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writes:I just found out my boyfriend is friends on Facebook with a girl he had a one night stand with while we were split up for a period last year. It probably shouldn't be a big deal but she just commented on his status and it really bothered me. It gave me that sick, sinking, jealous feeling all over again. I assumed he would have unfriended her once we patched things up since he said he deleted her number from his phone. Should I just let it go?
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reader, Staceily +, writes (25 October 2014):
 I don't find it appropriate to be friends with a woman he had a one night stand with during your break. However, he may not think anything of it or may not realize her being a 'friend' is a big deal since it's just Facebook. I think you should tell him it makes you uncomfortable that she is still a friend on Facebook. Hopefully he will offer to delete her as a friend on his own once he realizes it bothers you. Since he deleted her phone number I don't imagine he will care too much. This isn't out of your place to tell him she bothers you, it is completely reasonable and understandable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2014): Yes, he knew her before. I guess you could say they were friends/acquaintances (she had hooked up with at least one of his friends prior). I trust that nothing will happen again between them but I'm bothered by the fact that this means they're staying connected in some way. My first instinct is to tell him it bothers me and ask him to delete her but I don't know if it's my place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2014): Yes, he knew her before. I guess you could say they were friends/acquaintances (she had hooked up with at least one of his friends prior). I trust that nothing will happen again between them but I'm bothered by the fact that this means they're staying connected in some way. My first instinct is to tell him it bothers me and ask him to delete her but I don't know if it's my place.
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reader, franny1297  +, writes (24 October 2014):
 Don't worry, do you think he knew this person before? In all honesty, it's just Facebook, a social networking site, he loves you and you should trust him. So much rubbish happens there and why are you jealous? are you jealous that the one night stand will ruin everything, because it probably meant nothing. He's probably only friends on FB with this person just to be nosey and to see what she'll do after that. Besides, he wouldn't have got back with you if he didn't love you, would he. If anything, she should be the jealous one, not you.And if in the end, he happens to be with you just to make someone else jealous, then he's not worth it - but i doubt it's this reason. The last piece of advice i can give you is to grow up a little bit - because it's only Facebook, not reality. So come to terms with this please.I'm happy you two are together again, don't let anything negative come your way.Best wishes, Anonymous xoxo
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 October 2014):
 No, he should not . but I don't see FB as a placeto be anything on anyway. best left to the kiddos.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2014): You can say it makes you uncomfortable they're friends and that it's inappropriate, I'm sure he would delete her.
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