me to get in contact with my ex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have an issue. My mom and dad need me to get in contact with my ex. My ex and I dated last year, and it was a horrible, horrible relationship. He broke my heart, and made my life miserable. By far, the worst relationship I ever had. He left me ...

My ex was friendly but then he sent me a really nasty email and deleted me. Was this the work of his girlfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Slightly confused tonight. My ex and I broke up about 8months ago and we both have new partners. We kept in touch, but hardly spoke really - when he did speak to me he would try and get me to meet him or would he would speak about how much he ...

Why did my ex boyfriend disappear instead of properly breaking up with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I decided to ask this question because I'm just curious about it. Earlier this year, I was in a relationship (4 months, not very long) with someone I met on a dating site. I'm 19 and he was 22. He was very strange and there were many red flags, a...

I have strong feelings for her. She says we're not compatible. How do I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - Dear Cupid I am a 46 year old man, after being out of the dating scene for a very long time I met this gorgeous 48 year old lady at work. We got talking initially I asked her out and she declined stating that she was in a complicated relation...

Why is my ex happier with his new girl?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me last month after a year together. We had a baby before he left as well. Two weeks after our break up he got with a really young girl. Our relationship was not good. He was always at the bar, drunk, doing drugs, ...

Should he still be friends with her on Facebook?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - I just found out my boyfriend is friends on Facebook with a girl he had a one night stand with while we were split up for a period last year. It probably shouldn't be a big deal but she just commented on his status and it really bothered me. It gave ...

Is my girlfriend unhappy in our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3639 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - Hey guys! Just a quick question, I am in a same sex relationship, have been for 7months. My gf has a young child with an ex guy she was with for 7 years. Anyways I saw a text on her phone from her asking this ex if "she had let herself go?" The...

Why does my ex randomly email every few months?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3654 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - My ex boyfriend will randomly email about every few months or so and has done so for about four years. If this four years we only dated about 5 months. We kept getting back together off and on, but I would be faced with the same issues that I left ...

What is the best way to handle a Bf who keeps on looking up Ex Gfs ? He makes me feel as if I am not good enough for him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - Hello, I am seeking for some help and advice on a situation that has totally damaged me.. I have a boyfriend that I have been dating for 2 years but we have dated before this two year relationship as well. This 2 year relationship has came ac...

He's like drug, I can't help myself, so does this mean he is the one using me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - What's wrong with me? Iv been seeing this guy for 2 years now. Hes 21 and I'm 25. Everything has been great moved in.together its good. Recently a old friend with benefits got in contact, saying he really wanted/needed to see me. I have known him ...

Whenever he said her name or showed me her photo, I could feel the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - Recently, a high school friend of my husband's has contacted him. He has had female friends before and works with lots of women, which I've never had an issue with so I'm certainly not the jealous type, but this woman gives me a funny feeling. ...

Is it okay for my girlfriend to sleep in another guy's bed?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

21 October 2014 (M) - I just recently started dating someone new and she has had a lot of friends that are guys most of which state she's hooked up with or has had sex with in the past two weeks ago she slept over at her friends house which was a guy in the same bed and ...

How do I get over my bitterness toward my ex-husband?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - I am so bitter about how financially successful my ex husband is. Ex and I were married six years. It was not a good marriage. He is a very selfish individual, verbally and emotionally abusive, and non committal. I stayed with him because I loved ...

After enduring so many personal difficulties I now discover the man I've started seeing is HIV positive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi everybody. Please don't judge me, I feel horrible enough. I just want some advice and opinions please. I have had a difficult last ten years probably. My father had an affair and as a result of that my mother and father divorced. They a...

A friend thinks I have a crush on her ex but I don't

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Ok, so i have a crush on this girl 'S', but she knows and now she has decided she hates me. There is another girl, 'A', who is one of both mine and 'S's best friend. Now she thinks i have a crush on her and told a couple of people this, includin...

I'm worried about boyfriend using an old flings photos to get off on

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi Just looking for advice. My boyfriend once admitted to me that he occasionally (one every week or two) masturbates to a handful of girls he knows - one of these girls he slept with a couple of times a few years ago. But they've known each oth...

Do I accept the offer from my ex? Or continue to put up with my Bf ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I will try and keep things factual! I have a bf who I have been seeing for 4 years, we don't live together but there is a strong feeling of love between us. He tried to move in last year but I stopped him because I wasn't ready. partly because ...

Boyfriend's ex is contacting him and he's stopped telling me and is deleting texts. Why??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hello, Ive asked a question about this situation before but there has since been developments therefore i need further advice. My boyfriend of 2 years met up with a friend back in august. This friend wasnt just a friend it was some who he live...

Was it strange that my Bf's Ex was checking me out on FB and discovered that I'd blocked her? Then she rang my Bf to ask why I did that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have had a couple of discussions about his ex. She is gorgeous (I thought she was pretty but reasonably average but his friends and him seem to think she's the hottest thing in the world). I ha...

Does it mean anything that my boyfriend's family still have photos of his ex in their home?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3669 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I stayed with my boyfriend at his parents place recently. We have been living together along with another couple for a year and together for two years. I went to put some clothes away in a drawer for him and found a photo of him with his ex girlf...

