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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I stayed with my boyfriend at his parents place recently. We have been living together along with another couple for a year and together for two years. I went to put some clothes away in a drawer for him and found a photo of him with his ex girlfriend in his draw. There was also a photo of her pinned up on his sister's bedroom wall. I understand that the sister is her own person and allowed to be friends with the ex if she wants but I've tried hard to be friends with her and while she's always been polite she doesn't really seem to want anything to do with me. The photo in the drawer came as a big shock too. It made me a bit uncomfortable but I haven't mentioned it cos it's really none of my business. Do you think it means anything?
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reader, Delirium  +, writes (27 October 2014):
 Probably no big deal. You found 2 pictures total and only the one in the sisters room (who is actively friends with her I'm assuming) was on display. I don't know why there was a photo in the dresser, was there anyone else in the photo besides your boyfriend and his girlfriend (maybe like a grandma?), maybe it was a special occasion (graduation, a family reunion, etc.), or maybe his mom just put it there and forgot about it. When I met my boyfriend's stepsisters for the first time they accidentally called me by boyfriend's ex's name. They felt embarrassed, and we all had a good laugh about it. Now 4 years later I'm in their holiday photos (even though I tried to stay out they insisted I be in them, now if my boyfriend and I split up they are going to have me stuck in so many photos I wouldn't be surprised if some never got thrown out). There is probably nothing for you to worry about. You are his girlfriend, it is what he thinks of you that matters, and it's not like you live with his parents anyway. As for his sister, you can be polite and friendly but don't worry about trying to force a friendship between you. His sister doesn't HAVE to become your best bud.
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