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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, so, I'm having a little bit of an issue with a guy that I used to have a crush on from earlier this year. Sorry if this is a tad lengthy, but I promise I'll make it a good read.Back to last August, I was dating this one guy that I really cared about. He was the only guy I ever had a very strong connection with, but unfortunately he didn't feel the same. He ended up leaving me for a girl who lived 9 hours away (he met her on a chat room). When I tried to fix the situation, I only made it worse, and I ended up very depressed. I went on an online dating website to prove to myself, that I'm worth much more than what I went through. I was on there for about a week, until my ex came crawling back. So, we dated for another 2 months until we hit another road block, another woman, and I went back on to that dating site. Eventually things got so bad that we just couldn't be together. We ended our relationship in January, because he left me for another girl, his "friend", again and I was devastated. Again.So, on that dating site, I ended up talking to a very nice guy. He was cute, he was funny, and mainly he was mature. We were talking for about 3 weeks until we decided to webcam, and then a week later we went on a date. There was not one dull moment about our date. He was funny, and very charming. Time passed too quickly. But through it all, I was still hurting from my ex.About 2 weeks go by, and this online guy and I were still hitting it off really well to the point where he wanted to go out. But things got crazy with my ex. To the point where he was stalking me, trying to get me to come back. And even going so low as to bringing the girl he left me for to my school and bragging about how happy they were. I was so stressed out and depressed, I got too scared to continue with the online guy. And I really regret it.So, after about a month of things ending with my ex for the FINAL time, I blocked him out of my life for good, I contacted the online guy again, hoping to rekindle since then I knew I was done with my ex. But the online guy already moved on, he was in another relationship. Which I don't blame him!Months went by, and I still can't stop thinking about him. I tried to text him, but I don't want to ruin anything he has with somebody else.Now, I'm in another relationship, and things are decent. But just last week, the online guy texted me "Hey, how've you been?" I replied, but never heard from him since then. Now, I really want to talk to him.How can I get over him? Or should I try to just be friends?
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 November 2014):
 I don't think you are being very fair to the man you are with. Make your mind up and stop wondering whether to change horses mid stream. You could end up messing three lives up.
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