Am I overreacting to the photo of his ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my partner for two years and his ex girlfriend has been an issue for a lot of that time. This isn't a recent ex, if it were I could maybe understand, but a woman he split up with 10 years ago, they don't have children or never ...

Still hung up on a guy from my past?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3658 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - Hey, so, I'm having a little bit of an issue with a guy that I used to have a crush on from earlier this year. Sorry if this is a tad lengthy, but I promise I'll make it a good read. Back to last August, I was dating this one guy that I really c...

He says that he loves me only after a month of dating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - {Moderator note: two related questions from the same OP combined} Hey, so, I'm feeling a little out of sorts. I've been dating this guy for a little over a month now, and he said that he loves me. I was completely shocked, and I didn't really f...

He has a tattoo of his ex. And he kisses it. Does this mean he's still in love with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend had a tattoo of his ex inked on him a long time ago, when they were together. They haven't been together for a long time now and my boyfriend and I have been together going on 2yrs. I constantly see him kissing or looking at his e...

Was a wrong to contact a women to see if her baby was my boyfriends ?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I recently found out that a few months before my boyfriend met me he had an affair with a married women . I found old text messages he still had on his iPhone with nude pics they sent each other. he admitted he slept with her but didn't know she was ...

Why is he contacting me again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I met my ex on a dating site about a year ago....we dated for about 4 months and broke up at the beginning of this year because he kept doting over another woman and I became tired of hearing about her. Since then, I have seen him back on the same...

We've broken up but my ex still supports me financially

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I am going through break up. It will be two weeks on Sat. Despite everything he and I have gone through, and the wrong I feel he does, I still very much care for him and would like it to work. We would have a lot to work on. He was complete...

I'm confused by what my ex's intentions are?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3679 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - Hi I am just writing for some kind of advice as I am confused by the way my ex is contacting me. To cut a long story short we had been friends since school after he joined the army. A few years later we got back in touch we ended up texting ...

Do I marry him? Or go with the reality that sometimes love isn't enough?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - I am very torn as to going through with marrying my fiance. My fiance is a wonderful man-he is a great Father to his kids and Father figure to mine. He treats me amazingly well, and is just honest, kind, etc-all the good stuff. However, he has...

She never got rid of the explicit pictures of her ex! Do I just throw them away or confront her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

14 October 2014 (M) - I have a question. My wife and I are together 7 years married for 5. When we moved in together she had some pictures of an ex boyfriend. I was fine with some of them but there was 1 where they were kissing and a few of him in various states o...

I'm in a new relationship. But how do I stop being so untrusting anxious that he'll leave me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that don...

My ex keeps on telling me how unhappy he is, yet he does nothing about it. How can I motivate him to do something about his unhappiness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - I've been seeing my ex for about a year now. He is married after our breakup. Long story. Anyway he tells me how unhappy he is but still does nothing about it. I've asked him to fix things around my house but always has excuses. He did watch m...

Torn between my ex husband and the other guy. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - I am torn between my ex husband and my new guy. Here is the story, My life overal was not too bad but I have been unhappy from some issues which my ex wouldn't do anything about it. The main issue was him being over passive and his family over ...

What should I do to make our relationship stronger after I rejected him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We are just getting back together after a rough break up. I initiate the break up but then I realize that's the biggest mistake I've ever made. He's going to propose and marry me next year and I ...

Worried over my boyfriend's relationship with his girl best friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3686 days ago

10 October 2014 (F) - I just started dating a guy who's in his early 20's as well. He has a best friend whom he befriended for just over a year, who's a girl, who's his ex-housemate and someone who he was attracted to. The girl and I happen to stay in the same town. He ...

Her ex is traveling 300 miles to take her to the theatre!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3687 days ago

9 October 2014 (M) - my wife died about six months ago and i have been seeing another widow of four years who really likes me and we have had sex which is not the problem, about nine months after she was widowed she took up with a chap who lives about 150 miles away and ...

Seeing my ex has brought up all these feelings of being an oddity, help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3688 days ago

7 October 2014 (F) - Its probably a bad idea to ask for advice on this subject but I'll give it a go. I know its silly but I would like some opinions. I am going to be 18 in a couple of months and about 3 weeks a go something really weird ha...

I'm still thinking of my ex even as I'm worried about developing feelings for my potential FWB! Advice?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

7 October 2014 (F) - Hi! :) hey... I really need your advise on something that's been bothering me almost this whole year...I've asked people but most of them just brush my issue away,and advise me to just move on..but its not an easy thing to do...so please do help me ...

My boyfriend spends more time with his ex than he does with me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

7 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time with his ex girlfriend. This has been going on since they split up a year ago. I tried to be tolerant of the situation as I didn't want to control his life. I did however bring it up with him once an...

We want different things but I keep going back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

7 October 2014 (F) - I keep going back and forth with my ex. Every time I say I'm done, boom, a few weeks later I'm back at his apartment. He has told me that he does not want a relationship right now and isn't ready to get back together. He claims needs to figure out ...