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*gnorantlove
writes:I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that dont live with me and am 4 months pregnant. Not his baby but the guy i was seeing before this current one who is currently fighting deportation In custody. We get along real good but he resently told me told me to do him a favor and not post his name in any of my fb posts. I never would post anything that would be recognized as us being a couple because my last baby daddy would go postal. But he said that his gf baby momma would see it and now she doesn't answer his texts. I knew about the gf and her being prego. But it really hurt my feelings. I like him a lot and he is ccool to my kids and great to me but i dont know if he will just leave me with no contact when his baby is born. I asked him in a text if i could keep him forever but he didn't reply. But he has said that the new baby i am having isnt body elses but his and mine. So i dont know what to do. He even told me that he loved me first. And calls me his girl friend. So how can i stop being so paranoid about him leaving me? Not just for his unborns mom or doing me wrong like my exs used to do. By lying about where they were going and found out he went to sleep with 2 different girls. This current bf hasnt done this to me that i know of but i always think it will happen eventually. please i need some advice.
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reader, ignorantlove +, writes (16 October 2014):
ignorantlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all. You are right about me needing to focus on my kids and not this new man.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (15 October 2014):
This isnt your issue here. You have 4 kids that you dont have custody of and you are pregnant with a 5th whose father may not even be in the country by the time you give birth. Concentrate on these important things, this guy already has a pregnant girlfriend that he should be focusing on.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 October 2014):
Easy: just accept the fact that there are 3 billion guys in the world and if one treats you like crap there's 2,999,999,999 more. A jerk isn't worth crying over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2014): "So how can i stop being so paranoid about him leaving me?"You can't, given that you have chosen to live with a guy who you know already has one pregnant girlfriend.I can only assume his current living arrangement is to his material and/or financial benefit so he's telling you what you want to hear while keeping your existence a secret from his baby mama. Considering your current circumstances, you have much more to be concerned about than whether or not you can continue clinging to your lying, cheating, freeloading new boyfriend.
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